May 23, 2013

7 Sexy Things I Do More of Since Having Kids

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(PhatzNewsRoom / The Stir) — Oh now, you didn’t think I was a big old prude just because I have a list of sexy things I ditched since having kids? I did write a book for , mind you, so I haven’t joined a convent or anything.

So if you thought your sex life was suddenly over after , THINK AGAIN! Here are seven sexy things I do more of now that I’m a mom. Rowr.

1. – As a busy mom, I’ve got to multi-task, so is definitely killing with one stone. Plus, my back is so clean now that I have someone else to wash it for me.

2. Sex toy play – I’d always played with alone, but now that I have kids, I’m all about bringing into the mix with my husband. I don’t have a ton of time to fool around, so they definitely help speed things along.

3. – It might be because it takes a little more these days to get me going (darn !), but I definitely engage in a lot more foreplay these days, both receiving and giving.

4. The quickie – I admit that sex used to be quite a big production back in the day, but now my husband and I don’t have time for that. So we’ve embraced “the quickie,” which allows us to have fun and still get the done.

5. Talking dirty – Perhaps it’s because I need a little extra help to get turned on, but the has certainly gotten much more abundant since having kids.

6. Sex outside the bed – A change of scenery can be pretty hot, and since overnights in hotels, at least on any sort of regular basis, aren’t feasible, just moving to the floor, the closet, even the basement (which is finished, by the way) does the trick.

7. Sexy – Maybe I’m getting more daring in my old age, but I love sending sexy , which are an excellent form of foreplay.

15 Sex Tips For Women (From Men)

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(Phatforums News / The Stir) — It’s hard, especially if you’ve been a long-term relationship or marriage, to keep the sexy alive. It’s easy to fall into a rut when it comes to a romp in the bedroom — we’ve all done it — and harder than ever to come back out of the rut with some new sexy moves.

There’s no one better to discuss how to please a then, well, another .

Here are 15 suggestions from guys about how to bring the heat back into your relationship:

1. Strap on some sexy stockings and a garter belt.

2. Keep your well-maintained. A simple trim can suffice if a bikini wax is an undesirable (ouch!) option.

3. Try a lap-dance or a sexy strip-tease. That doesn’t mean you have to spend a fortune on lingerie — you can easily remove the frumpiest clothes sexily.

4. Sexy can really get him going. Send him something like, “I can’t wait for you to get home tonight — got a surprise for you,” and, well, give him a surprise!

5. If you’re separated by many miles, try phone . It may feel weird at first, but it can be wicked sexy if you go with it.

6. Try something new. If your man isn’t someone who is loud in the bedroom, explore new territory with him.

7. Lose all your . Nothing revs a man up more than knowing that what he’s doing to you is driving you wild.

8. Guide him into doing what you like. Take his hand and put it wherever you’d like it to go — not only is this sexy for you, it’s a total turn-on for a guy.

9. Just like like a (more than one part of the vagina stimulated at the same time), men do, too. Try mixing up a hand-job or a blow-job by playing with his testicles.

10. Talk dirty to him. If you’re not used to it, it may feel WAY awkward, but the more you do it, the more second-nature it will become. And there’s a bonus! It may turn you on, too.

11. Bust out the — remember, they can be multipurpose. Use them to stimulate the shaft of the while giving a blow-job to bring him to new heights of orgasm.

12. Switch positions. It’s easy to fall into the whole, “We have sex missionary style,” or “I’m always on top,” but you may find yourself pleasantly surprised by new positions.

13. Make sex a surprise. Put on his favorite pair of underwear and meet him at the door when he comes home from work.

14. Join him in the shower. No reason getting clean can’t come AFTER getting dirty.

15. Bring a bunch of pillows into the bedroom. They’ll help to achieve — and enjoy — new sexual positions.

10 Examples Of Poor Sex Etiquette

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(Phatforums Blog/ The Frisky) – Perfectly can be ruined by really . There is an unwritten code of conduct. Follow it, and your partner will likely be a repeat customer. ?Break it, and you may screw the likelihood of boning again. After the jump, some examples of in the bedroom that will get you kicked to the curb.

Trying out a without asking. If you’re into spanking, panty ripping, golden showers, or salad tossing, for example, that’s totally cool. But please discuss it with before doing it to .

Talking about your sex life with an ex. Unless we ask, don’t regale us with stories about the jade egg your ex could hold in her all day. We don’t want to know.

?Not offering a tissue to wipe up your spunk.? If you got your baby batter on our face or body, it is only right to get a lady a tissue or a washcloth to freshen up.

Dirty sheets. If you expect us to roll around with you, wash your goddamn sheets first.

Recycling sex toys. Using the same vibrator on more than one woman is not only insulting, it’s disgusting. I don’t care if you washed it. Get that thing away from us.

Coming on face or in mouth without asking. It is only polite to request the pleasure of coming on one’s face or in one’s mouth without consent.

Not having any condoms on hand and saying, “It’s OK, I’ll pull out!” Bitch, please! No condoms on hand, no sex. You are delusional if you think otherwise.

Not offering sleepwear. If we’ve learned anything positive from The Situation, it’s that a woman likes to be offered something comfortable to wear while sleeping over. An old—but laundered!—T-shirt is much appreciated.

Ruining clothing. Do not throw our on your unswept floor. Do not chuck our bra and panties with the dust bunnies under your bed. Do not cover our new pants with lube. We’re all for ripping off clothes in the heat of the moment, but be mindful of our duds.

Not spending the night. The only way to get out of spending the night together post-coitus is to discuss it before you’ve done the deed. Anything less and you are an ass.

Sex And Technology

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What You Need To Know
Technology is offering safe alternatives, such as computerized avatars.
It is possible to get a second reversal.
Try doing sphincter exercises to control (in the event you pass stool during sex).

(Phatforums Blog/ AskMen.com) - “People involved can use their computers to control their computerized avatar selves within scenes, role plays and specific sexual behaviors.”

Sex and Technology
Hey Dr. Chaves,

I’m curious about the MMO genre. I don’t know much about it, but it seems like something I would be into since I’m the young tech type. Can you offer a little help with understanding it?

Thanks,
Dave

This might be the first of its kind I’ve ever received. MMO is a fascinating fusion of worlds between sex and technology. The two worlds have always had a close relationship: the first camera shots of nudity, beaver loops filmed on 16mm movie reels, battery operated or rechargeable sex toys, streaming videos online, and online sex fantasy games are examples of this relationship. MMO stands for massively multiplayer online, and these online games are enjoyed with other users via the internet.

Usually the MMO term is grouped with more letters to define what type of online sex game. For example, MMOEG means massively multiplayer online erotic games (more focused on seduction, and arousal), and MMOVSG means massively multiplayer online virtual sex games (more focused on intercourse, oral, anal, etc.). And for those who prefer enjoying their sexual games alone, there is SP, or versions that are single person. SPVSG and SPEG don’t require being online, but the use of a computer.

People involved can use their computers to control their computerized avatar selves within scenes, role plays and specific sexual behaviors. If you have the money, toys can be purchased and used on yourself that are synced with the program and that elicit erotic sensations to your body. Pretty advanced stuff, eh? You can choose your favorite fantasy scenarios, which may be brand new or ones you dream of trying: role plays, BDSM, transsexuals, orgies, fetishism, etc. Like your cell phone or computer, technology changes in the blink of an eye, and sex tech is no different. Pretty unique , wouldn’t you say?

Vasectomy reversals
Dear Dr. Chaves,

I am 43 years old and am dating a 30-year-old. I had a vasectomy in 2000, a reversal in 2007 and then another vasectomy in 2010. I am very interested in having another child because I am young at heart and my two other children are my life. Is it possible to get another reversal, or is there another way to get my sperm?

Thank you,
Roger

You definitely need to see a doctor who specializes in vasectomy reversal and who is skilled in both vasoepididymostomy and vasovasostomy procedures. Your previous MD is a good place to start, as that doctor knows your case history already. Depending on your specific case, it’s possible to have a second procedure. A number of factors impact the success of a vasectomy reversal: where the previous procedure was done on the vas deferens, how long ago, the amount of abnormal sperm that resulted from the previous vasectomy, possible lowered sperm counts, etc. There are no guarantees, and studies suggest the range of successful vasectomy reversal is about 40% to 45%.

Other options: You can also look into sperm harvesting and in vitro fertilization (IVF). Sperm harvesting essentially extracts sperm from the tubes or the testes, depending on the individual case. Eventually the sperm are joined with the female egg through IVF. IVF has similar rates of effectiveness — around 40% depending on fertility factors of the female and the male sperm. This option is much more costly than a vasectomy reversal and likely in the tens of thousands of dollars range when it’s all said and done. I would encourage you to seek out a male reproductive clinic with doctors who specialize in this field and spend a lot of time evaluating the pros and cons of a vasectomy reversal or harvesting/IVF.

With all this talk of surgeries, reversals, harvesting, and money that could put a kid through college, here’s a last suggestion for our readers from a sexologist who likes to keep things simple: Use a .

What happens when your girlfriend takes a dump during sex?

Bowel movements during sex
Hi Dr. Chaves,

I am writing to you about a weird issue, so please don’t get embarrassed. My problem is very difficult to express. Sometimes while I have sex sitting on my boyfriend, I get the feeling that my stool is coming out. And then I start to try to control the stool to make sure it doesn’t come out. At the same time, I’m trying for my orgasm, but finish it in fear. And the weird, shameful thing is that it’s happened four times that I couldn’t control it, and my stool dropped on his balls and in the bed. At first my boyfriend wasn’t annoyed, but last time he got annoyed. What should I do and how can I prevent this? Is there any medicine that will make my stool harder for at least six hours? Please help.

Thanks,
Anonymous

I can understand how this issue can impact both your mental focus and be a stressor in the bedroom. I think most of us can feel empathy with your situation, and it makes sense how much this can affect your orgasm, your ability to relax during sex, and feelings of embarrassment. Here are a couple of suggestions.

First, a minor anatomy lesson. Your anus has two separate muscles that control the doorway into your rectum: the internal sphincter and external sphincter. These muscles can become looser or tighter depending on a variety of factors. Some research suggests that doing anal sphincter exercises (similar to Kegel exercises for vaginal tightness) can help a person tighten his or her anal sphincter muscles. They are very simple to do. Essentially you are squeezing your anus and sphincter muscles tightly and then releasing. One way to learn how to do this exercise is to imagine you are having a bowel movement and cut your stool with your sphincter muscles. A person can come up with his or her own anal sphincter exercise workout regimen to help strengthen his or her back door. Try 3 sets of 15, and do them 3 times a day. That’ll be a good daily workout.

In addition, having a bowel movement before sex can help reduce the likelihood of an accident occurring. You can also induce a bowel movement before sex with a simple enema before you jump in the sack. With some work and a few presex precautionary steps, this will eventually be something you won’t have to think about during sex.

Wild Sex stories
Dr. C,

You seem like a pretty open-minded guy and really comfortable about everything that has to do with sex. Is there anything that has ever made you uncomfortable or tripped you out?

Thanks,
Billy

Not much trips me out these days. I chalk it all up to diversity and unique human behavior. Actually, the more unique and atypical, the more interested I become. This old sexologist has a few tales locked away in the memory vault, and I wouldn’t know where to begin with storytelling time. But here’s one for the guys, since we can all relate to this to some degree.

I was at a dungeon one evening with a few friends, when a guy approached me and my two female friends. He was into something called CBT (cock and ball torture). He asked if the girls would be interested in kicking him in the genitals for his erotic pleasure. After a bit of coaching and help with negotiation, the girls decided to give it a shot — much to his delight. He spread his legs and left his twig and berries exposed to the world, ready for some TLC, CBT style. The first girl, more of a femme lady and not really the athletic type, gave him a solid kick to the balls. It was a firm kick, enough to make my legs clamp shut and for the sound to echo throughout the room. The guy barely budged. She checked in with him and asked how that felt. On a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being extremely pleasurable and 1 being little to no enjoyment, he gave her a 3. Ouch, tough critic.

The second girl, an athlete with a soccer history, looked at me and nodded. I saw something in her eyes, a devilish look that rarely comes out to play. She pulled her leg back and gave this man the fiercest, hardest kick I’ve ever witnessed straight to his genitals. Bam! He grabbed his crotch, his legs gave out beneath him, and he landed face-first, flat on the ground. He fell so hard and fast, I couldn’t tell if his genitals or face hurt worse. He was rolling around, moaning and panting. My friend looked shocked, scared she had overdone it and maybe harmed this man. So I asked him, “One to ten, how was that?” He said, with a cherry-red face and a smile from ear to ear, “That was a ten!”

Now before some Jackass wannabes start kicking each other in the nuts for fun, keep in mind that a blow to the testes can cause harmful and permanent damage. This guy was a rare anomaly and had balls of steel, so don’t try this at home.

More Young People Delay Sex, Try Oral Sex First, CDC Says

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report also finds same-sex encounters more common for women than

THURSDAY, March 3 (HealthDay News) — More young people are waiting to have sex, and more women than men are engaging in same-sex encounters, according to a new report detailing Americans’ evolving sexual behaviors and preferences.

In statistics compiled from with 13,500 men and women aged 15 to 44, the 2006-2008 National Survey of Family Growth also indicates that more than half of young people under age 24 who have had oral sex did so before having vaginal intercourse.

Other revelations from the survey, released March 3 by the National Center for Statistics of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, include three times as many women over 18 reporting being bisexual as men.

The CDC estimates that 19 million sexually transmitted infections occur each year, along with 50,000 new diagnoses of HIV infection. One function of the report is to provide public health researchers with information to develop prevention strategies targeting high-risk groups, lead author Anjani Chandra said.

“Traditionally, people tend to focus on vaginal intercourse, but they sort of forget about other types of sexual behavior,” said Chandra, a health scientist at the National Center for Health Statistics, which last released a similar report using data from 2002.

Some of the findings include:

* More young people reported never having any sexual contact with another person. In 2002, about 22 percent of youths aged 15 to 24 said they fit this description, while 27 percent of males and 29 percent of females did so in 2006-2008.
* White youths aged 15 to 24 were more likely (57 percent) than blacks or Hispanics of the same age (39 percent) to report engaging in oral sex before ever having intercourse.
* Twice as many women (12.5 percent) reported any same-sex contact as men (5.2 percent), a number that held steady since 2002.
* About 3.5 percent of women reported they were bisexual, compared to 1.1 percent of men. About 1.1 percent of women and 1.7 percent of men said they were homosexual.
* About 35 percent of females and 44 percent of males reported ever having anal sex with an opposite-sex partner.

Bill Albert, chief program officer for the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned , said he is encouraged by the disclosure that more young people have had no sexual contact.

“The adult view is, when it comes to teens and sex . . . that things are bad and getting worse,” Albert said. “I don’t want to be Pollyanna-ish and say that there’s nothing but good news here, but by and large the news is good.”

But Albert said he believes that the statistics indicating most youths are engaging in oral sex before intercourse may be nebulous.

“What is ‘before’ — an hour, or two days? My strong suspicion here is that sexual activity tends to co-occur . . . they’re probably going to have vaginal sex shortly thereafter,” he said. “For some young people, they’re running the bases backwards. They used to go from more casual to more intimate, but that’s not necessarily the case these days.”

Sexuality expert Dr. Jennifer Berman said it’s not surprising that young people engage in oral sex first because it’s now considered a way to gain status and prestige among their peers.

Also, “It often has to do with sexual education or the lack thereof,” said Berman, director of the Berman Women’s Wellness Center in , Calif. “Young people don’t perceive oral sex as sex and think they’re still virgins if there’s no penetration.”

Chandra and Berman had very different takes on why twice as many women reported same-sex contact as men.

“Whether [the gender discrepancy] is real or they simply have a higher comfort level reporting that, I can’t say,” Chandra said. “Their comfort . . . may bolster their honesty and disclosure level.”

Berman said she feels the disclosure is genuine, but fueled by societal forces.

“In the [sexuality] field and in L.A., we think that same-sex experiences with women are a lot of times related to drugs and alcohol,” she said, “or designed and choreographed for men’s pleasure.”

Berman was critical of the scope and structure of the national report, saying it “left out very productive, active generations” by excluding participants 45 and older and omitting details about sexual habits such as the use of contraceptives, lubricants or .

“It’s an interesting sample,” she said. But, “it certainly doesn’t enable people in the field to form valid conclusions . . . or form systems or supports.”

More information

For more on sexual attraction and orientation, visit the Nemours Foundation.

SOURCES: Anjani Chandra, Ph.D., health scientist, U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Health Statistics; Bill Albert, chief program officer, National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy; Jennifer Berman, M.D., director, Berman Women’s Wellness Center, Beverly Hills, Calif.; March 3, 2011, National Center for Health Statistics, report, Sexual Behavior, Sexual Attraction, and Sexual Identity in the United States: Data from the 2006-2008 National Survey of Family Growth

Maryland’s Tough Adult Cabaret Law Gets Stripped

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RICHMOND, Va. — A federal appeals panel ruled Thursday that Maryland can’t ban the mix of alcohol and adult entertainment, as well as certain simulated sexual acts.

The decision by the 4th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals upholds a federal judge’s injunction against “unconstitutionally overbroad” strip club regulations there.

“We conclude that the statute — which limits the range of permissible conduct, attire, and entertainment at establishments licensed to serve alcoholic beverages — prohibits a broad swath of expression protected by the 1st Amendment and is not susceptible to a limiting construction,” 4th Circuit Judge James Wynn wrote for the court. “Accordingly, we affirm the permanent injunction prohibiting enforcement of the statute.”

Maryland amended its laws to outlaw servers and hostesses, sexual attire simulating erogenous areas and sexual touching in venues licensed to serve alcohol. The new regulations were supposed to take effect in October 2005.

The rules also banned the simulation of sexual acts, such as masturbation, sodomy, bestiality and flagellation, as well as the use of and novelties in adult-themed clubs.

Further, nude entertainers would also be prohibited under the from being within six feet of customers.

Maryland and Prince George’s County officials said that the statute served a legitimate interest, linking the combination of nude dancing and alcohol to the secondary effects of higher rates of crime, and and lower property values.

But operators of two clubs — Legend Night Club and the Classic III Supper Club — contended that the officials showed no evidence of any such secondary effects in Maryland and failed to support their claim with studies. They sued and had their cases consolidated against the state and Prince George’s County in 2005.

A lower court in determined that the law was unconstitutionally overbroad. It also said that a grandfather clause, involving an exemption to venues that have been in under one owner since September 1981, violates equal protection rights.

The lower court judge, U.S. District Judge Marvin Garbis, ruled foul in the case, because not so coincidentally the former Maryland state Sen. Tommie Broadwater owns a gentlemen’s club that received a license on Aug. 14, 1981.

“The court finds plaintiffs to have established beyond any reasonable doubt, that the legislation’s ‘grandfather clause’ was deliberately crafted to favor the potentially connected former senator,” Garbis wrote at the time.

In the latest legal wave, Maryland and Prince George’s County appealed to the Richmond, Va.-based 4th Circuit, which voted to affirm the permanent injunction on Thursday.

Canada Still Behind on Restricting Phthalates in Adult Toys

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OTTAWA, —Government officials in Ottawa have taken steps to restrict phthalates in children’s toys, but have not yet issued the same restrictions on .

Health Canada issued a statement Tuesday that the new restrictions will be in place by June and will essentially cal for lowering the concentrations of six phthalates. The controversial chemicals are used to make plastics more pliable, and have been used to give sex toys a “jellied” feel.

And the lack of action when it comes to phthalates and sex toys has some in the industry upset.

“I think it’s completely atrocious that they don’t regulate these chemicals in sex toys,” Eric Armour, owner of adult shop Trinity in Squamish, B.C., told The National Post.

According to Armour, his store has sold only phthalate-free toys since opening in 2004.

Member of Parliament Carolyn Bennett, a medical doctor, has issued a call for the sex toy industry in Canada to be regulated, saying chemicals used in many toys pose a potential health risk for .

Bennett sent a letter to Health Minister Leona Aglukkaq in 2009, making note of the need for regulation. At issue for Bennett is the use of bisphenol A and phthalates; both are commonly used ingredients in plastics.

Minister of Health Leona Aglukkaq responded that Health Canada was not concerned with the chemicals as they relate to adults and sex toys.

“The mere presence of phthalates in soft vinyl is not a health concern,” wrote the minister, adding, “Health Canada has no immediate plans to study phthalates in adult toys.”

Prenatal phthalate exposure has been shown to cause genital development impairment in male rodents, and an August 2005 study reported in Environmental Health Perspectives, a journal published by the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences, has shown a similar impairment for exposed babies.

“The department continues to watch for new developments related to phthalates in sex toys and will take appropriate risk management action as necessary based on the available scientific evidence,” said a Health Canada spokesperson.

While there are several existing studies showing that exposure to the chemicals at certain levels could cause hormone complications, the chemicals have not been banned outright in the adult industry. Several pleasure product manufacturers, however, have taken it upon themselves to voluntarily stop using the chemicals.

Fifth Cal/OSHA Meeting Breaks No New Ground

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OAKLAND, Calif.—It’s rare that meetings of the Cal/OSHA Subcommittees on Blood Borne Pathogens in the Adult Film Industry (AFI) actually make it through their agendas, which made Tuesday morning’s meeting the exception—except that the purpose of the meeting was to finish up the agenda begun in meeting #3, which was the Advisory Subcommittee on Medical Issues.

One reason the meeting was so brief may have been the fact that subcommittee members who might have stoked one or more of the many controversies about adult performers’ —Gail Bolan, former Chief of the STD Control Branch of the state’s Department of Public ; Frank Strona, Chief of the San Francisco Department of Public ’s STD/HIV Unit—STD Prevention & Control Section; Naomi Akers, Executive Director of the St. James Infirmary; and HIV specialist Dr. Aaron Aronow—were absent from the meeting.

Those who were in attendance—Dr. Peter Kerndt, Director of the Los Angeles Department of Public Health’s STD Program; Nurse Denise Bleak of Beyond AIDS and APIC; and Dr. Paula Tavrow of the UCLA School of Public Health—had few disagreements regarding their support for mandatory use in the adult industry, and two members present by phone—Dr. John Brooks of the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Dr. Bruce Bernard of the National Institutes of Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH)—were also generally in favor of the requirement.

The meeting was chaired once again by Cal/OSHA Senior Safety Engineer Deborah Gold, assisted by District Manager Peter Riley and attorney Amy Martin, and the audience included representatives from a spectrum of interest groups including attorney Brian Chase of AIDS Healthcare Foundation, Diane Duke and attorney Kevin Blank for Free Speech Coalition, attorney Karen Tynan for AIM Medical Associates (formerly AIM Healthcare Foundation), attorney Paul Cambria for various adult companies, Mark Roy McGrath for the L.A. County STD Program, Christina Hart-Rodriguez for UCLA’s Reproductive Health Interest Group, Stacey Swimme of St. James Infirmary and several others.

The meeting began with Gold summarizing the proceedings of the previous medical subcommittee meeting, then launching right into a discussion of Agenda Item #3: Assessing the risks of STD and other infections if were or were not used for finger-fucking (not the term they used, of course), blowjobs, vaginal and anal intercourse and “other sexual or parenteral [skin-piercing] contact.”

Dr. Kerndt began the discussion by referring to a chart provided at the previous meeting by L.A. County Health Department’s Dr. Robert Kim-Farley and noting that he generally agreed with the “hierarchy of risk” set forth in Dr. Kim-Farley’s chart titled, “Review of Major AFI HIV/STD Health Risks.” That chart places non-condom anal sex as the highest-risk practice for both HIV and STD exposure, followed by vaginal sex, creampies in either the pussy or ass and cum contacting the membranes of the eye. Blowjobs and pussy-licking were considered low-risk for HIV but high for other STDs, while rimming, cumming in the mouth and sharing sex toys were considered low for HIV infection but “moderate” for other STDs, and skin-to-skin contact as “very low” for HIV but still “moderate” for other STDs.

“There is an important need to differentiate between treatable and non-treatable, because it can reduce the risk, mitigate risk through screening and treatment along with barrier protection to reduce it to an acceptable level,” Dr. Kerndt added regarding skin-to-skin contact. “But certainly barrier protection for anal, vaginal exposure, and I think the primary exposure for finger and other skin contact would be much less, and those would be probably the non-blood borne pathogens; the fecal-oral risk and also the ATM risk could be mitigated by cleaning the surfaces and protecting the membranes from exposure.”

When her turn came, Nurse Bleak referenced Free Speech Coalition’s Blood Borne Pathogen Exposure Control Plan, which it had introduced at the subcommittee’s first meeting, and began making minor corrections to the document before being reminded by Gold that she should be addressing the question of which (if any) practices put adult performers at risk for infection. She then voiced general agreement with Dr. Kerndt’s analysis, as did Dr. Tavrow later.

“In response to the statement that this would drive the [adult] companies out of country to do their filming,” Nurse Bleak said of the possible requirement of condoms for blowjobs, “as well as what’s available for college students, where I work in the northern part of Los Angeles County, the San Fernando Valley, great hub of the adult film industry—it’s a large economic force there—so I’ve been told, especially by the Employee Health Services at CalState-Northridge … that many AFI performers are actually CSUN students; they get income from that to go to college. So it made sense to go to the websites of colleges and look at educational content on those college sites to see what kind of STD prevention they have. There’s really no discusson of barrier protection for oral sex there,” she noted.

“The adult film industry makes reference in some of their to the ‘pounding away’ at a receptive partner,” she continued. “The ‘pounding away’ phrase would mean repeated vigorous forceful insertion of a penis or other object into an orifice. I believe that’s well-known to cause some micro-abrasions… and that would be a portal of entry for a blood borne pathogen.”

However, when the subcomittee members were later questioned about whether condom use could cause such micro-abrasions, as actress Nina Hartley had reported at a previous meeting, the consensus was that if sufficient lube were used, and the condoms had not been treated with the anti-HIV chemical non-oxynol-9, that wouldn’t happen.

“It’s also pretty well known that condoms aren’t as disgusting as some people make them seem in the adult film industry,” Nurse Bleak added. “I rather liked them when I was handing them out in my homeless clinic duties and my AIDS Control Clinic duties. I like giving out condoms to people. I’m for them.”

Finally, regarding cumshots, she advised, “I just have maybe one term for the adult film industry that’s coming to your local theater: CGI. Computer graphics. So if you’re ready for computer graphics, then you can simulate that and … maybe you can consider not putting people at risk with actual secretions when you can simulate fake secretions; maybe make them more interesting.”

But Dr. Kerndt was not about to agree that condoms shouldn’t be mandatory for blowjobs or dental dams for pussy-licking, and he even had some cautionary words for mere skin-to-skin contact.

“I think there are other factors that aren’t knowable in each instance that may increase risk, such as a performer that may be menstruating, so there would be direct contact with blood without barrier protection that would greatly increase the risk,” he warned. “Also, any sexually transmitted infection that may be on an unscreened anatomic site or even a screened anatomic site but within the incubation period of that disease but outside of the sensitivity of the diagnostic method, and many of the STDs in the oral pharynx and rectum are known to be asymptomiatic, and when you have that STD, the normal protective mucosal membrane is not present, it increases the risk. Even without an STD, there is substantial risk of exosure to a viral or a bacterial sexually transmitted disease. So it really is about measures that can be taken to reduce that risk to an acceptable level through either screening or barrier protection.”

Other relevant factors that Dr. Kerndt noted were increased risks if an extra-large or were used, or if the performers engaged in double-anal or double-vaginal penetration, which he claimed was the case with some of those infected by “Patient Zero” Darren James in 2004.

There was also lengthy discussion of the difference in risk between those getting blowjobs and those giving them (referred to as “receptors”), and the panel generally agreed that the receptor was more at risk than the the person receiving the stimulus.

“In the 2004 outbreak, where one informer who was infected worked with 13 female performers, infecting three of them, for a 23 percent rate,” Dr. Kerndt said, “and that individual tested negative using PCR viral load, and he infected the first of those three women four days after his negative test, and worked until he was screened again at about 21, 28 days, and I believe… all three of the women were exposed to double-anal.”

However, a review of the movies in which James performed in 2004 indicate that none of the women infected by James participated in double-anal scenes with him.

The subcommittee also discussed whether STD testing such as the AIM testing regimen would be helpful if used with non-condom oral sex and in combination with barrier protections (condoms, dental dams, goggles/face shields, rubber gloves) during vaginal and anal intercourse, and in which types of situations—pre-screening, periodic screening and/or post-exposure screening—it would be most effective?

“If the status of the insertive partner would be known for both the treatable and chronic infections,” Dr. Kerndt stated, referring mainly to oral sex, “basically we would support medical monitoring of all workers and treatment of the treatable. The screening would be consistent with the incubation periods of the diseases, and they would be appropriate for the anatomic site of exposure… Currently, I think the expectation for the industry is that there would be barrier protection for oral sex, that there not be exposures to other potentially infectious material, even in cervical secretions, so right now, if the question is [whether] through screening and through limitations based upon chronic infection, whether the level of exposure and risk to the exposed individual could be reduced to an acceptable level, I would say maybe, but it depends on the infection status of some of these individuals and actually what the exposure in fact would be… If condoms were not used for oral sex, I think that there would have to be screening and limitations placed on the individual who had an untreatable condition. It may be a recurrent herpes outbreak, a primary herpes, it may be an HIV-infected insertive partner—I don’t think, with or without ejaculation, without protection should that be allowed. There should be a limitation placed on that exposure.”

“Certainly, if there was exposure,” he continued, “if there was a breach in the barrier method that exposed that worker, then I think that exposed individual should be screened.”

The subcommittee spent several minutes discussing what steps should be taken regarding contact in sex scenes with a known HIV-positive individual, even though there has never been any such reported incident in the hetero adult moviemaking community.

Dr. Kerndt challenged the frequency of talent testing by AIM.

“Certainly in a one-month interval, we’ve seen several examples where that interval has been insufficient to protect workers in this industry,” he said. “In the 2004 outbreak, the individual was screened, faithfully, monthly for four to seven years, and it worked during that period—or may have; we don’t know, really, how many exposures—but then this individual tested negative, and three days later infected the first of three of 13 women he worked with, and 23 days later when he was tested, it was found that he was infected, and during that 23 day window, 61 first- and second-generation persons were exposed. So the one month interval … is not going to exclude everything, but clearly if condoms had been used in those shoots, three fewer women would be infected with HIV.”

Dr. Kerndt also referenced the recent infection of performer Derrick Burts (who allegedly contracted HIV during an all-condom shoot), then claimed, “I think we can expect this is going to occur consistently in the industry, and I think another really important part is, maybe we don’t know all the answers, but we have to have the information as to the industry and the cooperation of the industry to really fully characterize the risk from these risks [sic] and really determine how the infections entered the industry and whether they’re acquired or transmitted in the workplace. Because there is a source for all of these infections; they’re person to person; they don’t spontaneously generate in an individual; they’re all person to person contact, and it’s either exposure in the workplace or exposures out of the workplace brought into the workplace. And obviously we can’t control everythign that occurs in the sexual context outside of the workplace.”

“It sounds to me that what you’re saying is, there’s an unacceptable risk to anything but full barrier protection?” asked Gold.

“Yeah, I think that if there is full barrier protection, the screening is less of an issue, the pre-screening,” Dr. Kerndt replied.

But when Gold asked if there were any point to screening (testing) in situations where “full barrier protection” were used in sex scenes, Dr. Kerndt equivocated, admitting that there might be.

“I think you could have oral exposures unprotected with appropriate screening,” he said.

In the end, all of the subcommittee members agreed that testing of some sort would be useful, even if condoms and other barriers were used for all on-camera sex acts, if for no other reason than to help gather statistics on STD infections rates in the industry.

Gold also noted that the CDC recommends that performers obtain all of the available anti-STD vaccinations, including those to counter Hepatitis A and B infections, as well as the recently-recommended HPV vaccines.

The hearing concluded just after noon, with Gold stating that the next meeting of the subcommittees would take place in March in Van Nuys, Calif., and will be a “business meeting” of the Cal/OSHA Standards Board, during which no public comments will be allowed. However, she said, prior to the commencement of the business meeting, audience members would be allowed to comment on the subcommittee recommendations (if any), but that no rule-making would take place at that meeting.

“Our chief, right now, is interested in possibly making a rule-making proposal,” she said. “In addition to that, the petitioner [AIDS Healthcare Foundation] or anybody else can still go back to the Standards Board. So we can propose something, Cal/OSHA can propose something; based on this record, the petitioner can go back and say, ‘Even though the division didn’t propose something we think you should act on, here is our modified petition.’ The Free Speech Coalition or any other person sitting here or not sitting here in this room can go to the Standards Board and say, ‘Look, a record has been created, and this is what we think you should do about it.’ Anybody can go to the Standards Board and say, ‘This is what we think you should do now.’”

Gold further stated that if any rule is proposed, that there would be a public hearing on it and “a lengthy public comment period, and that may modify the proposal.”

While neither Gold nor any other participant at Tuesday’s hearing indicated that they would definitely propose a new rule to modify the current Health Code requirements, certainly the medical subcommittee seemed poised to advise the board that condom (and possibly other barrier) use be required for sex scenes in all adult movies shot in , though the subcommittee’s view on requiring condoms for blowjobs appeared unresolved.

Keep checking back with AVN.com for information and analysis of Cal/OSHA’s continuing fight to force the adult industry to be “condom only.”

RealTouch Makes Website Safe-For-Work

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CHARLOTTE, N.C.—The interactive RealTouch sex device for has made its safe-for-work (SFW).

The newly designed website focuses on what its manufacturer describes as the “innovative engineering, unrivaled versatility and patented technology” of RealTouch. The site notes that users get “incredible sensations” from the device, which employs haptic technology to add the sense of touch “for an incredible, synchronized interactive experience.”

Used while watching an movie, RealTouch gives a the precise experience he is watching on the screen, including moistness, warmth, friction and strength. A button linking to a more explicit explanation of how the device actually works is available on the new site.

Introduction of the SFW version of the site coincides with a move by the company to begin selling RealTouch in retail outlets and through web merchants nationwide this spring. Up to now RealTouch has been sold exclusively through the websites of RealTouch.com website and its parent, AEBN.net.

RealTouch has earned accolades from the media since its introduction. After witnessing a demonstration on his Sirius/XM show, joked with his listeners: “This is what I’ve been waiting for all my life!” magazine called RealTouch the “future of sex,” while Fleshbot said, “It’s one of the most remarkable male we’ve ever seen.”

Drive-thru sex toy shop offers privacy in Alabama

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HUNTSVILLE, — Gabrielle Silva takes down a customer’s order from the drive-thru window, stuffs a bag full of products and passes it outside to the couple waiting in a car.

“Thanks, and I put some free in there, too!” Silva chirps.

In this -savvy north Alabama city, visitors won’t just find burgers and prescriptions at the drive-thru window.

A “romance” store called Pleasures offers a rare convenience not only for these parts but nationally: a drive-through with adult novelties for sale. Business is brisk so far, with cars sometimes lining up three deep for vibrators, lubricants, lingerie and other risque items.

“It’s been doing well, and really well on nights when it’s cold or rainy,” said employee Toni Kennedy. “Discretion and the ease of it are big, and convenience. We’re Americans. We like everything convenient.”

Even toys, as much as elected officials in Alabama have tried to prevent them from being sold in the conservative, Bible Belt state.

Pleasures is owned by businesswoman Sherri Williams, who fought the state for almost a decade over what’s considered by free-speech advocates to be one of the country’s toughest anti-obscenity laws. Among other things, the 1998 law banned the sale of products intended for sexual stimulation.

With two sex-toy stores in Alabama’s Valley, Williams sued to overturn the law with the help of the American Civil Liberties Union. She won initially when a federal judge ruled in 1999 there was no rational basis for the law. But the state appealed and Williams lost, allowing the law to remain on the books even though it wasn’t enforced during the litigation.

The U.S. Supreme Court refused to hear the case in 2007, ending Williams’ challenge. Distribution of sex toys is a misdemeanor on the first offense with a maximum penalty of a $10,000 fine and one year in jail, although the law doesn’t ban possession.

But the law has a loophole that allows for the sale of sex toys that are needed for unspecified “medical, scientific, educational, legislative, judicial, or law enforcement” purposes, and Williams jumped through it. Customers buying toys — items that can be used for sexual stimulation — fill out an anonymous form with 10 questions including whether they or a partner have difficulty with sexual fulfillment.

In November, she held the grand opening for an expanded Pleasures store in an old bank building at a busy intersection. Williams first opened in the Tennessee Valley in 1993; this is her second expansion, and she has a smaller store in nearby Decatur.

It seemed like a waste not to use the old drive-thru window once run by bank tellers, so Silva and her co-workers now sell all sorts of adult products from the side of the building. Just like at a fast-food restaurant, there’s a brightly lit sign outside with products and prices — herbal “enhancement pills” are $8 per dose. Williams believes her drive-thru is the first in the country to offer adult novelties for sale.

The woman in one car wanted a rubber toy that spins and pulses. A couple in another vehicle stopped by for free condoms, which are advertised on a sign visible from University Drive, a main drag through town.

A few yards away from Pleasures, on the other side of a curb, workers at a neighboring McDonald’s restaurant dish out fries and burgers.

Williams runs what she calls an “upscale” adult store, and using an old bank building with a brick exterior and manicured shrubs outside doesn’t hurt the image.

“It actually has two vaults,” Williams said. “It has a full-blown vault upstairs, and the basement is poured concrete with a vault door. This was a 7,200-square-foot bank.”

Huntsville is a high-tech government and town, and Pleasures workers say their customers include soldiers and couples based at the Army’s Redstone Arsenal and workers from NASA’s Marshall Space Flight Center.

On a busy Thursday night, the clientele looks like the crowd at the mall down the street — young and old, singles and couples.

Inside, the shop has bright lights and royal-purple walls. The mood is mostly light, with friends giggling as they browse shelves full of rubber and plastic playthings.

But there’s a more serious side to the business, too.

“People come in and say, ‘I need something to save my marriage.’ I’ve had that a million times,” said Samantha Todd, who has worked at Pleasure for 2 1/2 years. “I’ve had people come in and cry. It can be very serious.”

The store includes an “intimacy clinic” that opens next month and will offer sexual counseling to couples and groups, but there are no how-to classes; all the assistance is verbal. It also sells instructional videos, books and a few magazines.

Employees check the ID of everyone who enters the store — customers must be at least 18.

Police say they’ve had no complaints over Pleasures and don’t pay it more attention than other stores.

“Right now there’s not really anything for us to do with it,” said Mark Roberts, a spokesman with the Huntsville Police Department.

The head of a New York-based nonprofit group that campaigns for tougher anti-obscenity statutes wishes government officials would work harder to stamp out businesses like Pleasures, and sex toys.

“I liken it to a cancer, a slow-moving cancer … and law enforcement is ignoring it,” said Robert W. Peters Jr., president of Morality in Media Inc. “It’s been a battle going back to the 1960s.”

Williams said her store and drive-thru serve a need for couples and individuals who need a little extra spice or excitement in their sex lives.

“Also,” she said, “the police have already said they have a million other things to do.”