May 21, 2013

NASCAR: Hamlin on pole at Fontana; rival Logano close behind

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qualified first for Sunday’s Auto Club 400 at , Calif., on Friday.(Photo: Jonathan , )

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Hamlin and Joey Logano still haven’t settled their feud from Bristol
Logano made it clear he remains upset over what happened

(PhatzRadio / ) —- FONTANA, Calif. — The distraction of an ongoing feud with Joey Logano apparently isn’t slowing Denny Hamlin down.

Hamlin won the pole position for Sunday’s Auto Club 400 at Fontana’s Auto Club , out-dueling Logano (sixth) and 41 other drivers one week after an incident at Bristol sparked a war of .

Though Hamlin showed slight on Friday over some of his comments, Logano made it clear through short answers that the aren’t going away anytime soon.

In one-sentence responses, Logano vowed to race Hamlin “the way he raced me” and said there won’t be any resolution “until anyone says anything to me personally.”

“I haven’t gotten a phone call, so he can tell you whatever he wants, right?” Logano said to reporters.

Minutes earlier, Hamlin told the media he regretted questioning Logano’s driving ability because “I didn’t need to give my opinion on that; I think it was kind of a .”

When the two were teammates at , Hamlin said, they clashed on the several times but it was kept out of the spotlight.

“It never really was public, but we had times where it was like, ‘Hey, why’d you race me that way?’ or vice versa,” Hamlin said. “I think I had just as much disappointment as him on the as teammates as he had in me. I think it was an even shake there.

“Off the racetrack, we’d see each other on the racetrack in meetings and be like nothing ever happened.”

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College Football: Te’o’s unbelievable saga takes latest turn in off-camera interview

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(PhatzRadio / / AP) —- “Maybe I sound too convinced,” ’s Jeremy Schaap said at one point during his breathless 14-minute live report just after interviewing Manti Te’o for two-and-a-half hours late Friday, “but I’m just telling you the way Te’o told his story, I found him very believable.”

It may be that the only way Te’o can convince the rest of America he’s believable is to sit down one-on-one with each and every citizen, like he did Schaap, and tell them his story from start to finish. Because out-of-context voice and text snippets from a late-night off-camera interview aren’t likely to garner him sympathy for a saga so strange, so convoluted and so unrelatable to most. It may be that few ever believe him to be the innocent hoax victim he claims, but there’s little doubt at this point that he believed it — to an almost frightening degree.

Many of ’s answers to Schaap’s questions were unsurprising if you’ve been following this story since Deadspin broke it Wednesday. Te’o met “Lennay Kekua” over , he said, during his at , and had intermittent contact after that. It escalated last year, first when she sought comfort because her father had passed away, and then, after her purported in April. Those made-up details he told Sports Illustrated and other media of having met the fictitious Lennay Kekua? “I even knew that it was crazy that I was with somebody that I didn’t meet,” he said, so he “tailored” his stories accordingly. So did Teo’s father, because his son had lied to him, too.

Others offered detail as to how exactly he became so close with a stranger. They shared a “spiritual connection,” said Te’o, a devout Mormon, who exchanged scripture readings with Kekua. His formed a relationship with her, too, bonding over their shared religion. And then came the purported traumas — a , coma and — that led to their all-night .

But the revelation Friday that truly defied comprehension was Te’o’s stunning admission that he did not conclude for certain that Lennay was a hoax until just TWO DAYS EARLIER — when Tuiasosopo confessed and apologized to him via Twitter messaging. (Schaap says Te’o showed him the messages. Deadspin has doubts about their authenticity. The hoaxsters apparently kept him on the hook by spinning an outrageous tale that Lennay had previously faked her death to elude a drug dealer, and, according to Schaap, by showing up at ’s team hotel the night before the national championship game and taking a picture in the lobby.

Remember, according to both Teo’s and Notre Dame’s reported timeline, he first received a call from this now-undead girlfriend Dec. 6. He informed the school Dec. 26. They launched an investigation that concluded Jan. 5, two days before the title game, and told his family the results. Even after all that, as recently as Jan. 16 — just two hours before Deadspin revealed the hoax to the world — Te’o apparently held on to his fantasy that Lennay was real.

Even the most hopeless romantic will find it implausible that Te’o could be so madly in with someone whom he not only never met but had been outed by people he trusts as the imaginary product of a hoax. It’s also hard to believe Te’o was ever madly in with Lennay, given some of his other descriptions of the relationship.

Why, for instance, did he never Skype or video chat with his long-distance love? Well, he tried to, but the woman’s screen on the other end always appeared as a black box. And why did he not visit Lennay in California during her supposed two-month hospitalization in the spring and summer of 2012? “”It never really crossed my mind,” he said. “I don’t know. I was in school.”

Given those answers, it’s hard to believe Te’o had a p.r. consultant in the room with him the whole time. Wait — what am I saying? It’s hard to believe any of this ever happened. But it apparently did.

That Te’o could emerge from the interview as an unsympathetic figure is a product of his chosen forum, because there’s now a mountain of evidence that he did get scammed by a cruel and clearly unhinged individual. Earlier Friday, ESPN’s Shelly Smith spoke on camera with a 20-something man and woman that alleged Tuiasosopo pulled the same hoax on their cousin — using the same pictures of lovely Lennay — in 2008. Another unidentified woman said Tuiasosopo, a friend from church, confessed to her the whole thing. Meanwhile, pieced together that many of the crucial plot points of this elaborate ruse — a , a young woman with leukemia, a quotation Te’o later recounted to Sports Illustrated to “give roses while you can still smell them” — mirrored actual events in the lives of Tuiasasopo and his family.

This Tuiasosopo guy’s a bad dude. He most definitely did this (along with one other man and woman, Te’o said). It’s about the only conclusive detail in the whole saga.

“Te’o adamantly denies having anything to do with this,” said Schaap. “… if he’s making up his side of the story, he’s a very convincing actor.”

And yet, many will remain resolute that Te’o was a conspirator. Or that he milked the fake tragedy to gain sympathy and publicity. Or that he should have come clean a lot sooner. And that’s because there’s nothing about this interview that would sway a skeptical jury.

If Te’o truly wants to clear the air, he needs to sit down in front of a camera. He needs to show emotion, and he needs to show . Te’o may consider himself the wronged party, but many of his fans and followers still feel betrayed. He needs to apologize for his part in embellishing and perpetuating the myth of Lennay. That will require swapping the word “tailor” with “lie,” which is what he did.

Or it may just be that the whole thing’s a lost cause at this point. Clearly, there’s never going to be a satisfactory ending. Even if Tuiasosopo goes in front of a camera and comes clean to the whole operation, there will still be conspiracy theorists that claim he’s covering for Te’o (despite the fact they apparently never met prior to last November). Even if Te’o produces phone records of all those eight-hour calls with fake Lennay, his critics still won’t forgive him for lying about meeting her or continuing to discuss her publicly after the first red flag was waved Dec. 6.

And again, as I wrote earlier Friday — all of this acrimony over a fake girlfriend?

Te’o says the saga impacted his play in the Alabama game. That’s pretty obvious. But it’s not like they’re going to replay the game. Talk will focus in the coming weeks on whether Te’o’s draft stock will be affected. It’s a fair question, but then again, there will be no shortage of prospects with far more troubling character flaws than delusion and naivete.

Ultimately, the Lennay Kekua soap opera is mostly a cautionary tale for journalists and online daters while providing twisted entertainment for most everybody else. Some of the mystery element is disintegrating, which means the story will soon lose legs, yet it’s clear the Heisman finalist and formerly beloved Fighting Irish folk hero may never restore his reputation. He made a believer out of Jeremy Schaap. It’s going to take a whole lot more work to win over America.

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College Football: Te’o’s unbelievable saga takes latest turn in off-camera interview

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(PhatzRadio / / AP) —- “Maybe I sound too convinced,” ’s Jeremy Schaap said at one point during his breathless 14-minute live report just after interviewing Manti Te’o for two-and-a-half hours late Friday, “but I’m just telling you the way Te’o told his story, I found him very believable.”

It may be that the only way Te’o can convince the rest of America he’s believable is to sit down one-on-one with each and every citizen, like he did Schaap, and tell them his story from start to finish. Because out-of-context voice and text snippets from a late-night off- aren’t likely to garner him sympathy for a saga so strange, so convoluted and so unrelatable to most. It may be that few ever believe him to be the innocent hoax victim he claims, but there’s little doubt at this point that he believed it — to an almost frightening degree.

Many of Teo’s answers to Schaap’s questions were unsurprising if you’ve been following this story since Deadspin broke it Wednesday. Te’o met “Lennay Kekua” over , he said, during his at , and had intermittent contact after that. It escalated last year, first when she sought comfort because her father had passed away, and then, after her purported in April. Those made-up details he told Sports Illustrated and other media of having met the fictitious Lennay Kekua? “I even knew that it was crazy that I was with somebody that I didn’t meet,” he said, so he “tailored” his stories accordingly. So did Teo’s father, because his son had lied to him, too.

Others offered detail as to how exactly he became so close with a stranger. They shared a “spiritual connection,” said Te’o, a devout Mormon, who exchanged scripture readings with Kekua. His formed a relationship with her, too, bonding over their shared religion. And then came the purported — a , coma and — that led to their all-night .

But the revelation Friday that truly defied comprehension was Te’o’s stunning admission that he did not conclude for certain that Lennay was a hoax until just TWO DAYS EARLIER — when Tuiasosopo confessed and apologized to him via Twitter messaging. (Schaap says Te’o showed him the messages. Deadspin has doubts about their authenticity. The hoaxsters apparently kept him on the hook by spinning an outrageous tale that Lennay had previously faked her death to elude a drug dealer, and, according to Schaap, by showing up at Notre Dame’s team hotel the night before the national championship game and taking a picture in the lobby.

Remember, according to both Teo’s and Notre Dame’s reported timeline, he first received a call from this now-undead girlfriend Dec. 6. He informed the school Dec. 26. They launched an investigation that concluded Jan. 5, two days before the title game, and told his family the results. Even after all that, as recently as Jan. 16 — just two hours before Deadspin revealed the hoax to the world — Te’o apparently held on to his fantasy that Lennay was real.

Even the most hopeless romantic will find it implausible that Te’o could be so madly in with someone whom he not only never met but had been outed by people he trusts as the imaginary product of a hoax. It’s also hard to believe Te’o was ever madly in with Lennay, given some of his other descriptions of the relationship.

Why, for instance, did he never Skype or video chat with his long-distance love? Well, he tried to, but the woman’s screen on the other end always appeared as a black box. And why did he not visit Lennay in California during her supposed two-month hospitalization in the spring and summer of 2012? “”It never really crossed my mind,” he said. “I don’t know. I was in school.”

Given those answers, it’s hard to believe Te’o had a p.r. consultant in the room with him the whole time. Wait — what am I saying? It’s hard to believe any of this ever happened. But it apparently did.

That Te’o could emerge from the interview as an unsympathetic figure is a product of his chosen forum, because there’s now a mountain of evidence that he did get scammed by a cruel and clearly unhinged individual. Earlier Friday, ’s Shelly Smith spoke on camera with a 20-something man and woman that alleged Tuiasosopo pulled the same hoax on their cousin — using the same pictures of lovely Lennay — in 2008. Another unidentified woman said Tuiasosopo, a friend from church, confessed to her the whole thing. Meanwhile, USA Today pieced together that many of the crucial plot points of this elaborate ruse — a , a young woman with leukemia, a quotation Te’o later recounted to Sports Illustrated to “give roses while you can still smell them” — mirrored actual events in the lives of Tuiasasopo and his family.

This Tuiasosopo guy’s a bad dude. He most definitely did this (along with one other man and woman, Te’o said). It’s about the only conclusive detail in the whole saga.

“Te’o adamantly denies having anything to do with this,” said Schaap. “… if he’s making up his side of the story, he’s a very convincing actor.”

And yet, many will remain resolute that Te’o was a conspirator. Or that he milked the fake tragedy to gain sympathy and publicity. Or that he should have come clean a lot sooner. And that’s because there’s nothing about this interview that would sway a skeptical jury.

If Te’o truly wants to clear the air, he needs to sit down in front of a camera. He needs to show emotion, and he needs to show . Te’o may consider himself the wronged party, but many of his fans and followers still feel betrayed. He needs to apologize for his part in embellishing and perpetuating the myth of Lennay. That will require swapping the word “tailor” with “lie,” which is what he did.

Or it may just be that the whole thing’s a lost cause at this point. Clearly, there’s never going to be a satisfactory ending. Even if Tuiasosopo goes in front of a camera and comes clean to the whole operation, there will still be conspiracy theorists that claim he’s covering for Te’o (despite the fact they apparently never met prior to last November). Even if Te’o produces phone records of all those eight-hour calls with fake Lennay, his critics still won’t forgive him for lying about meeting her or continuing to discuss her publicly after the first red flag was waved Dec. 6.

And again, as I wrote earlier Friday — all of this acrimony over a fake girlfriend?

Te’o says the saga impacted his play in the Alabama game. That’s pretty obvious. But it’s not like they’re going to replay the game. Talk will focus in the coming weeks on whether Te’o’s draft stock will be affected. It’s a fair question, but then again, there will be no shortage of prospects with far more troubling character flaws than delusion and naivete.

Ultimately, the Lennay Kekua soap opera is mostly a cautionary tale for journalists and online daters while providing twisted entertainment for most everybody else. Some of the mystery element is disintegrating, which means the story will soon lose legs, yet it’s clear the Heisman finalist and formerly beloved Fighting Irish folk hero may never restore his reputation. He made a believer out of Jeremy Schaap. It’s going to take a whole lot more work to win over America.

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Cycling: Lifetime ban is “death penalty,” says Armstrong

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() – says he received the “” for using performance-enhancing drugs and lying about it for over a decade, but the disgraced cyclist still harbors a to compete and hopes his will one day be lifted.

In contrast to the impassive confessions to gave in the first part of his interview with U.S. Oprah Winfrey on Thursday, Armstrong struggled with his emotions as he discussed the impact his fall had had on his family.

Eyes welling up and pausing to gather his composure, Armstrong recalled the moment he told his children the accusations against him were true and said the from the affair had left his mother “a wreck”.

The most humbling moment had come when he had to stand aside from Livestrong, the he established, he said.

“The ultimate crime is the betrayal of these people who support me and believed in me and they got lied to,” he said.

Critics said Armstrong had shown little sign of on Thursday, but in the second part of the interview aired on Friday there appeared to be genuine .

The Texan conceded he deserved to be punished for years of doping that helped him win a record seven titles.

However, he said the penalty he was given by the US Anti-Doping Agency (USADA) was much harsher than the sanctions dished out to other self-confessed cheats, who were given lesser sentences for testifying against him.

“I am not saying that’s unfair, I’m saying it is different,” he said in a comment sure to infuriate his critics.

“I deserve to be punished but I am not sure I deserve the death penalty.”

The 41-year-old said he had no ambitions to return to but just wanted to be able to compete in sanctioned events, though he conceded his chances were slim.

“With this penalty, this punishment, I made my bed,” he said. “Would I to run the when I am 50? I would love to do that but I can’t.

“Realistically, I don’t think that will happen and I’ve got to live with that.”

DARK PLACE

Armstrong, who had always denied using banned substances until finally confessing in the interview with Winfrey, again refuted some of the accusations against him in a 1,000-page USADA report that led to his and the voiding of all his race wins.

He denied claims he continued using drugs when he made his comeback in 2009 and said there was no truth to suggestions a representative of his tried to pay off USADA to drop their investigation into him.

“That is not true,” he snapped. “I think they (USADA) said it was $250,000, it was broad number and that’s a lot of money. I would know about that.”

With his reputation already seemingly beyond repair, the second part of the interview focused on his personal torment rather than his sins.

He admitted he was ashamed of what he had done and was closest to tears recalling the moment he told his children that the accusations against him were true.

“I saw my son (Luke) defending me and saying, ‘That’s not true’ … that’s when I knew I had to tell him. He never asked me, ‘Dad is this true?’ He trusts me,” Armstrong said.

“I said, ‘Listen, there’s been a lot questions about your dad, did I dope and did not dope? … I want you to know that it is true’.

“I told Luke, ‘Don’t defend me anymore … if anyone says anything to you do not defend, just say, hey my dad said he was sorry.’”

Armstrong said the scandal had taken a toll on his mother, saying “she’s a wreck”, and had hit him financially.

He said he lost about $75 million when his sponsors deserted him last year after USADA released its damning report on him.

“All gone. Probably never coming back,” he said. “I’ve lost all future income.”

The cancer survivor is already facing a string of challenges that could cost him millions more but said the lowest point was when he had to quit the Livestrong foundation.

“That was most humbling moment,” said Armstrong, who survived testicular cancer before going on to win the seven times.

Armstrong said he had no idea what the future held but said he hoped he could rebuild his life.

“I’ve been to a dark place that was not of my doing where I didn’t know if I would live,” he said.

“You can’t compare this to an advanced diagnosis. That sets the bar. It is close but I’m an optimist and I like to look forward.”

(Editing by Peter Rutherford)

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Soccer: Ashley Cole escapes ban from England in World Cup qualifiers

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England’s has made 98 appearances for his country and will become only the sixth to reach the century mark if he plays against San Marino and Poland. (Eddie Keogh/)

(PhatzRadio / ) — Ashley Cole will escape a playing ban from England in the upcoming despite insulting the in an offensive Twitter post.

The Chelsea left back apologized in person to FA Bernstein on Monday for reacting angrily after a commission set up by the questioned the evidence Cole gave in defending in a racism case.

“He expressed a degree of for what he had done, wished it hadn’t happened,” Bernstein said Tuesday. “I looked him in the eye and really felt that he meant it.”

Cole has been charged with misconduct by the FA and is set to be fined, but is free to play for England in Friday’s against San Marino and the away game in Poland on Tuesday — if selected by coach .

“His is greater because he realizes that he might have put his position in jeopardy — and I’m very happy he hasn’t done that,” Hodgson said. “I’m pleased the chairman has gracefully accepted the from Ashley. I know how saddened he was by it and I’m glad it’s been resolved.”

Currently training

Cole is currently training with the England squad at the country’s new national training centre in Burton-upon-Trent, where he greeted Prince William and his wife, Kate, at the facility’s official opening Tuesday. William is the honorary president of the FA, which Cole criticized in the vulgar on Friday.

Cole has made 98 appearances and will become only the sixth Englishman to reach the century mark if he plays against San Marino and Poland. He is unlikely to be made captain to mark the occasion, however.

“We’ve had issues and we’ve stated publicly many times that we have a very high level of behaviour and so on and so forth required from an English captain,” Bernstein said.

Cole has until Thursday to respond to the FA charge. He had already issued an apology through his lawyers soon after sending the tweet in question.

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99 Problems but Romney for President ain’t one

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(Phatforums News) — First, I want to send my to Jay-Z. Incredible song but I think Mitt needs some . I could start this editorial by saying that Mitt Romney has had the worst week ever but I said that last week and he topped it this week. So, I think I will work with with the idea of ” Rollin’ ”.

No, you can’t make this stuff up.

A video was broke by of Mitt Romney stating some “off the cuff” remarks. But when you listen to them, this is what Romney actually thinks when he’s with people of his “own kind”. Rich, aloof, with no remorse for the . This was worse than “the empty chair”. He was talking about 47% of U.S population wouldn’t take responsibility for their own lives and they are looking for a government handout.

Here’s the actual quote: “There are 47 percent of the people who will vote for the president no matter what. All right, there are 47 percent who are with him, who are dependent upon government, who believe that they are victims, who believe the government has a responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health care, to food, to housing, to you-name-it. That that’s an entitlement. And the government should give it to them. And they will vote for this president no matter what…These are people who pay no income tax.”

Romney went on: “[M]y job is is not to worry about those people. I’ll never convince them they should take personal responsibility and care for their lives.”

Talk about being arrogant, out of touch, and just damn wrong!!!

In one statement, he insulted: the elderly, men and women in uniform, any patients, SSI receivers, and multiple groups of individuals who because of the Republicans mis-managed before and 3 1/2 years of Pres. Obama slow but positive course, still don’t have a job and have to take unemployment.

Now, that’s some balls!!!

But it doesn’t stop there. He submitted ideas about and how he would “kick the can down the road”. These guys will never stop fighting. ‘I look at the Palestinians not wanting to see anyway, committed to the destruction of Israel, and I say there’s just no way [there will be ].’

Also, which I thought more people who have gotten upset, he commented on Iran and how it could blackmail the United States.

“If I were Iran – a crazed fanatic, I’d say let’s get a little fissile material to Hezbollah, have them carry it to Chicago, and then if anything goes wrong, or America starts acting up, we’ll just say, “Guess what? Unless you stand down, why, we’re going to let off a dirty bomb.”

Romney continues: “I mean this is where we have – where America could be held up and blackmailed by Iran, by the mullahs, by crazy people. So we don’t have any option but to keep Iran from having a nuclear weapon.”

Then to finish off the rant. Excuse me, answer the question of the rich contributor, he can be heard joking he would have an easier time winning the US election in November if his father had Mexican parents, instead of being a state governor and wealthy car company boss. Mr Romney also tells how he considered investing in a sweatshop-like factory in China when he was head of US private equity giant Bain Capital.

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Now, I’m a independent voter and I was already going to vote for President Obama but once you read and hear this stuff from Mitt Romney – I would be damn near to vote for this guy.

Every news operation except Fox News – blasted him. He’s tried to double down on his statements the following day but found the “blowback” incredible. Even some Republicans denounced Romney. His running mate, Paul Ryan stated his remarks were “not articulated properly”. so, then he started to morph his position to talk about the 100%. This didn’t gain traction and it got so bad that Ann Romney fired back at GOP pundits who are critical of her husband’s campaign, snapping in a radio interview: “Stop it. This is hard. You want to try it? Get in the ring.”

Crazy week – but I’m not done. On Friday, he relased his 2011 taxes. Now, this would have been great but then a account’s affirmation letter was attached stating that the Romeny’s paid on average 20% on taxes for the last 10 years.

A letter from his tax accountant, PricewaterhouseCoopers, promising that Romney paid an “average annual effective federal rate” of 20.2 percent over 20 years. The number is being released instead of the tax returns themselves, and is being used to rebuff Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid’s charge that Romney didn’t pay taxes over a 10-year period.

This letter is non-binding and just a joke. I guess he wanted to shut up Harry Reid – Senate Majority Leader. This didn’t work either.

“His poor father must be so embarrassed about his son,” Reid (D-Nev.) told HuffPost earlier this summer, in reference to George Romney’s standard-setting decision to turn over 12 years of tax returns when he ran for president in the late 1960s.

Now, people are targeting this letter. Here’s MSNBC Analyst weighing in on the story: The word “owed” is important because it suggests that there was an audit that resulted in a large payment of tax later because they underpaid the tax, an amended tax return by the Romney’s, or an obligation that they didn’t pay for some number of years.

So I wrote the campaign and asked them, and they know this statement is going to be very closely scrutinized. And this is afterall a verb. Why didn’t they say “paid?”

The short answer that I got back was: “Not answering that question.”

Now, call me stupid – but how does this answer the questions about your taxes?? The more you try and give Mitt a chance and let him show you that he can be truthful, honest, and handle the economy – I get his crap.

My son told me today that if it’s Mitt Romney vs. “the empty chair”, his bet is on the chair.

I’m agreeing more and more each hour. If this is a sample of what we would see in the White House, stay home Mitt. I don’t need this problem. Which based on the new polls numbers this week, we will not have to worry about that.

I can’t wait for next week and Mitt’s adventures………wow! Must see TV.


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Why do people stay in unhappy relationships?

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(Phatforums News / Voxxi) — It’s amazing how some last forever, lovingly, and others simply , way past their expiration date.

Why do people stay in unhappy relationships when they want to leave?

Why don’t people make up their minds and relinquish their fears, and move on when they know it’s over? Why settle? Why not be honest and leave?

The answer is: Because it’s just not that easy to walk away, even when you know you should.
What is a healthy relationship?

A healthy relationship should be based on and trust, be nurturing, caring and committed. The couple should have similar goals and enjoy their . They choose to be together because they feel rewarded by the union, emotionally and physically. This doesn’t mean they’re in a -free relationship, but that they seek to resolve their issues amicably. They work out problems together, as a team. They communicate openly, and both hope for and expect the best from the other person. There is mutual respect.

When does a relationship come to a dead end?

There are no alike, and both halves of the couple might not agree that a relationship has passed its expiration date. But for one or both partners, some of the of spoiled milk are as follows:

Lack of trust: For whatever reason, one or both of you no longer trusts the other.

Negativity: You can only focus on everything that’s wrong with your partner, instead of his or her positive traits.

Different goals: You want to get married and have kids, he wants to sail solo around the globe.

Different interests: You both constantly seek activities and company outside of the relationship in order to stay away from each other.

Bickering without resolution: You spend most of your time quarreling, but nothing ever gets resolved.

without guilt: One or both parties cheats and doesn’t feel .

No sex: Your (with each other) has dwindled to nothing or feels like a chore or an obligation.

Insults: You insult each another with hurtful words that are hard to take back once uttered.

So why stay?

People choose to stay in unhappy relationships for many reasons. Why some may seem like better reasons than others, at the end of the day, you are trading your happiness to stay in a relationship that is really over.

You stay together for the children: Couples often stay together for their kids’ sake, but their kids suffer anyway. If a separation is healthy, amicable and the children’s interests come first, as they should, kids won’t suffer the blow of the separation quite so hard. It is up to the parents to make the transition smooth. Staying for the sake of the kids may be worse in the end. Kids are smart enough to pick up on the tension and the absence of love, and they absorb the negativity, and may feel betrayed, too. Parents are role models and children learn firsthand about relationships from them. Plus, children grow up, and an empty nest feels all the emptier when you’re stuck with a spouse you no longer love.

You can’t afford to break up: Financial reasons can make it hard to walk away. You may have to give up a comfortable lifestyle you’ve become accustomed to, or you may have to give up real necessities, like a car, a house or medical insurance. However, living a sad, but comfortable life comes with its own costs. As hard as it is to start from scratch, to move, to sleep alone, to dare to date again, to have less purchasing power, you can make it if you focus on what you gain: a second chance at love, a second chance at life.

Why do people stay in unhappy relationships?

Being in a dead-end relationship may feel lonelier than being single.

You’re afraid to be alone. The idea of being single again, especially after a long relationship, is frightening. What if you never fall in love again? But the freedom of choosing what to do, where to go and how to live your life is well worth the risk. Time spent alone will help you figure out what you actually want from life, and what you need. It will also help you see yourself as an individual, not half of a partnership that you no longer felt a part of anyway. Some people choose what they think is the easy path, by staying in an unhappy relationship because they fear being alone. But unhappy relationships can be pretty lonely.

You’re in a codependent relationship: Some relationships feed on love-hate patterns, much like the way addicts experience incredible highs and lows with drugs. You bicker, you belittle and insult the other person, and you say “that’s it!” and leave. But then you come back, and the “honeymoon” (as well as the make-up sex) is fantastic. And then it starts all over again. Once a relationship falls prey to the codependent dance, the chances of recovery are almost nil.

Ultimately, most of us stay in unhappy relationships because we fear change. Fear of change can keep us stuck in dead-end jobs, keep us from starting a fitness regime or at worst, keep us in unhappy relationships. Change is scary and a bit like jumping into the unknown. Ultimately, we fear doing the wrong thing, making a . But there are no mistakes in reality, just results. And if you see life as an adventure with its ups and downs, the perspective of change is not so daunting.

Are you ready to date again?

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(Phatforums News / .com) — Dealing with a breakup or the untimely loss of a loved one is certainly tough, but figuring out when it’s time to move on and start dating again can be even tougher. But how do you really know that you’re ready to make that shift from unavailable to available? “I don’t believe you wake up one day and say you’re ready, I think it’s a defining process,” says Carole Brody , author of Wear Stilettos: A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Young Widow. “And there are to know that you’re ready regardless of what you’re leaving behind.” So what are some of those ways?

When you realize you can be independent
After going through a of bad dating experiences, Cathy – a 42-year-old from Hartford, CT – found herself sitting at home one night, where she decided to open a bottle of wine. “I opened it by myself for the first time, and I used a Swiss army knife,” she recalls. “And it was easy. I thought, ‘I don’t need my ex and I’m not the person I thought I was.’” It was a small victory, but that moment also gave Cathy the to move on to another new-to-her task: killing bugs. Eventually, she waded back into the dating pool and met the man who would later become her husband.

When you can spend a night alone
Nights of pining over lost loves definitely have their place, but knowing when to let that go can be an incredible part of the battle to move forward. “Whether you’re widowed or divorced, you need to go through the ,” advises Kathy Stafford, author of Relationship . “Until you’re comfortable with being single again and confident that you can be on your own, you’re not ready to date.”

When you meet someone you’re actually interested in dating
Sometimes, all it takes is meeting the right person — that’s how it happened for Paige, a 41-year-old divorcee from Washington, D.C. “I was married for , and our split was painful but amicable,” Paige says. “We split in October, and then the following January I met a man at Starbucks who interested me. It wasn’t a conscious effort. I never thought about the consequences, or if I should be waiting — I just went for it.” (Starting a conversation with a stranger is another milestone in the dating-again annals, too — and a very worthy one.)

When your friends know it’s time
It’s easy to get comfortable and stuck in a routine — sometimes so much so that you forget how to live! It’s not always the easiest critique to hear, but when you start hearing from your friends that it’s time to get out there, you might want to heed that call. “I was heavily influenced by my friends to get out, and they were right,” says Richard, 55, a Pittsburgh native who found himself splitting with his wife of 20 years. “I was staying at home too much, and they kept encouraging me to get out and meet people, started setting me up… and it’s through that I developed greater confidence and an interest in finding someone new. And I did!”

When you just do it
Signs and stages? If you’re missing them all, maybe it’s just time to get out there! “I don’t think you’re ever ready until you do it,” advises Jula Jane, author of Secrets to Date By. “I don’t think you should wait for a defining moment, I think you should just go. You can wait forever and not see that moment!” Remember: You can’t play to win if you don’t get into the game.

Carly Milne has written for Whole Life Times, Yoga Journal and Glamour, among other publications. She lives in Los Angeles.

10 Signs You Might Be Dating A Sociopath

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(Phatforums News / The Frisky) —- There are people in the world who don’t care about , who feel no remorse, or to others. In fact, they don’t even know what these feelings are. These people are called sociopaths. Most of us think of sociopaths as deranged , but, with four percent of the population having sociopathic character traits, most of them never physically harm anyone. Sociopaths do, however, ruin lives, empty , and cause untold emotional trauma, with the simple excuse that they just don’t care.

Even though most sociopaths never kill anyone, they are social predators who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no and no remorse. Needless to say, this is not the kind of person you want to open your heart to. But sociopaths have impressive social skills, thereby making them extremely hard to spot. They are charming, funny and exciting. This is why we need to be aware. You’ll never be able to cure a sociopath or help him see the error of his ways because he doesn’t see the world as the rest of us do. The only thing you can do, is save yourself and walk, no, run away as fast as possible. If your new exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1. and charm. He’s a smooth talker, always has an answer, never misses a beat. He seems to be very exciting. His manners are impeccable — he’s well groomed and fulfills the codes of romance and to a tee. He’s likely to be an eloquent talker who laces his speech with impressive sounding facts and figures.

2. Enormous ego. He acts like the smartest, richest or most successful person in the room. He may actually come out and tell you that.

3. Overly attentive. He calls, texts and e-mails constantly. He wants to be with you every moment and resents any time you spend with your family and friends.

4. personality. One minute he loves you, the next minute he hates you. His personality changes like the flipping of a switch.

5. A blamer. Nothing is ever his fault. He always has an excuse. Someone else is always the cause of his problems.

6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. He tells stupid, outrageous lies when he’d make out better telling the truth. If you probe deeper, you’ll find that his stories never quite add up.

7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare, but if you get a chill down your spine when he looks at you (and not the good kind), pay attention.

8. Fast moving. He quickly proclaims that you’re his true love and soul mate. He wants to move in together or get married quickly.

9. Pity play. He appeals to your sympathy. He wants you to feel sorry for his abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be the excess testosterone that sociopaths possess.

Dr. Annabelle R. Charbit is the author of the book A Life Lived Ridiculously. When a girl with obsessive compulsive disorder falls in love with a sociopath she must fight for her sanity and her life.

Effective alternatives to apologies

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(Phatforums News / .com) — You’ve heard it since before you were in : when you make a that hurts someone else, always say you’re sorry. But just because you’ve heard it doesn’t make it true in every instance. In fact, consistently offering an makes most worse. In fact, only 5 percent of married couples surveyed by Match.com said means never having to say you’re sorry. Though they clearly are in the minority, they’re right.

Why words aren’t enough
“I try hard to show that I’m sorry rather than say it,” says Raquel. “I try to see my boyfriend’s , to understand exactly what I did to upset him. Then, I’ll cook his favorite dinner, agree to see an action film or give him some other kind of offering to demonstrate that I’m really sorry.”

Raquel’s half right — it’s good to be clear on what caused the problem, But it’s not enough. Apologizing for something you did is pretty meaningless if you don’t do any work to be sure you don’t create another situation that leads you to say you’re sorry. If you’ve done something to offend or upset your partner, the act of apologizing addresses your (if you really mean it), but does nothing to address the actual behavior that caused the problem in the first place.

Conversely, if you’re the one who accepts the apology, you’re only acknowledging the act. You’re not helping your partner correct the behavior. See the problem? Since neither of you is attempting to improve the actual , you’re not only avoiding reality, you’re setting yourself up for a nasty cycle that never ends.

“My ex-boyfriend apologized for even the slightest of slights,” recalls Joni, 29, of Independence, MO. “It drove me . Plus, when something really serious did happen, his apology meant nothing. We never resolved anything, and finally, I broke it off with him.”

How to stop the cycle of saying “sorry”
When someone gets hurt or angry, the most effective course of action is to talk about what is upsetting one or both of you calmly, without making accusations. Talk about how certain actions make you feel and be specific about the behaviors: “I feel [this way] when [this thing] happens.” Then, work together to come up with ways of keeping the situation from happening again.

“Tom used to shut me out when he was upset about something that happened at work,” recalls Sonja. “It felt like I wasn’t important to him, and that hurt.” She finally snapped and told him how it made her feel. “He said he needed the time to wind down from his work day, but also needed me. So we agreed that he would take the first 30 minutes home from work to decompress privately. Then, he would come cook dinner with me and we’d talk about it on whatever level was comfortable for him. I feel good about it, even if all he does is give me the facts, because we’re together on it.”

Margot Carmichael Lester is a freelance writer based in North Carolina. Her work also appears in Hemispheres, Go and the L.A. Business Journal.