(Phatforums News / Match.com) — My little brother is not so little — he’s 30. But I’ll always be his “big sis” (to his chagrin, I’m sure), and I still give him advice on everything from finances to furniture. One day he was lamenting that he wasn’t getting great results with online dating. That made me wonder: He was cute, employed and had a heart of gold… what was the problem? “No one ever emails me back,” he said with a shrug.
Being the nosy big sister I am, I decided to dig a little deeper. What was his profile like? What kind of emails was he sending out? I knew there was more to the story than he was letting on.
Since I write about relationships for a living and can provide a woman’s perspective, I felt I was in the unique position to help a brother out. So I made this offer: I would be my brother’s online dating coach for two weeks. He actually had to implement my suggestions for those 14 days. At the end of the two weeks, I guaranteed he’d have at least one date or he’d get a fancy dinner on me. What did he have to lose? He reluctantly agreed. Game on!
Tailor your emails
The problem: The first thing I checked when he signed in to his profile was his sent mail. Appalling! Most contained two words: “Your hot.” Um, DELETE. The sentiment was lame at best, and the error of using “your” for “you’re” was unacceptable. I explained that he would never get a girl’s attention this way — he was sending out the equivalent of spam.