June 19, 2013

Parents despair for ‘most wanted’ terrorist son

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STORY HIGHLIGHTS

Parents speak exclusively to about their son who grew up to be a wanted terrorist
U.S.-born Omar Hammami became the public face of Al Shabaab but now appears to be in deadly danger
His father in coastal Alabama says he has disowned his son but still tries to find the good on him
Both parents says their religions have helped them survive the turmoil

Daphne, Alabama (CNN) — While others enjoy the approaching summer, barbeques and baseball, one American family scours the internet looking for clues to whether their son is alive.

U.S authorities also want to find him but not to secure a happy family reunion.

Their son, Omar Hammami, is a wanted Islamist terrorist fighting — or barely surviving — in Somalia with a $5 million bounty on his head.

Now after an apparent on their son, the family opens up in an exclusive about how their son grew up to be a terrorist, how their lives are changed forever and how their joint faith has seen them survive burdens that could have destroyed other families.

Shafik Hammami opens the door to his Daphne home wearing a University of Alabama football t-shirt. He was born in Syria, but after more than 40 years in the United States, he’s as much a homegrown Alabama as any other local resident. I ask him if he thinks ‘Bama’ will win the National Title again this year. He holds up his hands and proudly smiles: “Roll Tide.”

He’s not what I had expected him to be. He’s an older man with a mild-mannered nature — a from what I knew of his son, whose personality had won him recognition from a young age. But somehow the boy living the American dream grew up to be a for al Qaeda-backed militants looking to wage global jihad.

Born and raised in Daphne, a quintessential Southern town nestled along , lined with strip malls, subdivisions, and churches, Omar now goes by the name of Abu Al-Amriki, or The American. Western and Somali authorities have named him as a leading member of Al Shabaab, a group known for its ruthlessness in the fight for an Islamic Caliphate in Somalia.

His mother Debra, a retired school teacher, had explained earlier by phone earlier how hard it was for her husband to talk about their son. He has quit talking to the media, she says, because it hurts too much.

“Darlin’, we have been through hills and valleys,” she said in a genteel southern accent. “All I know is that I ask everyone I meet, ‘Do you go to church?’ and if they say yes, I ask them, ‘Please put us on your prayer list.”

In Daphne, a community of roughly 22,000, everyone we meet seems to know Omar Hammami. Or if they don’t know him, they know of him as, “that terrorist from here.”

Debra Hammami, who comes across as bubbly and friendly, says she knows that some people judge the family because of the son’s choices.

“But, darlin’, I’m lucky to live in a community with such wonderful friends,” she says.

Just the other day, she says, a friend of hers met someone who said, “Just what kind of parents could raise a child like that? They must have been terrible parents for him to turn out that way.”

“You hush your mouth,” her friend said in response, Debra Hammami recounts. “I know that family. And his mother is a good Christian woman, so you be quiet about something you know nothing about.”

She says that even though she is a Christian and her husband is a Muslim, that throughout this seemingly never-ending ordeal, it is that individualized faith, and a shared belief in God that has seen them through the toughest of moments.

After what seems like hours of pained silence, but is probably merely a matter of several uncomfortable minutes, Shafik Hammami agrees ever so tentatively to talk about his son.

“Omar was a very sweet, intelligent child, very bright and inquisitive about everything,” he says. “He excelled at education, sports, just about everything he attempted. I always had high hopes for him. I would have loved for him to be engineer or a doctor but that wasn’t in the cards.

“As a parent I would like for him to follow my instructions. But in life that doesn’t always happen, especially with a strong-willed child. And of course I tried my best, and so did my wife, to raise him the best we could. He chose the path he did, and I do not approve of it. But there is nothing I can do to change it.”

“But surely there were clues?” I ask him.

“No, not at all. There were no alarms or anything that I could see,” he recalls. “As a matter of fact, when he was in college, he was the President of the Muslim Student Association, and he had several media interviews, and he condemned the attacks of 9/11 and saw that those actions were un-Islamic, so there was nothing for me to worry about.”

But that would change and soon there would be a lot to worry about.

Despite his gifted intellect, Omar dropped out of college at the University of South Alabama and moved to Toronto, Canada, where he met and married a Somali woman. Soon after, the couple moved to Egypt, where Omar hoped to deepen his study of Islam.

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Shafik Hammami remembers the last time he saw his son. He and Debra had traveled to Alexandria, Egypt, to visit with Omar, his wife, and their new grandchild.

“We went to spend a couple of weeks with him,” Hammami says. “And there was no inkling of anything that we could see, feel, anything that had changed.

“But shortly after we left we got a call from his wife, and she told us she thinks he is in Somalia, and that’s when I realized that things are not normal.”

“I was furious,” he adds. “And I tried to contact him to find out what was going on.”

Omar’s wife said he had gone to Somalia to visit her relatives. But when Hammami finally reached his son, Omar told him someone had stolen his passport, and that he couldn’t leave the country.

At the time, 2006, Somalia was in the grips of an Islamic insurgency.

Frantic and shocked by his son’s news, Hammami says he urged his son to go to the police, an embassy, anyone who could help him. Thinking that Omar was stranded in a dangerous place, and desperate to help their son, the Hammamis contacted the FBI, their local congressman, and the U.S. State Department, hoping to get Omar a new passport, and a way out of the war-ravaged country.

But Hammami says he was told there was absolutely nothing they could do.

Soon after, Ethiopian troops entered Somalia and the country fell deeper into chaos. The Hammamis say they lost all contact with their son and were living a parent’s nightmare.

The next time Hammami saw his son was almost a year later — on television as an Islamist propagandist.

His message partly blamed the U.S. for Somalia’s desperate situation and he said America should pay attention to Somalia.

The terror threat facing the U.S.

He no longer called himself Omar Hammami, but Abu Monsour Al-Amriki, or “the American.”

The effect was complete and utter heartbreak.

“When I first saw the interview on TV, I knew that was the end of life as we knew it. I knew we would never be the same again. It’s devastating for both of us. He is our only son. We only have one son. And now, we have none,” Shafik Hammami says.

“It hurts me very much. It hurts to hear your son called a terrorist,” he adds, his voice breaking with emotion.

Hammami, a retired civil engineer, says he now spends his days scouring the internet for news of his son. These days what he finds is more troubling than ever.

Omar is on the FBI’s most wanted list facing multiple counts of supporting terrorism, and the possibility of multiple life sentences if he ever returns home.

Hammami says there also appears to be internal fighting among Al Shabaab and the split has put Omar in the firing line of other jihadists.

Hammami, who calls Al Shabaab “a bunch of thugs,” says the hostilities have put his son at odds with Al Shabaab’s top leadership.

Hammami says he learns this from Omar’s Twitter posts. Some of the most recent are ominous. Omar has posted pictures of himself, blood oozing from his neck, after what he says was a failed assassination attempt.

While he does not agree with his son’s choices, Hammami, like any parent, still tries to see the best in his son, despite the worst of circumstances.

He says the thugs are after his son because his son objects to their decision to take money from the poor to support a lavish lifestyle, target innocent civilians in their fight, and conduct suicide bombings as part of their mission.

Hammami, his voice with the slightest hint of hope, says: “Omar is against these things. He told the Shabaab leader that these actions are against the Islamic ideals and he told him to correct his ways. And that is why the leader is trying to kill him.”

Others are not so optimistic in their assessment of Omar’s split with the leadership. In jihadist online forums, some say his need for attention and self-seeking actions are the reasons for the infighting.

A 127-page autobiography, reportedly penned by Omar and circulating online in jihadi forums, could be pointed to as evidence supporting that claim. In the document, Omar meticulously describes his path from a child who dreamed of becoming a doctor to an American jihadi and alludes to his to stand out:

“I just came to the conclusion that helping the Ummah (Muslim World) is not simply a matter of adding another doctor to the list. I figured we had enough doctors,” the autobiography reads. “One charismatic leader could theoretically ‘make’ more money for the Ummah in a few charity drives than one doctor could ever make in a lifetime.”

The U.S. government offers a more damning assessment that goes beyond mere narcissism, saying it has classified evidence that Omar himself is responsible for masterminding at least one suicide attack in Somalia that killed innocent civilians.

And in that same autobiography, Omar offers his own opinion about why Americans are afraid of him:

“The real that the Americans feel when they see an American in Somalia talking about Jihad, is not how skillful he is at sneaking back across the borders with nuclear weapons. The Americans that their cultural barrier has been broken and now Jihad has become a normal career choice for any youthful American Muslim. Trying to show them how serious I am about slaughtering Disbelievers is the side of me they would like to capitalize on to estrange the Muslims from our cause,” it reads.

It’s these kinds of inflammatory statements from their son, that leave the Hammami’s struggling to find reason for events unfolding halfway around the globe.

“When you see those pictures, and read those reports, how do you cope?” I ask.

For Hammami, like his wife, the answer is simple. Faith.

“I accept God’s ordain for him and for me,” Hammami explains. “If I don’t accept it as a matter of faith, I cannot endure it. It is the only thing that keeps me from going crazy.”

He pauses for a moment and continues: “If God chose for him to die anywhere on earth, that’s God’s decision, and I accept it.”

He adds: “I wish he could [turn his life around] but he has no good options left. He has no way of tracking back, even if he wants to.”

It has been more than six years since the Hammamis first learned that Omar had fled to Somalia to wage jihad.

The Hammamis are now resigned to the fact that they may never see their son again.

But I ask Hammami what he would say to him, if he had a chance to talk to his son once more.

“Even if I can’t see him, I just wish he stays safe. And I wish… ” Hammami’s voice begins to break, tears welling up in his eyes. “I wish he will know…. that I will him until I die.”

Olympics: Oscar Pistorius’ hearing postponed until Aug. 19

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Story Highlights

Double-amputee Olympian was charged with murdering his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp
Pistorius appeared in South African court for a hearing ahead of murder trial
He remains free on bail

PRETORIA, South Africa (AP) — stood for his entire 15-minute court hearing Tuesday, staring straight ahead, hands clasped in front of him and giving away little emotion as the world got its first close up view of the double-amputee Olympian and murder suspect in nearly .

It was a to the sobbing figure Pistorius presented through much of his bail hearing in February. Daniel Thulare postponed the case on Tuesday until Aug. 19 to allow police to complete their investigation into the Valentine’s Day shooting death of Reeva Steenkamp.

The extension was sought by the , giving investigators six months to gather evidence, interview witnesses and prepare a case against the 26-year-old by the time they return to court.

Pistorius’ lead Barry agreed with the , and said they could start to deal with “pre-trial” issues in the high-profile case on the August date. Pistorius’ trial is not expected to start before September, at the earliest. The athlete is charged with premeditated murder in the killing of his girlfriend.

Pistorius spoke just once during Tuesday’s hearing. “Yes, your honor,” he said in a voice which croaked at first but which also had an air of newfound , when Thulare asked him if he understood that he was released on the same bail conditions and must reappear at the Pretoria Magistrate’s Court on Aug. 19.

The Paralympic champion’s trial will likely be sent up to the High Court in Pretoria.

Pistorius has said he killed Steenkamp by mistake in the early hours of Feb. 14, believing she was an intruder in his home. Prosecutors allege he shot her intentionally as she cowered in a toilet stall and that the couple may have argued before she was shot.

The magistrate also warned Tuesday of “scandalous and possibly contemptuous” reporting by some media in Pistorius’ case following the publication of pictures by a British television station last week that purport to show the blood-spattered bathroom where Pistorius fatally shot Steenkamp, firing his pistol four times through the closed door of the stall and hitting his girlfriend with three bullets.

Prosecutors didn’t outline which areas of the police investigation were still ongoing, and the National Prosecuting Authority said police hope to complete the probe by August.

“The investigation is continuing and we believe by August, or even before August, we will have wrapped up everything,” spokesman Medupe Simasiku said. “As soon as everything is completed the court will announce a trial date.”

Simasiku said the prosecution was still “standing on a premeditated murder charge” and could not say yet if any more charges might be introduced.

Making his first public appearance since he was freed on bail from the same courtroom on Feb. 22, Pistorius again passed in front of rows of television cameras and photographers as he entered Court C shortly before 9 a.m. local time. He arrived at the court in an SUV with black blinds covering the windows, but used the main public entrance to the courthouse and not the back entrance he arrived at during his four-day bail hearing.

Since he was freed on bail, there had been just two reported sightings of Pistorius in public ahead of Tuesday.

Other than that, he has been living in self-imposed isolation, his family says, surrounding himself with memories of Steenkamp, sometimes growing a beard to disguise his identity and only occasionally leaving his uncle’s house to attend church services.

No longer a smiling global sports star seen on ads ranging from Nike to Oakley, or the figure who struggled to control his emotions during bail proceedings, Pistorius is now a man with a determination to fight the murder charge against him, according to his uncle, Arnold Pistorius.

“He’s battling. But with the family behind him, his sister living in the same house as he lives … they assist him a lot,” Arnold Pistorius said in excerpts from an interview given to a South African television show and released by the family Sunday. “And we are preparing him. He will definitely be ready. Being the mind that he is, being the man that he is, he will know what it’s going to take to do this event.”

Pistorius didn’t comment to reporters Tuesday but spoke briefly with his sister, Aimee, and kissed another family member as he left the dock.

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Olympics: Oscar Pistorius’ hearing postponed until Aug. 19

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appears in the in Pretoria, South Africa, Tuesday, June 4, 2013. His has been postponed until Aug. 19.(Photo: Themba Hadebe, AP)

Story Highlights

Double-amputee Olympian was charged with murdering his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp
Pistorius appeared in South African court for a hearing ahead of murder trial
He remains free on bail

PRETORIA, South Africa (AP) — stood for his entire 15-minute Tuesday, staring straight ahead, hands clasped in front of him and giving away little emotion as the world got its first close up view of the double-amputee Olympian and murder suspect in nearly .

It was a to the sobbing figure Pistorius presented through much of his bail hearing in February. Daniel Thulare postponed the case on Tuesday until Aug. 19 to allow police to complete their investigation into the Valentine’s Day shooting death of Reeva Steenkamp.

The extension was sought by the , giving investigators six months to gather evidence, and prepare a case against the 26-year-old by the time they return to court.

Pistorius’ lead Barry agreed with the , and said they could start to deal with “pre-trial” issues in the high- on the August date. Pistorius’ trial is not expected to start before September, at the earliest. The is charged with premeditated murder in the killing of his girlfriend.

Pistorius spoke just once during Tuesday’s hearing. “Yes, your honor,” he said in a voice which croaked at first but which also had an air of newfound , when Thulare asked him if he understood that he was released on the same bail conditions and must reappear at the Pretoria ’s Court on Aug. 19.

The Paralympic champion’s trial will likely be sent up to the High Court in Pretoria.

Pistorius has said he killed Steenkamp by mistake in the early hours of Feb. 14, believing she was an intruder in his home. Prosecutors allege he shot her intentionally as she cowered in a toilet stall and that the couple may have argued before she was shot.

The magistrate also warned Tuesday of “scandalous and possibly contemptuous” reporting by some media in Pistorius’ case following the publication of pictures by a British television station last week that purport to show the blood-spattered bathroom where Pistorius fatally shot Steenkamp, firing his pistol four times through the closed door of the stall and hitting his girlfriend with three bullets.

Prosecutors didn’t outline which areas of the police investigation were still ongoing, and the National Prosecuting Authority said police hope to complete the probe by August.

“The investigation is continuing and we believe by August, or even before August, we will have wrapped up everything,” spokesman Medupe Simasiku said. “As soon as everything is completed the court will announce a trial date.”

Simasiku said the prosecution was still “standing on a premeditated murder charge” and could not say yet if any more charges might be introduced.

Making his first public appearance since he was freed on bail from the same courtroom on Feb. 22, Pistorius again passed in front of rows of television cameras and photographers as he entered Court C shortly before 9 a.m. local time. He arrived at the court in an SUV with black blinds covering the windows, but used the main public entrance to the courthouse and not the back entrance he arrived at during his four-day bail hearing.

Since he was freed on bail, there had been just two reported sightings of Pistorius in public ahead of Tuesday.

Other than that, he has been living in self-imposed isolation, his family says, surrounding himself with memories of Steenkamp, sometimes growing a beard to disguise his identity and only occasionally leaving his uncle’s house to attend church services.

No longer a smiling global sports star seen on ads ranging from Nike to Oakley, or the figure who struggled to control his emotions during bail proceedings, Pistorius is now a man with a determination to fight the murder charge against him, according to his uncle, Arnold Pistorius.

“He’s battling. But with the family behind him, his sister living in the same house as he lives … they assist him a lot,” Arnold Pistorius said in excerpts from an interview given to a South African television show and released by the family Sunday. “And we are preparing him. He will definitely be ready. Being the mind that he is, being the man that he is, he will know what it’s going to take to do this event.”

Pistorius didn’t comment to reporters Tuesday but spoke briefly with his sister, Aimee, and kissed another family member as he left the dock.

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Syrian president: ‘We are facing a war from abroad’

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STORY HIGHLIGHTS

NEW: Saudi official: The is trying to turn the crisis into a
Syrian president: “Standing up against the conspiracy is not easy, but we will overcome”
Opposition: Five people are killed as shelling fell on cities during al-Assad’s speech
Kofi Annan: The of all-out civil war with a sectarian dimension grows every day

(CNN) — Syrian al-Assad addressed his country and the newly-elected People’s Assembly on Sunday, decrying what he called the “terrorists” and “conspiracy” against Syria.

“At this time, we are facing a war from abroad,” al-Assad said in his first since January. “Dealing with it is different from dealing with people from inside.”

His remarks stand in stark contrast to what the opposition and many world leaders have said for more than a year — that al-Assad’s forces, not “terrorists,” are behind a sustained slaughter stemming from the regime’s crackdown on dissidents.

As the president spoke, heavy shelling rained on the anti-government bastion of Homs, the opposition Local of Syria said. At the same time, at least five people were killed in Homs, and Hama, the group said.

also reported seeing a large military convoy of about 45 trucks carrying tanks, and soldiers heading toward Deir Ezzor during al-Assad’s speech.

Al-Assad insisted “the battle is forced upon us,” but promised amnesty for those who stop fighting immediately.

“I encourage all of those who are hesitant to drop their weapons at once, and the government will not seek revenge now or later,” he said in his 70-. “We forgave others who stood against us in the past.”

The president also touted what he called and denounced those he said were conspiring against Syria.

“Standing up against the conspiracy is not easy, but we will overcome the obstacles,” al-Assad said.

The president’s address came a day after U.N. special envoy Kofi Annan said Syria is “at a turning point” and that “the specter of all-out civil war, with a worry sectarian dimension, grows by the day.”

Saudi Foreign Minister Saud Al Faisal said the Syrian regime is pushing for a sectarian crisis.

“The Syrian opposition lacks the means to defend itself, and the regime is getting weapons from everywhere. For a while now, we noticed that the regime has been trying to turn the crisis into a sectarian conflict,” Al Faisal said Sunday.

He added that while Syria had agreed to Annan’s peace plan, the regime has not implemented it. “The regime just wants to buy time,” Al Faisal said.

As Annan’s U.N.-backed peace plan continued to founder in Syria, Arab leaders signaled the need for more robust measures to end the violence there.

Qatari Prime Minister Sheikh Hamad bin Jassim bin Jabor Al Thani said Annan’s peace initiative should be placed under Chapter VII of the U.N. charter, Qatar’s news agency reported. Such a move would allow the U.N. Security Council to take action that could include the use of military force.

He spoke Saturday before Arab League foreign ministers in Doha, Qatar, more than a week after a massacre in the town of Houla sparked global outrage.

Arab League Secretary-General Nabil el-Araby said “more audacious steps are needed” in Syria.

“We should have a timeline for the peace plan — this is a must,” el-Araby said. “The international community needs to take immediate action after the massacre in Houla and take all necessary measures in order to protect the Syrian civilians.”

The crisis in Syria began nearly 15 months ago, when a tough government crackdown on protesters spiraled out of control and spawned a national anti-government uprising. The United Nations for months has said more than 9,000 people have died in Syria. But death counts from opposition groups range from more than 12,000 to more than 14,000. Tens of thousands have been displaced.

The opposition Syrian Observatory for Human Rights said 33 civilians and 61 government forces were killed across Syria on Saturday, and two rebel soldiers died.

CNN cannot independently confirm reports of casualties or violence from Syria because the government restricts access to foreign journalists.

Over the border in the Lebanese city of Tripoli, fighting between pro- and anti-Syrian regime gunmen on Saturday left 12 dead and approximately 50 injured, according to the state-run National News Agency.

The clashes continued early Sunday morning, killing at least one person, NNA said. But hours later, residents said the situation in Tripoli was quiet.

The sectarian violence in Tripoli mirrors the tensions in Syria between Sunnis, who make up the majority of the Syrian opposition, and Alawites, who are dominant in al-Assad’s government.

Annan made reference Saturday to such flare-ups in neighboring countries, after many Syrian civilians have fled to escape violence.

He said he recently urged al-Assad “to radically change his military posture,” saying the government has the prime responsibility to halt the violence.

Annan said he plans to brief the U.N. General Assembly and U.N. Security Council about the crisis this week.

AP Sources: Frank Martin takes South Carolina job

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COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) — Frank Martin has agreed to become South Carolina’s next men’s , said people familiar with the decision say

The people spoke to The Monday on condition of anonymity because the school had not announced the hiring. The university’ of trustees is scheduled to meet to discuss a contract matter.

Martin will replace Darrin Horn, who was fired two weeks ago after going 60-63 over four seasons. The finished last in the last year.

Martin is leaving , which he led to the NCAA tournament four of the last . The Wildcats reached the in 2010. His overall record as a is 117-54 and he is 6-4 in the NCAA tourney.

The have been to the NCAA tournament just once since 1998. They finished this season 10-21 and 2-14 in the SEC.

Martin is the son of Cuban immigrants who coached in Miami for 15 years and was an assistant at Northeastern for four seasons before Bob Huggins brought him on to his staff at Cincinnati. Martin credits Huggins with jump starting his career, saying the current coach at West Virginia helped him get into college coaching.

South Carolina will be a rebuilding job.

The team’s record got progressively worse during Horn’s four years. Their top player, point guard and two-sport high Bruce Ellington, originally promised to only play basketball next season, but after Horn was fired, he started hanging around the during spring practice.

Several other players could consider transfers as Martin’s intense coaching style is a from Horn’s more laid back approach.

Martin has not publically commented about the South Carolina job or why he might want to leave Kansas State at this time. He was an in-studio analyst for CBS during its weekend and didn’t answer directly when asked about coaching the Gamecocks.

“The stuff that gets out these days, I look at it as a compliment that we’re doing our job the right way at Kansas State that these sorts of things get out,” Martin said.

A potential salary for Martin has not been disclosed. He made around $1.1 million at Kansas State, and South Carolina athletic director Eric Hyman said when he fired Horn that the Gamecocks were willing to pay their next coach a competitive salary. The school also will owe Horn a $2.4 million buyout.

Horn was hired from Western Kentucky after leading the Hilltoppers to the round of 16 in 2008. His first team at South Carolina went 21-10 and 10-6 in the SEC, winning the Eastern Division. But it wasn’t enough to get the team’s first NCAA tournament bid since 2004, and his teams won fewer games each season.

The Gamecocks have lost 24 of their last 27 SEC games. Horn finished his career at South Carolina 23-45 in league games and 60-63 overall with thee losing seasons in a row.

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NFL: Packers persevere after tragic death of coach’s son

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() – quarterback said on Wednesday this week’s death of ’s son had a deep effect on him, but that he hoped the tragedy could help bring the (NFL) team closer together.

The team was hit hard on Monday by news that 21-year-old Michael Philbin had been found dead by drowning just as the top-seeded Super Bowl champions began preparations for the start of their playoff push against fourth-seeded .

“With the passing of Joe’s son, it’s been difficult, but I think it brings us together and makes us realize how important family is,” Rodgers told reporters at the Giants practice facility on a conference call. “Not just our but also our .”

The supremely confident Rodgers, who set a new NFL standard for passing proficiency with a record this season, said he was at a loss for words to comfort Philbin.

“Joe and I have a real tight relationship and to be honest, it’s been real hard on me to not be able to have the words to comfort him and his wife and the family. It’s been difficult. We love Joe, we’re praying for him. We’re behind him,” he said.

Green Bay McCarthy, who calls the offensive plays during the game, said he was not worried about team morale heading into their playoff opener on Sunday.

“There’s a clear focus and understanding that professionally we’re very blessed and fortunate enough to be in this position and it’s important for us to take full advantage of this opportunity,” said McCarthy.

“Joe, more than anybody, would want us to pour all of our heart and energy into our preparation and that’s what the football team has done.”

The Packers, coming off a bye, enter this postseason in stark contrast to last year when they overcame a flood of injuries to claim the Trophy as a team.

This season, Green Bay flirted with perfection, getting their closest call against the Giants last month in a 38-35 win to go 12-0 before finally taking their only loss of the season two weeks later, falling 19-14 to the Kansas City Chiefs.

“Last year was different challenges,” said Rodgers. “We had more injuries, 15 guys on the (injured reserve list), different guys filling spots,” he said.

“This year we’re not sneaking up on anybody. Being Super Bowl champs you often have a target on your backs. It’s a different set of circumstances, a different adversity this year.”

McCarthy said everybody on the team practiced Wednesday as the Packers took advantage of their week off to heal injuries. The coach sounded confident, but not about to overlook any .

“Anybody who’s been through playoff runs knows there is a clear line of distinction drawn between the regular season and the playoffs. We’re one of four teams left in the NFC, and more importantly, it’s us playing the Giants.

“I think you throw the seeds out the window. Now it’s a football game between two teams that have earned the right to play in this tournament.”

(Reporting by Larry Fine; Editing by Frank Pingue)

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Girl Talk: I Thought I Was A Lesbian

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(Phatforums News / The Frisky) – It has been a big year for me. I switched ; I moved to another city; and finally removed myself from a lengthy and unhealthy relationship. I’ve always known that as one door closes, another one opens. And after going through that grueling breakup, I met and fell in with the man of my dreams. Meeting “The One”—corny, yes, but bear with me—has been so rewarding and enlightening, especially given the stark contrast between him and my ex. The biggest difference: “The One” is a man, and my ex is a woman.

I met “Her” at work.

I knew after a year she wasn’t the one for me, but I stayed with her for three years. My for unwavering and my of being abandoned or lied to was more important to me than my own happiness.

One day, I noticed a very sharp, polished woman in a men’s suit who kept appearing in my . She told me later that it was no accident—she had been eyeing me for a while. Was there something about me that said, “I am open to a lesbian relationship?” I didn’t think so. I will admit, I had a few drunken with girls in my younger years, but had never even entertained the idea of actually being with a woman. Maybe her “gaydar” was clairvoyant; maybe she was just attracted to me and thought she’d give it a try. Either way, we ended up at a birthday party for a mutual co-worker, and there it began.

She asked me if she could drive me home the next day after work. It was obviously more than just a nice —we lived about 45 minutes away from each other. I agreed, nervously, thinking, What is going on here? What am I doing? How am I attracted to this woman? She was warm and sweet, and that helped slow my racing thoughts, but I was still afraid of this .

Still, work had especially sucked that day and I had too. She picked up on my mood and was compassionate. “I love your style,” she said. “Would a little trip cheer you up?”

Well, yes retail therapy always works, so I obliged. She made a quick phone call, and before I knew it, I was in a fancy Brazilian boutique being doted on by a lovely gentleman who had chosen a bevy of gorgeous dresses for me to try on. Wow, right? Talk about a first date! I chose one dress, being extremely price-conscious—I was nearly broke. She stepped in and told the salesman: “We’ll take this, this, this and definitely this. Ring it up. Here’s my Amex.”

Thus began the relationship, as well as the trend of her spending insane amounts of money on me. She opened a savings account in my name (on date number two), moved me closer to her, furnished an entire apartment for me and showered me with gifts galore. Looking back, I recognized red flags everywhere, but I accepted them.

I had only been with men before “Her,” and she knew that. The word around the office was that she had a history of pursuing straight women and “flipping” them, and I guess I was her next challenge. I think she knew what she was getting into, and so did I. Looking back, we had an unspoken contract from the very beginning.

In a very (very) short period of time, her friends and family embraced me. It was pretty over-the-top, too. She was—get this—17 years older than me, so I think they were just happy that she had found someone. It was more than just being brought into a new family and circle of friends; I felt like I was part of a new lifestyle, and I welcomed it with open arms.

My relationships prior to “Her” were pretty terrible. From my first boyfriend at 16, to the boyfriend I moved in with, they were all pretty much disasters. (Yes, I do realize who the constant is in these relationships, but read on.) I was no stranger to cheating, abuse, manipulation, lying and overall dissatisfaction and unhappiness. I was never able to fully trust men. And I definitely picked the wrong men, because they all simply could not be trusted.

I felt like I could trust “Her” from the beginning. I felt like we had a friendship, and though our relationship was more than platonic, I felt like she wouldn’t break “girl-code” and lie to me. I never felt the impending threat of cheating like I always had in my relationships with men. Now please don’t take me wrong—I know there are womanizing lesbians out there too, but I felt she wasn’t one of them. I more than trusted her; I felt like she was incapable of hurting me in the way that men had in my life. This anxiety-free, comfortable life was appealing to me, and I plunged into it.

It was around month 10 of our relationship that I could no longer ignore the red flags. She had a very strict (read: weird) diet that she persistently urged me to commit to. I did. She preferred a certain style of dress in “her women” that I adhered to, especially since she was paying for all the clothes. She was very secretive about her personal life and her past, and she told me very early on to never question her, just to trust her. She needed to—had to—control me, and money was the tool she used. She convinced me to quit my decent-paying job to go back to school with the promise that she would take care of me financially. Thankfully, she wasn’t lying because she (okay, I) created a situation in which I was completely and totally dependent on her just to survive. I had no source of income outside of her. I was completely isolated from my old life. I began to think of some of my girlfriends who had “sold-out” and married rich, unattractive or just plain awful men just to live the life of luxury. That was me now.

About a year into my lesbian relationship, I found myself engaging in flirty conversations with men—old friends, ex-flings—different types of people—all with penises. Was it sexual desire? Perhaps. “She” and I had stopped being intimate after the first several months. (Hi, red flag!) Yes, we rarely had sex and when it did happen, it was very … one-sided. She didn’t want to be touched: “Your pleasure is my pleasure,” she said. And I was fine with that, the spoiled “pillow-queen” that I was. (I learned that term after the relationship ended. It’s a girl that just lays back and lets her girlfriend please her.) Either way, we became two pajama-clad, asexual, hot messes that just watched movies together and attended family gatherings.

Around the year mark, I felt antsy. But I was accustomed to all the cash and I knew no relationship was perfect, so I made the sacrifice. We didn’t have sex, she controlled the s**t out of me, but she wasn’t cheating on me or lying to my face. I even turned a blind eye to her completely inappropriate relationships with her exes. “We’re all women. We can still be friends after we break up,” she explained. True, but would you lend your ex thousands of dollars and then tell her “don’t worry about paying me back”? It made me uncomfortable, and rightfully so. Still, she provided a level of stability I’d never had before.

So here I am, living the full-blown lesbian life, with my lesbian partner, and our non-sexual lesbian relationship. I knew then that I couldn’t be with her forever. She begged me to promise that we would be, but she clearly had her doubts, too. She would “jokingly” say, “You don’t really want me. You still want to be with a man. Don’t you?” I told her no. I had convinced myself that I was a real lesbian. How else could I be in a real relationship with a woman? Though I thought about them, I was never really around straight men anymore. She (and I) made sure of that.

This is where I really f**ked up. I knew after a year she wasn’t the one for me, but I stayed with her for three years. My desire for unwavering companionship and my fear of being abandoned or lied to was more important to me than my own happiness. I resented her for not being who I wanted, yet was too selfish to let her go. And we both paid the price.

Those last two years especially were torturous. I lived around the corner from her and we only saw each other in the car on the way to work, in passing at work, and then again in the car before she dropped me off at my apartment, and of course at those family functions I was obligated to attend. I was miserable. More than miserable—I was depressed. I was lonely.

The obvious question: Why didn’t I just break up with her? The reasons I was able to accept and stay in a relationship like this are plentiful, but better suited for talk therapy. Finances aside, I felt like giving up my relationship with her would be giving up on being the “lesbian” I had been for three years. I had “come out” to my family and friends, and they accepted and loved me unconditionally. How could I go to them now and say, “Never mind, just kidding”? I didn’t want to admit that I wasn’t who I thought I was. And I didn’t want to admit that I was beginning to think about what it would be like to have a husband and a family again.

My breaking point came not long before the three year mark. We were having another regular crying and screaming match sitting in her truck in front of my apartment, but this time when I said goodbye and slammed the door, I knew I meant it. I didn’t even remember the person I was before her, and I hated that. I used to be confident, put-together and happy, and I was now none of those things. I was finally done.

It took a while, but she finally realized that I was not going to do the back-and-forth, break-up-to-make-up thing. She eventually stopped stalking me and trying to make me feel sorry for her.

Enter, “The One.” I hit the love lottery and moved on. As much as I thought I could—and would—date another woman, meeting him proved me 100 percent completely wrong. He’s definitely one-in-a-million, but coming to an understanding of the issues with my past relationships with men has further solidified that I did want a man—a real man—in my life.

I know I’m not the only woman who has stayed in an unhealthy relationship for all the wrong reasons. I’m positive that I’m not the only woman who has sacrificed her happiness for someone or something else—the money, the house, the kids, etc. And I’m also pretty sure I’m not the only woman who has fallen into a lesbian relationship because she had been hurt so badly by men.

I’m only now learning to forgive myself for the hurt I caused “Her” and myself. It is a process, to say the least. I know that we are both far better off now, and hopefully she gets it too. I am finally, truly and undeniably, happy and in love. And that’s what I really wanted all along.