The Player is not beyond reproach or rejection. I won’t sit here and claim that every one of my techniques works for every guy out there. I’m not going to boast of the single highest success rate in recent history, and if I do enjoy good success in the realm of sex and dating it’s due to a dash of charm, a dollop of charisma and a whole lot of experience. In other words, there have been many conquests, but in order to scale those mountains one must experience some painful falls. The key is to learn from those falls; so, the next time you encounter a particularly tough cliff, you won’t slip and plummet to yet another embarrassing failure. By now, I am confident and secure enough to pass along some of my own mistakes for your benefit. Pay attention and your success rate just might equal mine someday.
Overuse the same technique
After coming off a series of successful weeks, I ran into this extremely cute girl at the bar who was clearly interested but also more cautious than the previous few cuties who had temporarily adorned my bedspread. Thinking I was on a roll and that all girls would respond to a certain amount of well-played confidence (even cockiness) and forward-thinking, I employed the same tactic with this new girl and came up empty-handed.

Solution: Always be fluid and adapt.
It’s one of the most common mistakes among pickup artists to believe that one particular style, approach or technique will work with all — or even the majority of — women. There are two problems with this: Firstly, it lessens your creativity and inventiveness because you’re not experimenting enough with new ideas; secondly, it basically typecasts you. Women talk among themselves and you could gain a reputation very, very quickly. I always observe first and then settle upon a course of action.
Push too hard, too fast
While I’m usually good at targeting the girls who suit my style — those who can match me stride for stride in an early sprint — I once made the mistake of pushing too hard when I didn’t necessarily have the green light. I had the requisite attention and even interest, but she wasn’t prepared to shell out after the first date and I misread the situation and offered to bring her back to my place. She said, quite simply, that it was “too fast” and that was it. She didn’t call back.

Learning from past mistakes is essential if you want to become the ultimate Player… Solution: Go by her pace
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that a man really can’t dictate the pace before receiving the “go” signal. You may find a woman who’s clearly ready to get down and dirty with little in the way of wooing, but she had better have her tongue down your throat before you come to that conclusion. If she wants it, she’ll most certainly let you know; you can work toward that goal, but don’t make her feel uncomfortable. A Player is all about respect and even deference. So, early on, tread the sexual path she walks. Once you have that “go” signal, then you really can dictate the sexual pace and fulfill her every lustful desire.
Ignore her friends
Girls almost always travel in packs in the bars and nightclubs, and although it can be tough to carefully extract the one who has caught your attention, I’m usually effective. However, one night, this one dark-haired, curvy hottie with smoldering eyes caused me to forget my Player manners. While she did appear interested, I completely forgot about her friends. This girl clearly didn’t like the fact that her friends — who had remained — had received the cold shoulder. It was a no go.

Solution: Include the group at first
It can be intimidating, but you must introduce yourself to the group if it’s a closely knit set of friends at the club. Speak to each one individually just to say hi and only then can you proceed forward and pay the closest attention to your favorite. This is the respectful — and expected — way to go about doing this. The women will understand and appreciate the effort. Breaking into a set requires good feelings the whole way ‘round, regardless of the bewitching eyes of your chosen filly. It takes practice, but to this day nobody breaks a set of curvaceous lovelies like the Player.
the error in your player ways
We all have to man up and admit our mistakes every now and then. It not only keeps us grounded and humble (often perceived as an appealing trait by the opposite sex), but it also allows us to learn from past experiences. Experience means nothing if you’re ignoring the mistakes; this pickup artist in particular has looked and learned and as a direct result, rarely makes errors in the field. Now where’s my Gold Glove?

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