May 23, 2013

5 killed as Iraqis protest in ‘Day of Rage’

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BAGHDAD (AP) — Iraqi security forces trying to disperse crowds of demonstrators in northern killed 5 people Friday as thousands rallied in cities across the country during what has been billed as the “Day of Rage.”

The Iraqi capital was virtually locked down, with soldiers deployed en masse across central Baghdad, searching protesters trying to enter Liberation Square and closing off the plaza and side streets with razor wire. The heavy security presence reflected the concern of Iraqi officials that demonstrations here could gain traction as they did in and Tunisia, then spiral out of control.

Iraqi helicopters buzzed overhead, while Humvees and trucks took up posts throughout the square, where a group of about 2,000 flag-waving demonstrators shouted “No to unemployment,” and “No to the liar al-Maliki,” referring to Iraqi Nouri al-Maliki.

The protests stretched from the northern city of Mosul to the southern city of Basra, reflecting the widespread anger many Iraqis feel at the government’s seeming inability to improve their lives.

A crowd of angry marchers in the northern city of Hawija, 150 miles (240 kilometers) north of Baghdad, tried to break into the city’s municipal building, said the head of the local city council, Ali Hussein Salih. That prompted security forces to into the air.

“We had given our instructions to police guards who are responsible for protecting this governmental building not to open fire, only if the demonstrators broke into the building,” he said.

Three demonstrators were killed and 15 people wounded, according to the Hawija police chief, Col. Fattah Yaseen.

In Mosul, hundreds of protesters gathered in front of the provincial council building, demanding jobs and better services, when guards opened fire, according to a police official. A police and hospital official said two protesters were killed and five people wounded. The officials spoke on condition of anonymity because they are not authorized to brief the media.

Black smoke could later be seen billowing from the building.

While in the south, a crowd of about 4,000 people demonstrated in front of the office of Gov. Sheltagh Aboud al-Mayahi in the port city of Basra, Iraq’s second-largest city, 340 miles (550 kilometers) southeast of Baghdad. They knocked over one of the concrete barriers and demanded his resignation, saying he’d done nothing to improve city services.

They appeared to get their wish when the commander of Basra military operations, Maj. Gen. Mohammad Jawad Hawaidi, told the crowd that the governor had resigned in response to the demonstrations. Iraqi state TV announced that the prime minister asked the governor to step down but made no mention of the protests.

Around 1,000 demonstrators also clashed with police in the western city of Fallujah 40 miles (65 kilometers) west of Baghdad clashed with authorities, witnesses said.

The demonstrations have been discussed for weeks on Facebook and in other groups, inspired by the uprisings in Tunisia and Egypt. More people were expected to join after Friday prayers.

While demonstrations in other Middle Eastern countries have focused on overthrowing the government, the protests in Iraq have centered on corruption, the country’s chronic unemployment and shoddy public services like electricity.

“We want a good life like human beings, not like animals,” said one protester in Baghdad, 44-year-old Khalil Ibrahim. Like many Iraqis, he railed against a government that locks itself in the highly fortified Green Zone, home to the parliament and the Embassy, and is viewed by most of its citizens as more interested in personal gain than public service.

“The government of the Green Zone is terrified of the people’s voice,” he said.

Iraq has seen a number of small-scale protests across the country in recent weeks. While most have been peaceful, a few have turned violent and seven people have been killed. The biggest rallies have been in the northern Kurdish city of Sulaimaniyah, 160 miles (260 kilometers) northeast of Baghdad, against the government of the self-ruled region.

But Iraqi religious and government officials appeared nervous over the possibility of a massive turnout for Friday’s rally, and have issued a steady stream of statements trying to dissuade people from taking part.

On the eve of the event, al-Maliki urged people to skip the rally, which he alleged was organized by Saddamists and — two of his favorite targets of blame for an array of Iraq’s ills. He offered no evidence to support his claim.

The Baghdad Operations Command said terrorists wanting to infiltrate the demonstration may dress up as police or army troops.

Shiite religious leaders have also discouraged people from taking part, making it unlikely that much of the country’s majority Shiite population would turn out.

In the Sunni enclave of Azamiyah, one of the residents said that people there did not want to attend because they feared being labeled Saddamists.

“The government has already convicted anyone who takes part in the demonstrations by accusing them of terrorism,” said 41-year-old Ammar al-Azami.

Why not call it a Facebook revolution?

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Egyptian protesters use to fuel the revolution fire.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS

* The uprisings had a strong assist from contemporary
* What else makes Facebook
* The real Facebook revolution is global, and it’s only just getting geared up

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Chris Taylor is San Francisco bureau chief for tech-news site Mashable, a CNN.com content partner.

(CNN) — Tunisians filled the streets with the help of Twitter. Egypt’s protests were coordinated on Facebook pages like that of internet activist Wael Ghonim. Libyan dissenters spread the word about their “day of rage” last week the same way.

And yet, in these heady days where the entire Middle East seems to be inspired to organize online in revolt against autocracy, it has become fashionable for experts to dismiss the role of in 2011′s revolutions.

“People protested and brought down governments before Facebook was invented,” the New Yorker’s Malcolm Gladwell opined on February 2. A few weeks later, The Financial Times’ Gideon Rachman reminded us that “the French managed to storm the Bastille without the help of Twitter — and the Bolsheviks took the Winter Palace without pausing to post photos of each other on Facebook.”

True enough — and utterly irrelevant. Those uprisings had a strong assist from contemporary technology too. The Bolshevik revolution would hardly have happened without the telegraphs and trains that spirited Lenin to the Finland station at the right moment. And what would the French revolution have been without the latest high-tech gadget, hot from the workshop of Dr. Joseph Guillotin?

Yes, of course, technology alone doesn’t make revolutions. The will of the people is the most vital ingredient. To foment revolt, first let their resentment simmer for a few decades. But that doesn’t mean social media cannot provide wavering revolutionaries with vital and comfort.

Remember the kids interviewed in Tahir Square the night Mubarak resigned? What struck me most was what they were doing while waiting for the reporter to finish his introduction: thumbing on their smartphones. Want to hazard a guess at the website they were checking?

Consider what Facebook is: It’s the internet, refined and focused like a laser beam that bounces off you and your acquaintances with unsurpassed speed. None of its features are particularly new. They’re tried and tested. We’ve been sharing instant messages, blog-like daily details and rants, and coordinating projects and meetups online since those Tahir Square kids were babes in arms.

We’ve just never done all that in the same place, in front of so many of our friends, for hours at a time. We’ve never created a club that’s half a billion people strong and growing faster than ever, a club with room in it for literally any point of view. And we’ve certainly never carried that club in our pockets, around the world.

Consider what else that makes Facebook: Democracy in action, or at least the closest thing we see in our daily lives. A cacophony of viewpoints explode out of the briefest statements. Could you imagine how many comments you’d get on your Facebook wall in the next 10 minutes if you posted “I <3 Ghadaffi?” (Go ahead, try it. We’ll wait.)

Now imagine you’re a dictator trying to infiltrate those acres of free speech. Can’t be done. Who wants to friend a Libyan secret policeman? (Ask your pals, they probably now think you are one.) Keeping a beady eye on who said what to whom in this cacophony could take a lifetime. You could, of course, shut down the entire internet. Mubarak tried that, and it quickly became apparent that he’d also cut off the country’s lifeblood: commerce and tourism.

Or you could do what China has done for the last two years, and block access to Twitter and Facebook specifically. In which case, you draw attention to their power, and give rise to homegrown copycats (such as Renren.com and Kaixin001, in China’s case.)

Gladwell is right to argue that only strong social ties create revolutions. But he is wrong to say that Twitter and Facebook constitute weak social ties. He may believe this because he is a highly productive writer, and may never have been sucked into a two-hour Facebook hole.

Those of us who have know what it’s like down there. It isn’t some kind of vapid virtual bar scene. Okay, there is an element of that: The sense of perpetual party is what draws so many there in the first place. But what keeps us there is the fact that barriers between friends — lack of time, too much distance, lazy years-long silences — are annihilated.

The faces of Egypt’s Revolution 2.0

Post a quick dumb comment on an old estranged friend’s status update, and the next thing you know you’re trading viewpoints like college roommates. Start a Facebook group for your passion project, and realize you were never alone in wanting to make your ideal real.

It is impossible to live in that kind of environment — and make no mistake, we are starting to live there — without noticing how much the real world fails to measure up. As Facebook continues to spread — the trend line suggests it will reach 3 billion users, or roughly half the planet, by 2017 — more and more monolithic cultures are in for a shock.

True, not all of them are Middle East-style powder kegs. But sparks can ignite in all sorts of ways. For example, the fastest-growing segment of Facebook users is over 55. Think what a smart, self-aware network of grandmas could do for the world’s poorest regions.

So perhaps there is one reason not to call in Egypt and its ilk a Facebook revolution. The real Facebook revolution is global, and it’s only just getting geared up.

British ISPs Call for Parental Control, Not Internet Censorship

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CYBERSPACE — Two of the U.K.’s biggest ISPs — BT Broadband and Virgin Media — have challenged the ’s proposal to censor porn arguing that and parental control are more effective.

The government’s communications minister Ed Vaizey recently proposed that ISPs block porn and that all users be automatically opted-out.

But the proposal has raised serious issues.

In an online debate hosted by the Daily Telegraph, both companies expressed concern over Vaizey’s proposal noting that the plans hadn’t been thought through.

They cited defining the boundaries of content, responsibility for censorship and a host of practical and legal concerns as thorny issues.

Duncan Higgins, Virgin Media’s head of broadband media said that parents need to control what their children view on the web.

“There needs to be a real drive to getting parents to understand the issue,” he said.

A Virgin spokesperson added, “We’re absolutely committed to [Mr Vaizey's] aim of greater protection of children online.”

Tim O’Sullivan, BT’s public affairs director echoed Virgin’s stance and said, “BT offers parental controls and we believe such controls and education are the best way to approach the issue.”

Britain’s two major ISPs will reportedly issue new printed and online parental control guides in March.

BT broadband users will also have the opportunity to install the company’s free Protection software.

Looking for that Right Date???

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Are you ready to start seriously looking for a long-term relationship, but don’t know where to start? Have you exhausted all possible leads from your friends and family? Do you ever feel like you’re never going to meet someone that you can like, love, and trust?

Nobody has ever said that meeting someone is easy — especially after a divorce. It’s hard to start dating after years without practice, and facing the dating scene today is especially challenging. But take heart: people just like you start relationships every day.

What are the best ways to find and meet potential partners? What are the expectations between couples these days? How do you venture out as a single — safely and successfully? What’s the first step?

Are you ready?

If you aren’t emotionally ready to start a new relationship, you won’t end up with the right person. Barbara De Angelis, relationship expert and the author of Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right and Avoiding Who’s Wrong (Delacorte Press) recommends asking yourself these questions to determine whether you’re ready to have an intimate relationship.

1. Are you still angry and resentful towards your ex?
2. Do you dislike who you are? Do you feel lonely and desperate without a relationship?
3. Are you still in love with your ex?
4. Do you feel like you have nothing valuable to offer someone?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, you probably aren’t ready for a new relationship. Perhaps you need more time to recover sufficiently from your relationship breakdown before you try again. If you suspect that you aren’t ready for love, work on improving your relationship with yourself first. When you can honestly answer “no” to each of these questions, you’ll be ready. Meeting strategy # 1: develop a hobby

The first thing to learn is there is no one right or wrong strategy for finding someone. If you think long and hard about it, you’ll realize that you actually have limitless opportunities to meet people. Try something you’ve never done before — or something you used to enjoy before your marriage. For instance, perhaps you loved hiking or biking, but stopped going because your ex didn’t enjoy those activities. Or maybe you loved to dance, but your ex had two left feet. Taking some dance lessons is a great way to meet new people with a similar interest, and boost your self-confidence. You’ll probably make some great new friends along the way as you become more involved with a variety of activities. After all, a person with interests is automatically interesting to others who share the same hobbies. Go places where the sort of people you’d like to meet might be — whether that’s a dance club, a wine tasting club or a scuba diving club. But remember that meeting someone is not a life-or-death mission: it should be fun. Lighten up, go out to a place or event you’ll enjoy, and take a friend with you the first time, if you feel nervous. Do whatever it takes to make yourself comfortable, and start today!

Introduction services

Introduction services are gaining in popularity as people find they need help to find Mr. or Ms. Right in these hectic times. There is a range of dating services available today: some do the matchmaking for you; others let you select from videos or from short bios. What they all have in common is a client-base of individuals who are looking for a relationship.

Matchmaking services will typically ask new members to fill in a detailed questionnaire about themselves, their likes and dislikes, and what kind of person they’re looking for as their ideal mate. Most will perform an in-depth personal interview with each member. You’ll work with a company consultant who will attempt to find close matches for your personality profile — which includes your attitude, emotional maturity, and social skills — and provide you with detailed information and phone numbers of appropriate matches. Both parties are usually notified of a potential match, so that either can initiate the first phone call. After the call and possibly first date, each member calls his or her consultant to provide feedback. Hopefully an on-going relationship will eventually develop between two members and no further referrals will be supplied unless the relationship breaks down, at which point the process starts over again.

A matchmaker may also help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, and tell you how you might be perceived by others. Since no two dating services are alike, call several to request information about their procedures, policies, and prices. Don’t hesitate to ask questions, and don’t be pressured into making a decision on the spot. Matchmaking services can be expensive, but they will save you the time and effort of attending socials or sorting through and responding to personal ads. Before signing with a matchmaker:

* Talk to at least three agencies to compare costs and services.
* Check the agencies with the Better Business Bureau or your state licensing board.
* Ask for testimonials or referrals to satisfied clients.
* Ask how long the agency has been in business.
* Ask how many people in your age range they have on their register of each sex.
* Know exactly what the services are, and what they will cost.
* Ask about methods of payment. Do they require all the money in advance of services, or can you pay in installments?

The personal approach

Personal ads are not for everyone, but many people have found love through this method. “Placing a personal ad is not only a cost-effective way to meet someone but it exposes you to a lot of people quickly,” says Emily Thornton Cavlo, co-author of 25 Words Or Less a new book on how to write an effective, personal ad. “Psychologically, placing an ad puts you into the dating mode, and it helps to know that there are lots of other people just like you who want to meet someone but don’t want to go through the club or bar scene.”

If you get bogged down in the process of writing an ad, start by letting your subconscious do all the work: just jot down all the things that come to mind when you think of a potential mate, and what you consider your best points to be. Once you’ve laid the groundwork, refining your ad is relatively easy.

Cavlo and her co-author, Laurence Minisky, recommend keeping three things in mind when writing and responding to a personals ad:

1. What kind of person are you looking for? We all have a list of traits we want in a partner. These traits can be anything from “kind and sensitive” to a “non-smoker who likes children under the age of four.”
2. What kind of person are you? Make a list of words that describe you, then select the words that really paint a picture about who you are — the ones that make a reader see, hear, smell, and taste who you are. By doing this, “generous” becomes “volunteer reader for the blind,” and “loves to cook,” becomes “you’ll love my sun-dried tomato lasagna.”
3. What level of commitment are you looking for? If you clarify the level of commitment and intimacy you’re looking for, you’ll target the people who are looking for the same type of relationship. Being straightforward about what you want ensures you don’t get involved with someone with a different agenda than yours. And don’t respond to ads with an incompatible level of commitment, no matter how interesting the person sounds.

Once you’ve written your masterpiece, you must decide where to place it. “Opportunities as to where you should place your ad are growing daily,” says Minisky. “A way to choose where to best place your ad is to look at the publication’s target readership. If it’s important to you to date someone who lives close by, place an ad in the local newspaper, or on your supermarket bulletin board. If you’d like to date a single father, seek out a single-parent’s newsletter or , and so on. If you place your ad in the wrong place, you’ll have a hard time finding the right person for you.”

The cost of placing a personal ad can range from free to hundreds of dollars. If your budget allows, place your ad in a publication you read or website you visit yourself.

Responding to an ad is a kind of advertisement in its own right. Use the same three criteria (above) to introduce yourself to the person who placed the ad. Refer to something about the ad you particularly liked, so the recipient knows that you’re responding to him or her specifically — that you’re not just sending form letters to everyone.

Telephone personals

This form of meeting someone is fairly new but growing at a fast rate. Telephone personals services such as Chit Chat, New York’s #1 Talkline, and Telepersonals allow you to record an ad, which other members can then to over the phone. If you pique someone’s interest, he or she will leave a message for you. Of course, you can to other members’ messages and respond to as many as you like. When you call in, an automated voice prompts you through a series of choices to route you to a specific part of overall system.

Many services are completely free for , since there are usually more men than using the service.

It’s also usually free for men to record their ad and listen to ads, but men usually have to pay to respond to ads and to pick up their messages. With many services, you would first select an age group, then what kind of relationship you are looking for (from friendship to marriage), and then the basic personality of the person you are hoping to meet.

Once you’ve hit it off and exchanged several messages with someone, take the time to have two or three long phone conversation before deciding to meet. This gives you the opportunity to explore whether your interests, attitudes, values, and relationship goals are compatible, and to judge the character of your prospective date. Taking the time to talk to each other not only helps you build a rapport, it also helps you better determine if the person is right for you.

“I decided to use a telephone personals company because it was fast, easy, and inexpensive,” says Shawn, a former member of a telephone personals service. “As a part-time single dad with a demanding career as a computer programmer, I didn’t have a lot of time to spend looking for the perfect mate. I joined from home, and listened to ads after the kids went to sleep. I never met anyone on the system that I didn’t like, and I dated two or three nice women before meeting Debbie. We talked for a couple of hours before we met (which is amazing because I hate phone conversations), so I knew we were intellectually compatible. As soon as she walked into the restaurant, I knew that she was the one. We got married last spring — three years from the day we met.”

Computer compatibility

The Internet connects over 25-million people from over 60 countries every day. More and more people are joining this cybersociety at a fantastic rate. It’s accessible 24 hours a day — come rain or shine, sleet or snow — from the comfort of your own home. All you need to launch yourself into cyberspace is a computer, a modem, some communications software, an internet provider (such as AOL) and a phone line or cable access to your provider.

Online matchmaking services, such as Match.com and Lavalife, provide a user-friendly way to meet people.

A leader in online personals, Match.com offers a fun and safe way to meet other singles. With more than 1.2-million members, this service offers a large member pool of quality singles, the majority of whom range in age from 25 to 45. Their “Super Search” allows you to quickly find profiles which fit your criteria, and will also send you new profiles that match your wants as they are posted. Match.com offers all users a free seven-day trial with unlimited access to browse through its member profile database.

Lavalife has been around for over 15 years. With more than 50,000 messages being posted everyday, Webpersonals offers three distinct destinations: one for men and women to connect; one for gay men (“manline”); and one for gay women (“womanline”). Once you’ve picked a destination, you can choose which community you’d like to join: “Dating,” Romance,” or “Intimate.” You can sign up in any or in all communities, then search each one for someone interesting. Their search engine allows you to be very specific about what kind of person you’re looking for; once you have your results, you can read any of the selected bios you wish.

Much like real-world dating, some people treat online dating as a fun way to pass time — a novelty. Others treat it as a genuine and meaningful way of socializing, hopefully leading towards a long-term relationship.

“Meeting online means you really have to work on your communication skills,” says Nina, a Toronto cosmetician who met Brian from Colarado. “It cuts through the superficial small talk, so you can immediately get to know someone. There’s no time to talk about the weather.” For the last two years, the two have gotten to know each other via the internet, and spent to two weeks vacationing together last summer. Now, the couple is making plans for Brian to move to Toronto to be with Nina. The discussions in cyberspace often cut through the small talk and superficiality of ordinary life. People can be intimate without being self-conscious, which can lead to deeper conversations (or cybersex, if you’re so inclined). It’s not without dirty spots, but cyberspace can be like the real world: it’s an exciting terrain to explore.

Wining and dining

Singles dances and parties are held on a weekly or monthly basis in every major city in North America. When you go to a function sponsored by a singles organization, the key is to make conversation with a number of different people and really listen to what they’re saying (both verbally and with body language).

Remember, it’s not enough to simply place yourself in a meeting environment: you need to maintain a positive attitude and give off inviting vibes (“inviting” does not mean promiscuous! Be appropriate). If you’re unfriendly, no one will take the time to get to know you. If you go with friends, don’t cling to them; approaching a pack of men or women can be too intimidating for someone who’d otherwise love to talk you.

Since we all have to eat, dinner groups can be an excellent way to meet someone and enjoy a great meal at the same time. The Single Gourmet offers events across North America — including New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles. It has more than 1,000 members in each of these cities. The Single Gourmet attracts single professionals who have a love of fine food, conversation, and socializing with other interesting singles. This atmosphere offers singles the opportunity to meet while dining together at a wide variety of the cities’ restaurants on a weekly schedule.

One terrific way to meet a lot of eligible people at once is host a dinner party with seven or eight other friends, each of whom is asked to bring one or more attractive eligible people of the opposite sex with whom they are not personally involved. Roger, a business executive with little spare time for socializing, began to hold monthly parties where he invited male friends to bring the most fascinating women they knew as long as they were not romantically linked. When it became clear that many of the invitees were showing up alone, Roger enlisted the help of women who had been to past parties to invite their single female friends. Hosting single soirees, theme parties, and other events is a great way to expand your network quickly.

Cultural encounters

Theater enthusiasts, music lovers, dance devotees, museum goers, and art aficionados will be happy to know that there are many people who share your interests — and many and events that can bring you together.

When it comes to theater, you could attend a benefit for a theater company, see a play with other singles, or even take an acting class or audition for the community theater.

Most cities boast at least one museum. In addition to exhibits, your local museum might offer special events, such as silent movie programs, modern classics programs, concerts, lecture series on arts, and hands-on art classes.

Another way to meet someone with the same appreciation for the arts is take a class. Consider signing up for group lessons in painting, ceramics and pottery, or dancing (take some private lessons first to brush up or gain confidence). You’ll not only meet great new people who share your interests, but you’ll have the fun of participating in a new hobby.

Parties for a Purpose

Involvement with non-profit organizations offers gratification in more ways than one. By investing your time, energy, and/or money as a volunteer, or by participating in fundraising events, you may experience a fruitful social life and feel good about making a contribution to a worthwhile cause. The more involved you become, the better you’ll get to know others who share your sensibility and desire to “do good.”

Many organizations offer volunteer opportunities, but may require a serious time commitment; take this into consideration when selecting which organization to support. Charities and special-interest groups and organizations are also a great way to connect with like-minded men and women. Many of the non-profit helping organizations — such as The American Red Cross, The American Cancer Society, The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, or The Multiple Sclerosis Society — wouldn’t be able to provide services to those in need without their dedicated volunteers. The rewards for helping others really can’t be measured. You’ll experience a genuine feeling of self-worth and of real usefulness — valuable indeed if you’re going through a difficult separation or divorce.

Better yourself

Life after divorce can be emotionally as well as physically exhausting. Depending on your unique situation and needs, a retreat, some exercise, or education could work wonders for your health, your peace of mind, and your social life. If you feel good about yourself, it shows — and that makes you much more attractive to others.

What’s the best kind of exercise? The one you enjoy doing, because you’ll actually do it. If you’d like the opportunity to meet people while getting or staying fit, choose a group activity such as co-ed volleyball, skiing, hiking, or a biking club. If you’re feeling self-conscious about your athletic ability, choose a more relaxed “fun” team or club. Don’t choose a sport you hate just because you think you’ll meet more potential dates; if you’re having a lousy time, you’re going to be lousy company.

Another way to improve yourself, and increase your opportunities to meet people, is to take some classes. You can study almost any subject in the world, from academic subjects (such as history, philosophy, literature, and ) to yoga to desktop publishing. You can learn how to play the stock market or how to play chess, fix your car or bake bread. The Learning Annex and the Seminar Centers in your area offer great classes on a variety of subjects. There are even classes on how to find your soulmate! Your classmates will be people like you: they’ll be interested in knowing more about an intriguing topic, and might just be hoping to meet new people and develop new friends.

Travel

Travel offers wonderful opportunities for singles. Adults-only resorts such as the Allegro Jack Tar in Mexico and Hedonism II in Jamaica provide a relaxed atmosphere and activities designed to encourage guests to mingle and meet. You could also join a singles tour geared to your tastes and interests — whether that’s visiting European art galleries or going on in Africa. If you’re traveling alone, you can request a roommate (lowering your expenses and giving you a companion), and you’re sure to befriend others in the group.

“Group tours can really expand your horizons,” says Martha Chapman of Signature Vacations. “You’ll have the opportunity to visit a destination you’ve always wanted to see, take advantage of the package prices, and you have access to lots of company if you want it. You’re alone, but not lonely.” Chapman also recommends taking advantage of the benefits that an all-inclusive package can offer. “All- inclusive resorts can offer you lots of security, activities, and an ambiance that allows you to meet a lot of new people. Everything is included and offered right there at the resorts, giving you the opportunity to try something new — such as scuba diving, windsurfing, sightseeing, or going on an archeological dig. You’ll be taking those lessons and day trips with many other guests of the resort, many of whom will probably become good friends and companions for the rest of your stay.”

Some all-inclusive resorts are very singles-oriented or offer adult-only stays. Call your travel agent, who should be able to help you find the perfect destination, package, or tour for you.

Get out and socialize

“I took a survey among my friends who are married or in a serious relationship,” says Diane, a single professional who works for an association. “There are many ways to meet your soul mate, but none of them involve sitting at home doing nothing.”

Still have no idea where to find single people? No problem. These suggestions are sure to put you where you want to be — with other great singles! If you’re shy, try the approaches that scare you the least to start with.

* Bookstores. Select an interesting book, then approach someone and ask them if they’ve ever read it or know the author’s work.
* Single Parent Support Groups. If you’re a single parent, this is a great way to share your concerns, get helpful ideas, and meet other like-minded single parents.
* Coffee Houses. A casual and popular spot for singles these days. Sit down with a copy of Divorce Magazine (it’s a great conversation piece!) and enjoy the exotic blends. Some coffee houses offer poetry readings and live music as well.
* Parks. A great place to walk or picnic. Check with your local department of parks and and get on their mailing list. They sponsor some great activities, like dancing in the park, arts, and craft shows. And walking a cute, friendly dog is a great way to meet people — they’ll come to you!
* Video stores. Are you into comedy? Or maybe you need a little drama in your life. Find someone interesting in the oldies section. Reminisce with him or her about how they just don’t make movies like that anymore, then discuss your favorite classics.
* Commuting. Taking the train or bus from work doesn’t have to be boring. Sit next to someone you find interesting, start up a conversation, and make the trip home an enjoyable one.

As you begin looking into one or more of these possibilities, you’ll discover more opportunities than you could have imagined to meet other single people in your area. Take a good look at the bulletin boards on the internet and listing section of your local newspapers and magazines for singles events that might interest you.

The opportunities for you to reach out and become involved in absorbing and enjoyable activities — to keep on learning and growing, to do some good, to make new friends, and perhaps even find new love — are all around you. All you have to do is seize them.

Dating safety rules

Caution is the keyword here. It doesn’t matter how or where you’ve met someone — whether it was through the personals, online, at a bar, or even though friends — don’t rush into too much intimacy too fast. Don’t be too quick to give your phone number, address, deeply personal information — or your body — to a virtual stranger. Some of life’s dangers are beyond your control, but you can protect yourself against others.

“Get to know someone on the phone before planning to meet up with them,” says Cavlo. “Take your time and get to know their sense of humor, their interests, and hear about their lives, so you have a better idea of who you are meeting — or if you really want to meet them.”

Use common sense when you plan to meet face-to-face with someone new. Here are a few tips to help keep you safe:

* Never invite strangers to your home until they are no longer strangers. This means you don’t give your address to anyone until you feel reasonably sure he/she won’t hurt you when you are alone with him/her, or try to break into your home to carry off your precious possessions when you’re away.
* Meet in a public spot, preferably during the day. Coffee is quick, and if things are going well, you can always extend it into a meal. But if you arrange to meet for dinner and a movie, your evening may seem like an eternity if things are going badly.
* Use your own transportation. After you’ve met the person, if you have any doubts at all about him or her, don’t allow yourself to be driven to dinner or to the theater. Take your own car. If you have strong doubts, don’t go.
* If you don’t have a car, make sure you have some cash and a credit card so you can get home.
* Carry change for a telephone or bring a cellular phone.
* Leave a trail. If you’re going out with someone for the first time, let a friend or family member know where you’re going, when you’ll be back, and who you’re with. Tell them you’re going out with someone you don’t know very well and give them your date’s name, phone number, and any information that you may have about the person.
* Be on the lookout for inconsistency. “Does the information you’re received during your date agree with the facts you got over the phone, through e-mail, etc.?” says Minsky. “If the person is still very secretive about where they work or live even after several conversations, this can be a sign that there may be a hidden agenda that isn’t in your best interests.”
* Keep your financial situation to yourself. Be wary of too many questions about your assets. Don’t be persuaded to invest in anything without full investigation.
* At the end of a date, make sure you aren’t being followed home. If you are being followed, drive to a police station or a friend’s apartment where you can call the police.
* If you don’t like the person, don’t give him or her your home phone number. Give a phony number, if it will let you make your exit without creating a scene.
* Trust your gut. If you have a feeling that there’s something wrong, then there’s something wrong. And you should go with that feeling. All in all, if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

Also remember not to take your date’s reticence on certain matters personally. They may just be protecting themselves in case you turn out to be a psycho. For the first few weeks, if he doesn’t want you to see his car, or she doesn’t want to tell you where she lives, that’s smart. If it’s been six months, however, you should smell a rat.

What happens next?

You never know what can come from a date: it may be nothing, it may be a friendship, it may be a romance. Don’t set impossible standards for yourself or your date. You may certainly have a wish list, but you’re now mature enough to know that no one person can be expected to meet all your needs. Allow yourself and others to be human. That doesn’t mean accepting someone as partner if he or she doesn’t enrich and enhance your life in important ways, but it does mean getting rid of fantasies of the perfect mate.

Just be open to everyone you meet. Maybe you’ve found your next employer. A sister or brother-in-law. Or a new friend. Learn from your dates; even if they go badly, it can help you identify the qualities you don’t want in a mate. Have respect for yourself: you deserve to be treated well. Have respect for others: don’t be rude unless you have to. Above all, relax and enjoy yourself. Dating may seem very different this time around, but it’s still good fun and can be very rewarding.

How will you know?

You’ve meet someone you really like, but you’re wondering whether he or she is really right for you.

Take the time to see if you are compatible: physically, emotionally, socially, intellectually, sexually, professionally, and in your hobbies (add or subtract items from this list based on your own wants and needs).

In Are you the One for Me? Barbara De Angelis offers a “Sixty Second Compatibility Test” you can use to see how well matched you are with someone. She suggests you ask yourself the following four questions about your prospective or present partners:

* Would I want to have a child with this person?
* Would I want to have a child just like this person?
* Do I want to become more like this person?
* Would I be willing to spend my life with this person if he or she never changed from the way they are now?

If you answered “yes” to all four questions, you’re probably compatible with one another. If you answered “no,” ask yourself why.

Once you think you’ve found the partner of your dreams, what can you do to create a marriage in which you have the kind of intimacy you want but still retain your sense of self as an separate individual?

According to Victoria Jaycox, author of Single Again, “One step is to make sure that you and your partner have the same kind of marriage in mind. Talk through what each of you expects from a partner and try to work out any differences before you marry. Discuss how you will handle differences, your own separate responsibilities, and how you will be there to support each other. What you want to achieve is an understanding about the nature of your marriage.”

The second step is to decide whether you’re willing to make those efforts and compromises required by this relationship. Those are the costs. For the benefits to outweigh them, your new partner must be someone who meets your needs for caring, intimacy and autonomy,” says relationship expert Barbara De Angelis. “Although finding that person is rare, it does happen. And if it has happened to you, you better than anyone will be able to recognize and grab hold of the miracle it represents.”

Sex.com Grabs a Guinness as Creditors Settle Differences

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CYBERSPACE—.com, the world’s most infamous , is now also officially its most expensive, according to the Guinness Book of World Records, which Tuesday crowned Sex.com ‘the most expensive address .’

The details as provided by Guinness are simple (and well known). “The most expensive internet domain name was sold for $13 million (£8.2 million) by Escom LLC to Clover Holdings Ltd on 17 November 2010,” reads their website.

Simultaneously, though probably coincidentally, an outstanding issue raised in bankruptcy court has been settled. Concerned creditor Nothin’ But Net had filed a motion last October in the Escom LLC bankruptcy preceding that accused Escom investor Mike Mann of “self-dealing.”

“Mann,” the company claimed, “through a series of self-dealing transactions, essentially gave away Escom’s most valuable rights to iEntertainment (i.e., to himself) and then had Escom ‘buy back’ those rights from his wholly owned and controlled subsidiary, iEntertainment, in exchange for a $2.5 million secured note (the “iEntertainment Note”). The ultimate, and clearly intended result of this shell game, was to allow Mann to reap a disproportional recovery upon Escom’s sale of its assets, primarily at the expense of NBN, which the Debtor presently owes approximately $2,337,562.39, but which NBN will not recover if Mann’s self-dealing is sanctioned.”

In approving both the Escom bankruptcy and the sale of Sex.com, the court took the charges seriously enough to set aside approximately $2 million of the sale price tendered by St. Vincent-based Clover Holdings.

Feb. 7, however, Judge Geraldine Mund, following written and oral arguments, ruled against Nothin’ But Net, denying its motion to pursue state court causes of action. On Feb. 17, a stipulation was filed with the court in which Nothin’ But Net agreed to withdraw its objection, paving the way for “the payment of default interest, late fees or collection costs, including attorney’s fees, to the Secured Lenders in accordance with the terms of the Sale Approval Motion.” Nothin’ But Net also agreed not to file any more motions in the matter.

That ends the bankruptcy and most recent sale of Sex.com, but the story is undoubtedly far from over, especially considering the fact that the new owners of the most expensive domain in the world have yet to really do anything with it. But if the rumblings are true and the new owners also own other iconic domains, one can only hope that when Sex.com is finally developed, it fulfills the expectations that so many people have had for a domain that really truly should bring in far more than it cost to purchase.

Libyans: Food shortage, more violence by security forces in Tripoli

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(Phatforums) - This update is unconfirmed - information is sourced from social media groups.

The burning of the soldiers who did not want to shoot the protesters is unconfirmed yet, you must know that there are other people that would do such thing so that people think it's the president and more people go against him, I cannot say anything about that.

There were always small protesters against him, but now it's bigger.
Yes, Youtube was blocked 1 year ago (or 2 not sure sry) because many were flaming him on the Youtube videos showing him.

Facebook has been blocked 3-4 days ago, I still access it with a private proxy though, and Twitter is blocked too.

The internet is slow, and phone connections are hard to reach, but we all got a big bonus We got 10 credits in our phone!

I do not want to go on your radio station or whatever, I might get in trouble. I can get many images and videos (I already have some images like a dead body of a 50 cal sniper bullet shot through his head, I do not want to post it, it's very very strong and ugly).

I was also thinking to make a Libyan Facebook, but that might get me in trouble

UNCONFIRMED NEWS: People say that a meeting will be held, or is being now, that the high ranked government people offered the president the same payment as he is getting now, everything same, offering him FULL security in Libya, and his family, but just to leave his current position as a leader. It is an important meeting, but unconfirmed.

(Reuters) - Libya's Muammar Gaddafi used tanks, helicopters and warplanes to fight a growing revolt, witnesses said on Tuesday, as the veteran leader scoffed at reports he was fleeing after four decades in power.

The U.N. refugee agency urged to Libya's neighbors not to turn back those fleeing the violence, as hundreds of refugees streamed into on tractors and trucks, describing a wave of killing and banditry unleashed by the revolt.

In the eastern town of Al Bayda, resident Marai Al Mahry told Reuters by telephone that 26 people including his brother Ahmed had been shot dead overnight by Gaddafi loyalists.

"They shoot you just for walking on the street," he said, sobbing uncontrollably as he appealed for help.

Protesters were attacked with tanks and warplanes, he said.

"The only thing we can do now is not give up, no surrender, no going back. We will die anyways, whether we like it or not. It is clear that they don't care whether we live or not. This is genocide," said Mahry, 42.

In Tripoli, residents told Reuters there was no visible security force presence on the streets. The only police present were directing traffic, they said, the day after reports that warplanes had bombed portions of the capital and mercenaries had shot civilians.

Refugees fleeing into Egypt told of a wave of violence and crime.

"Five people died on the street where I live," Mohamed Jalaly, 40, told Reuters at Salum on his way to Cairo from Benghazi. "You leave Benghazi and then you have ... nothing but gangs and youths with weapons," he added. "The way from Benghazi is extremely dangerous," he said.

Libyan guards have withdrawn from their side of the border and Egypt's new military rulers -- who took power following the overthrow of President Hosni Mubarak on February11 -- said the main crossing would be kept open round-the-clock to allow the sick and wounded to enter.

Libyan security forces have cracked down fiercely on demonstrators across the country, with fighting spreading to Tripoli after erupting in Libya's oil-producing east last week, in a reaction to decades of repression and following uprisings that have toppled leaders in Tunisia and Egypt.

Watch says at least 233 people have been killed and opposition groups put the figure much higher but independent verification is impossible.

The revolt in OPEC member Libya has driven oil prices to a 2 1/2 year high above $108 a barrel.

As the fighting has intensified some supporters have abandoned Gaddafi. Tripoli's envoy to India, Ali al-Essawi, resigned and told Reuters that African mercenaries had been recruited to help put down protests.

"The fall of Gaddafi is the imperative of the people in streets," he said. The justice minister also quit and a group of army officers urged soldiers to "join the people." Two pilots flew their warplanes to nearby Malta.

DEFIANCE AND CONDEMNATION
Gaddafi's son Saif on Sunday vowed his father would keep fighting "until the last man standing" and the Libyan leader appeared on television after days of seclusion to dismiss reports he had fled to the Venezuela of his ally Hugo Chavez.

"I want to show that I'm in Tripoli and not in Venezuela. Do not believe the channels belonging to stray dogs," said Gaddafi, who has ruled Libya with a mixture of populism and tight control since taking power in a military coup in 1969.

World powers have condemned the use of force against protesters, U.N. accusing Libya of firing on civilians from warplanes and helicopters. The Security Council was to discuss Libya at 9 a.m. EST.

Washington and have demanded an end to the violence and Germany's Foreign Minister Guido Westerwelle said: "A ruling family, threatening its people with civil war, has reached the end of the line."

Demonstrations spread to Tripoli from the second city Benghazi, cradle of the revolt that has engulfed a number of towns and which residents say is now in the hands of protestors.

Residents said anxious shoppers were queuing outside stores to try to stock up on food and drink. Some shops were closed.

In Tripoli, one resident said locals were patrolling their neighborhood at night to protect it from roaming mercenaries, reporting sniper fire and the use of military transport helicopters to ferry security forces about.

"Gaddafi obviously does not have any limits. We knew he was crazy, but it's still a terrible shock to see him turning mercenaries on his own people and just mowing down unarmed demonstrators," he told Lisa Goldman, a Canadian-Israeli journalist based in Tel Aviv.

ENERGY DISRUPTION

Spain's Repsol suspended all operations in Libya and trade sources reported operations at Libyan oil ports had been disrupted due to the unrest. Others said gas supplies from Libya to had slowed since Late Monday but said they had not yet been interrupted.

Shell said it was pulling out its expatriate staff from Libya temporarily and a number of states were seeking to evacuate their nationals.

The upheavals which deposed the presidents of Tunisia and Egypt have shaken the Arab world and inspired protests across the and North Africa, threatening the grip of long-entrenched autocratic leaders.

A flamboyant figure with his flowing robes and bevy of female bodyguards, Gaddafi was famously branded a "mad dog" by one president and has long been accused by the West of links to and revolutionary movements.

But this changed when Libya renounced its weapons of mass destruction to secure an end to its international isolation and a rapprochement with western governments, keen to tap its oil and gas wealth and lucrative trade and investment deals.

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(Reporting by Tarek Amara, Christian Lowe, Tarek Amara, Marie-Louise Gumuchian, Souhail Karam; Love, Daren Butler; Henry Foy in New Delhi; Writing by Jon Boyle; Editing by Angus MacSwan and Giles Elgood)

Libya divided as revolt hits Tripoli

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(Reuters) – Dozens of people were reported killed in Libya overnight as anti- protests reached the capital for the first time and several cities in the east appeared to be in the hands of the opposition.

One of Muammar Gaddafi’s sons said the veteran leader would fight the popular revolt that has shaken his 40-year rule until “the last standing”.

Anti-government protesters rallied in Tripoli’s streets, tribal and religious leaders spoke out against Gaddafi, and units defected to the opposition in a revolt that has cost the lives of more than 200 people.

Protesters said they had taken control of Benghazi and other cities, severely testing Gaddafi’s iron grip, with some analysts suggesting the country was heading for civil war.

“Libya is the most likely candidate for civil war because the government has lost control over part of its own territory,” said Shadi Hamid, director of at the Brookings Doha Center in Qatar.

Output at one of the country’s oil fields was reported to have been stopped by a workers’ strike and some European oil companies withdrew expatriate workers and suspended operations. Most of the country’s oil fields are in the east, south of Benghazi, the cradle of the current unrest.

Anti-government protests have also broken out in the central town of Ras Lanuf, the site of an oil refinery and petrochemical complex, Libya’s Quryna newspaper reported on its Internet site on Monday.

In signs of disagreement inside Libya’s ruling elite, the justice minister resigned in protest at the “excessive use of violence” against protesters.

In India, Libya’s ambassador said he was resigning in protest at the violent crackdown.

A coalition of Libyan Muslim leaders told all Muslims it was their duty to rebel against the Libyan leadership because of its “bloody crimes against humanity”.

European nations watched developments in Libya with a growing sense of alarm after the government in Tripoli said it would suspend cooperation on stemming the flow of illegal immigrants across the Mediterranean.

British David Cameron, on a visit to the region, said events in Libya were appalling and unacceptable.

Al Jazeera quoted medical sources as saying 61 people had been killed in the latest protests in Tripoli.

It said forces were looting banks and other government institutions in Tripoli, and protesters had broken into several police stations and wrecked them.

A Reuters reporter in Tripoli said residents were stocking up on essential goods, apparently in anticipation of new clashes after nightfall. There were long queues at food shops and long lines of cars at fuel stations.

The building where the General People’s Congress, or parliament, meets in Tripoli was on fire on Monday, as was a police station in one of the eastern suburbs.

Online Dating Tips for Men

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The Bar Scene is Dead. Long live the Web.
Need proof? Research shows that Americans now spend more than a billion dollars a year on dating services. That’s a lot of clicks, so it’s no surprise that 20 percent of new claim to have found each other in the digital ether. Not only is the setting up encounters, but it’s speeding them up, too: Prescreening dating partners evidently helps guys out so much that a third of female online daters have sex on the first date.

But in spite of all this potential for romantic success, a staggering 97 percent of give up the game after 3 months. “They quit before figuring it out,” says Scott Valdez, head of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that helps users perfect their online profiles. “So a very small percentage of are seeing all the results.” By that, of course, he means that the other 3 percent of guys are scoring all the hot dates. But here’s the good news: With the right photos, profile, search parameters, and messages, you can be one of those . Use our tips, culled from the vast troves of data at key online matchmaking sites, to turn your virtual profile into a virtual shoo-in.

Picture yourself perfectly
We like to think that are not as shallow as we are, but that doesn’t mean they’re blind. “The vast majority of online daters, included, look at profile photos to decide whether to read your message,” says online dating coach Laurie Davis, founder of eFlirt Expert.

Go with your best face.
Use OkCupid’s My Best Face application, which lets you upload photos for the free dating site’s members to vote on. Use their input to select your top four to seven shots. “You’re only as good as your worst photo,” Valdez notes. That applies to picture quality, too; high-quality images outrank cellphone photos of the same people.

Make a scene.
According to OkCupid’s research, the strongest photos of men are ones in which they’re doing something interesting while neither smiling nor looking at the camera. And choose a noteworthy environment for your shot. “My boyfriend and I met on JDate, and his picture was taken in front of a Jackson Pollock painting I like,” says Carly, 27. “That really piqued my interest.”
2. Tell her some stories

Dating sites are clogged with men who pile on the adjectives, likes, and dislikes. But women respond more to stories, images, and emotions. So to stand out …

Be anecdotal. That’s the advice of Kate Houston, an copywriter who runs the profile-writing service trysweettalk.com. She penned this for a musician client: “When I was a boy, I picked up the trumpet and played Louis Armstrong’s ‘What a Wonderful World.’ It made my mom cry. I was that bad. Today I play trumpet for a living.” See?

Be specific. Dan Abelon, cofounder and president of SpeedDate.com, suggests hinting at your itinerary on nights out. “Write, ‘On weekends I like to hang out at Crobar,’ instead of ‘I enjoy clubbing on the weekends,’ ” he says. “It’s an instant icebreaker, especially if the woman shares this experience.”

Be genuine. Don’t kid yourself into thinking women are any less crafty than you are. “The first thing a woman does is you to get a fuller sense of who you are,” says Eva Ritvo, M.D., a psychiatrist and expert. “If your Facebook and Match.com profiles aren’t consistent, she’s gone.” Speaking of which, women also play the profile-cooking game: A University of Chicago/MIT study found that the average female online dater says she weighs less than the average U.S. woman of the same age. The discrepancy is about 6 pounds for women in their 20s, 18 pounds for women in their 30s, and 19 pounds for women in their 40s. Women who post photos taken from odd angles or ones that focus on a single area of their body, like cleavage, tend also to be less than forthcoming about certain details, Dr. Ritvo says.

Be brief. A 2007 study in the Journal of Personality and found that online daters tend to fill gaps in their own profiles with details that they think will attract their desired mate. So keep it pithy, lest you misrepresent yourself. “Your write-up should be like a woman’s skirt — long enough to cover the essentials, short enough to be interesting,” says Robert Epstein, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of the compatibility test at AreWe-GoodTogether.com.

3. Game the systems
There are three big reasons to regularly switch up your photos and info. First, the various shades of your profile will to different types of women. Second, an update may give you a second shot with a woman who didn’t previously write back. “You might look like a totally new guy, and she’ll be attracted to you,” Davis says.

But the third reason to regularly refresh your profile is the most important one: It games the system. Every time you update your profile, it climbs back to the front page of female users’ browsing results. “We started doing this, and our clients received four times as many ‘winks,’” Valdez says. “It’s like being on the top of a Google search.” Making little changes may seem tedious, but attracting eyes to your profile is huge. Virtual Dating Assistants found that messages sent to women who’d simply viewed a client’s profile were 78 percent more likely to draw a response.

4. Redefine what’s “hot”
Any woman you’re aching to hear from has probably caught the eye of every other guy within a few zip codes, says Davis. Need proof? OkCupid found that two-thirds of male messages went to the best-looking third of women, who also happened to be the least likely to write back. Chase a few more 7s — who may be 10s in person anyway — and your response rates will rise. Also, lift the age barrier. “Two-thirds of men on our site don’t search for women older than they are, whereas a 35-year-old woman will range from, say, 30 to 50, so there’s a lot of opportunity,” says OkCupid CEO Sam Yagan.

The most popular sites with our experts were Match.com, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, JDate, and eHarmony. Valdez says eHarmony is the best for dating out of your league — women trust the site’s compatibility metrics. But you can expand past dating sites altogether. “There are a zillion women on Facebook, and they’re not necessarily looking for guys there, so you’re not competing with other men,” says Jordan Harbinger, cofounder of the Art of Charm, a service that helps men improve their social and dating skills. “If you have mutual friends, ask for an intro.”

5. Message better: The don’ts
Perhaps the biggest gaffe you can commit on a dating site is to ape netspeak. “I hate misspellings and when guys use ‘LOL’ and things like that,” says Olivia, 30. OkCupid’s research findings agree. References to looks — “sexy,” “beautiful” —c an cut response rates by at least 10 percent. Shorthand like “U,” “R,” and “LUV” can decrease them by as much as 25 percent. “‘U R sexy’ is probably the worst thing you can write,” says Yagan. “Girls don’t want to date dumb dudes.”

Don’t just “wink.” “As tempting as it is, winking says basically that you’re lazy and just not that into her,” Davis says. “You need to write a note. Also, don’t combine a wink and a message. It’s like writing in all caps.”

Don’t prowl late. “We all know what you’re looking for at 11 o’clock at night,” Dr. Ritvo says. “It’s the Internet equivalent of a drunk text.”

6. Message better: The dos
What you really should be doing online is playing the numbers. Andrew Fiore, Ph.D., a social psychologist at State University, found in one study that the best predictor of how many messages people receive is how many they send. Women may not respond for numerous reasons, but you can’t take a lack of response personally or lose confidence. “Maintain the mentality that every woman will write back,” adds Valdez. “You’re a selector, you’re fighting off women. You’re not writing ‘hope to hear from you’ but rather ‘talk to you soon.’ ”

Check her activity level. As alluring as they may be, beauties who haven’t logged in for weeks should be avoided — you’ll receive the best response from regular users. Virtual Dating Assistants found that messages sent to women who were “Online Now” yielded 60 percent more responses than did e-mails to women who’d last logged in 1 to 3 weeks prior. Women who hadn’t been on the site for 3 weeks or longer didn’t respond at all.

Master the details. Women constantly see subject lines like “hey there,” so 2 seconds of extra effort can give you an edge. “Say her profile says, ‘I make the best lasagna,’ ” says Davis. “Your subject could be ‘Battle of the Lasagnas.’ ” The message itself should be brief — a few sentences referring to her profile and embedding a question to elicit a response, says Russ Ruggles, creator of onlinedatingmatchmaker.com.

Seal the Deal
Once you’ve received a response or two, you’re more than halfway to a date. Focus on keeping things light and funny; within three notes, angle for a meeting. The key word is “meeting,” not “date.” Casually invite her to something you’re already planning on doing, like heading to a comedy show. “This way she gets a window into your world, there’s less pressure for the ‘date’ to go well, and if she flakes, you’re still going to have fun,” says Harbinger. Of course, no matter how things go, you’re still miles ahead of that guy at the bar.

FCC’s Net Neutrality Plan Hits Roadblock

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WASHINGTON — House voted this week to suspend funding for the Federal Communications Commission’s net neutrality plan.

By a vote of 244 to 181, the House approved an amendment to a spending bill that would stop funding for the plan, which was approved in December.

The “does not need to be regulated by an unelected group of federal bureaucrats,” Rep. Cliff Stearns, a Republican, said in a statement. “Net regulation will discourage investment and innovation precisely when we need it most, especially in light of our push to increase broadband deployment. The FCC should not stand in the way of innovation and expansion.”

Stearns said that any Internet regulations should be approved by Congress “only after holding deliberative hearings and with a vote by elected officials.”

A joint resolution of disapproval, part of the Congressional Review Act, would need to pass with a majority in both chambers, then survive a veto from President .

In December, the FCC approved net neutrality rules along party lines. The order provides three high-level rules: transparency; no blocking; and no unreasonable discrimination.

Republicans swiftly vowed to take the rules down. Democrats, however, said the rules did not go far enough.

Libyans vow to protest despite violence from government

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Protester in Benghazi
STORY HIGHLIGHTS

* NEW: African mercenaries Sunday circle headquarters, witnesses say
* NEW: Witnesses report food shortages, down
* Reported death toll passes 180
* An army official siding with the opposition says the “caused a massacre”

(CNN) — Thousands of mourners, some carrying coffins above their heads, crowded into the streets of Benghazi, Libya, on Sunday as the protests against longtime ruler Moammar Gadhafi showed no sign of letting up.

The crowds walked as part of a funeral for several people killed in clashes that began Saturday afternoon between civilians and security forces loyal to Gadhafi, eye witnesses told CNN.

The protesters said the violent crackdown by security forces since demonstrations started last week has left them energized.

The reported death toll grew quickly over the weekend, passing 180.

Two medical sources in two hospitals in Benghazi told CNN that 97 people were killed in the city since Saturday, following clashes between protesters and security forces. All those confirmed dead were wearing civilian clothing and are believed to be protesters, the sources said.

Our goal is simple: We want Gadhafi to leave. We want freedom. … We want democracy.
–Libyan protester

Medical sources at a Misratah hospital said at least three died and 70 were wounded in clashes Saturday between security forces and anti-government protesters. Three of those injured were in critical condition, the sources said.

On Friday, Rights Watch said 84 people had been killed by government security forces. The group cited interviews with hospital staff and witnesses. CNN could not independently verify the numbers.

Meanwhile, a doctor in Benghazi said her facility is taking on trauma patients because a trauma hospital in the city is inundated by those injured.

“All of them have been injured by bullets,” said the doctor, whose identity is not being released for security reasons. She said most suffered gunshot wounds to the head, chest or neck.

Doctors at al-Jalaa hospital said there was a shortage of beds and facilities since there are only 15 operating rooms. They said the hospital is using a nearby school to store some of the dead bodies until they are transported to morgues and cemeteries. They have appealed to people to donate blankets.

People who appear to be African mercenaries circled Benghazi’s security headquarters Sunday. Continued clashes took place at the gates of the Alfadeel Abu-Omar military camp in the center of the city, eyewitness said. Sporadic shooting from the camp at the civilians continued Sunday, citizens who live near the camp told CNN.

Thousands, many of whom are lawyers, remained camped outside the city’s high court chanting, “The people want to bring down the regime.”

Citizens spoke of a food shortage in various parts of the city.

Libyans in Benghazi told CNN the internet remained down in the city and electricity was cut off for the second night in the row, but was back in the morning.

Benghazi, the North African nation’s second-largest city and hub of its eastern province, was home to some of the bloodiest clashes Saturday. Still, an anti-government demonstrator there said that despite having been barraged for days by tear gas and bullets, many of his colleagues slept outside the city’s courthouse and planned another rally for Sunday afternoon.

“There are a lot of people getting killed for their freedom,” the , who was not identified for safety reasons, told CNN Sunday. “Our goal is simple: We want Gadhafi to leave. We want freedom. … We want democracy.”

The man, a technology expert who has set up cameras airing live online video streams around Benghazi, estimated that the numbers of anti-government demonstrators in the city has grown by 20% since the protests began Tuesday.

Obtaining independent confirmation on events in Libya is very difficult. The Libyan government maintains tight control on communications and has not responded to repeated requests from CNN for access to the country. CNN has interviewed numerous witnesses by phone.

A report from Libya’s state-run JANA news agency blames “acts of sabotage and burning” on outsiders aiming to undermine the nation’s stability, security and unity. The report claims that the unrest has been fomented in Libya as well as Tunisia, Morocco, Sudan, , Lebanon and Iran by an Israeli-led network of covert operatives.

Since Wednesday, authorities have arrested “dozens of foreign members of this network who were trained on starting clashes,” the JANA story said, adding that the outsiders were of Tunisian, Egyptian, Sudanese, Turkish, Palestinian and Syrian descent.

The soldiers… said, ‘We are with you.’ We believed them. After that, they started shooting the people. Why?
–Libyan

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Lt. Col. Mohammed al-Majbari, who helped lead Libyan military forces in Benghazi before deciding early this week to join the opposition, claimed that government forces — aided by mercenaries from other African countries — “caused a massacre.”

“It is time for freedom,” al-Majbari said. “(Gadhafi) is not a human being. A Libyan would never do this to his people. He is a dictator.”

Several eyewitnesses told CNN that cars of riflemen drove past protesters, indiscriminately firing at them.

A Libyan woman supportive of the protesters, who was not identified to protect her safety, told CNN that army soldiers on Saturday initially claimed solidarity with the demonstrators, only to reverse their tack and open fire on the crowd.

“The soldiers … said, ‘We are with you.’ We believed them,” she said. “After that, they started shooting the people. Why? Why did they lie?”

Others in Libya reported similar protests in the cities of al-Baida, Ajdabiya and significantly in Misratah — an indication that the demonstrations centered in the east were spreading west.

A protester identified only as Moftah told CNN that Libyans, inspired by the toppling of dictators in neighboring Egypt and Tunisia, had simply had enough of Gadhafi.

“He will tell you that his secret police are everywhere,” Moftah said. “It’s time to break this fear barrier. We reach a point that we don’t care anymore.”

The official Jamahiriya News Agency reported that Gadhafi had spoken in recent days with fellow leaders from Guinea, Liberia and Yemen.

The government also sent out, via text, a tacit warning against “the inappropriate use of telecommunications services (that) contradict our religion … our customs … and our traditions.” Internet service in Libya shut down Friday evening, though it was more available by Sunday.

The government’s firm grip on power heightened the concerns of a woman from Benghazi, who urged U.S. and other world leaders to help the Libyan people in the face of the government crackdown.

“We have no freedom here,” she said. “I speak to all the world, to America, to Mr. Obama: Please help . We (did) nothing. We want to live a good life.”

The female doctor at the Benghazi hospital said Sunday she worries more violence will ensue.

“I think — and I hope not — it’s going to be (a) more disastrous situation than yesterday because yesterday was more of a disaster than the two days before,” she said. “I’m so scared.”