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10 Ways to Turn Him On Without Touching

March 28, 2013 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / The Stir) — Men are such fascinating creatures. They are simple but complicated; rugged yet gentle. They get turned on when we root for the same baseball team and when they have a great view of our backsides. They are visual beings, but that’s not the only way to get a guy’s blood flowing. Some of the ways to turn a man on may be surprising like knowing how to use a power saw, having friends, and being able to hang out and drink beers like . And of course there are the obvious ways like wearing lingerie and any type of physical contact that typically comes before sex — kissing, oral, mutual masturbation, you know, sex without .

But we can’t forget the ways to turn a man on without touching him at all. ’s . These are things we do perhaps without even realizing it. Or things we can start doing to really get his attention.

The sight of your bra strap. Seeing a bra strap is a , in a good way. The shoulder is a sexy body part, too. Just a hint of your bra gets his mind thinking — his going. Bonus if it’s a sexy looking bra strap. Men think: lingerie!

A genuine . Especially if it’s at his , but never if it’s at his expense.

Wearing fitted clothes. Guys tend to like to see all the curves of our body and show that off. But not too tight so we’re uncomfortable and that discomfort shows.

Wearing clothes that aren’t too fussy. Clothes that are too complicated or too much trend mixing isn’t a turn-on.

Anything that’s see-through. Even if you are wearing something under a see-through top, men tend to find it very appealing.
Confidence.

Showing part of your thigh. Maybe we should borrow Angelina Jolie’s dress? Or better yet, ’s. Men love some leg.

Wearing a dress or top that is low cut in the back. I think the small of your back is an erogenous zone — men like seeing it, too.

A smile from across the room. Your eyes meet and you acknowledge that with a smile — that’s sweetly sexy.

Giving him a compliment. It might be just as much of a turn on as giving him a blowjob (and less work).

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How To Keep Your Sex Life Alive in Your Marriage

January 24, 2013 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / About.com) — Sex doesn’t have to get boring in marriage. As the years go by, your should get better. Here are some ways to keep your marriage and fresh.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: varies

Here’s How: Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another more!

Share with one another your .

Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking. False or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage.

is a continuing process of discovery. through communication is what makes sex great.

Sex in a long lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you have made love to each other, the wonder and awe of can still be there.

When life becomes busy, and schedules are hectic, plan for with one another. Make sex one of your main priorities.

Try to set the mood in advance.

If you want to have good sex at night, start the in the morning.

Let your spouse know you care and are thinking about him/her throughout the day by notes, e-mails, phone calls, hugs, etc.

Don’t expect your spouse to be the only one in your marriage who is responsible for romance. You both need to take responsibility for having an intimate and successful marriage.

Hold hands more often.

Schedule date nights.

Tips:

Being grouchy all day or ignoring your spouse during the day hurts your chances of having a positive lovemaking experience that evening.
Remember that sex isn’t going to be perfect each time. Don’t compare your sex life to the ones you see in movies or on .
Recognize that now and then can be beneficial to your relationship if you start to lust after one another more.

What You Need

Good Communication

Love for Each Other

to Make Time for Each Other

Date Nights

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7 Sexy Things I Do More of Since Having Kids

January 18, 2013 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / The Stir) — Oh now, you didn’t think I was a big old just because I have a list of sexy things I ditched since having kids? I did write a sex book for , mind you, so I haven’t joined a convent or anything.

So if you thought your was suddenly over after , THINK AGAIN! Here are seven sexy things I do more of now that I’m a mom. Rowr.

1. Sex in the shower – As a busy mom, I’ve got to multi-task, so sex in the shower is definitely killing two birds with one stone. Plus, my back is so clean now that I have someone else to wash it for me.

2. play – I’d always played with alone, but now that I have kids, I’m all about bringing into the mix with my husband. I don’t have a ton of time to fool around, so they definitely help speed things along.

3. – It might be because it takes a little more these days to get me going (darn hormones!), but I definitely engage in a lot more these days, both receiving and giving.

4. The – I admit that sex used to be quite a big production back in the day, but now my husband and I don’t have time for that. So we’ve embraced “the ,” which allows us to have fun and still get the done.

5. Talking dirty – Perhaps it’s because I need a little extra help to get turned on, but the dirty talk has certainly gotten much more abundant since having kids.

6. Sex outside the bed – A change of scenery can be pretty hot, and since overnights in hotels, at least on any sort of regular basis, aren’t feasible, just moving to the floor, the closet, even the basement (which is finished, by the way) does the trick.

7. Sexy – Maybe I’m getting more daring in my old age, but I love sending sexy , which are an excellent form of foreplay.

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8 Promises Every Man Should Make to His Wife in the New Year

December 29, 2012 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / The Stir) — A beckons and, for many of us, that can mean a time of rebirth. A time to start anew. A time … well, to make up for the ridiculously we did to our wives this year.

Yes, New Year’s Day means New Year’s . While many take this opportunity to quit smoking or , many husbands can look to 2013 as a clean slate. A chance to wipe things out. Balance the , if you will.

Sure, we can all slip right back into the same slackers of years gone by and enjoy the comforts of a bumpy couch yet again. Or we can finally man up and make some New Year’s Resolutions worth sticking to! With that in mind, I put together a list of 8 Promises to Make to Your Wife in 2013! These are my personal ones, but they most likely hold true for the majority of hubbies out there, so just adapt as needed.

To my beautiful, skinny, sexy, and intelligent wife:

1) Up! – You probably never even noticed, but I promise to put the down when I’m finished draining the .

2) Under Where? – I promise not to leave my underwear laying on the floor every day. Just don’t look under the bed, okay?

3) Let’s Dish – Apparently the doesn’t fill itself. Futuristic society, my ass! Anyway, I promise to not leave my dishes on the table, but to put them in the . (Most likely in the wrong spot so after two or three times you’ll tell me to just forget it.)

4) Yo Momma – I promise to agree with you whenever you start talking trash about my mom. Or at least to keep my mouth shut. Or to only disagree slightly.

5) Blue Balls – Not only do I promise to perform lots more (which is the same as promising to perform ), but I won’t even let you reciprocate.

6) Food for Thought – I promise to make dinner for my beautiful wife at least once a month. Or at least once.

7) No Holes Barred – I’m sure it never bothered you, but all those holes in the wall? Yeah, I promise to spackle and paint them all this year. No, this time I’m serious.

8) Talk the Talk – For five minutes a day, I promise to ask you how your day was and really sit and listen. Don’t be offended if I ask you while you’re sleeping.

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Having So-So Sex? 6 Ways To Make It Mind-Blowing

December 3, 2012 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / Yourtango) — Life is too short for so-so sex! Try these six mind-blowing sex tips.

We have sex for many reasons, not all of them physical. But it’s that mysterious build up and subsequent release of tension known as an orgasm that keeps us coming back for more and more sex with our partner.

To make the sex you’re having better, hotter and consistently more orgasmic, pay more attention to and communication, and learn how to !

If you aren’t already having mind-blowing sex and want to be, here are six tips to try tonight (or, any old time, really):

1. Don’t skimp on foreplay… The hottest, most explosive sex happens when both partners are fully turned on, present and focused on each other. Foreplay is the only way to get there—it heightens arousal and increases the desire and the likelihood you’ll reach orgasm. Incorporating extended play sessions into your gives your body time to prepare for the .

You may not realize it, but your actually goes through physiological changes during arousal. Your uterus pulls up slightly and the walls of your expand in a process called “tenting,” making much more enjoyable.

2. …And don’t rush that foreplay! to get turned on turns up the sexual heat in many ways, but one of the most important and often overlooked facts about foreplay is that it gives you time to build anticipation. Anticipation, and the accompanying tension it causes, is like a red hot, super turn-on. After all, if you know exactly what’s going to happen and when, there’s nothing to get excited about. It’s the need, the build up and the feeling that you might not be able to wait that really make sex hot.

3. Be vocal. Speak up about the attention you want. Your lover wants to please you, but actually may not know how. Some of us are more perceptive than others, and and women worry that asking questions will kill the mood. Despite the well-known that there are no stupid questions, some questions are definitely less sexy than others.

You can solve this problem by talking about your desires. If you want something specific, make it clear. If you simply need to slow things down, try taking control. Don’t be afraid to pull back and stop the action or change its course.

4. Offer positive reinforcement. Criticism is not sexy, so use positive reinforcement to get what you want during sex play. Statements like: “I love when you touch me there,” “I love when you use your mouth,” and “I love when we go slowly—it makes me want you even more,” are excellent ways to get what you need while maintaining the erotic tension between you and your partner.

5. Take control of your orgasm. Many of us grow up with the belief that our partners will give us pleasure and orgasms, and because of this, we are often reluctant to take a more active role in creating pleasure for ourselves during intercourse. No matter how great a lover your partner is, he or she can’t read your mind and can’t steer every aspect of your pleasure.

Your partner should be attentive to your needs, of course, and you should expect him or her to possess sexual skills and empathy to know how to please you. But, he or she can’t actually “give” you an orgasm without your participation. Sex is something you are doing together, and your orgasm is just as much your responsibility as it is your lover’s. Have sex in positions that allow you access to your most sensitive parts, and be vocal about what feels good and what isn’t working. Change positions when you need to. Happy Ending Massage for Women

6. Consider using a vibrator. There are many options on the market for small vibrators you can use during partner sex. Find one you like and use it—don’t be shy. Explain to your partner that your vibrator will greatly enhance the experience of intercourse and will allow you to climax with much less effort.

Vibrators take the pressure off, which allows you to relax without that you won’t have an orgasm. Using a vibrator during sex says that you are sexually liberated and serious about enjoying sex, and there is absolutely no downside to that.

Diana Cage is the author of Mind-Blowing Sex: A Woman’s Guide. She is also the former host of The Diana Cage Show, a wildly popular, no-holds-barred nightly talk show on Sirius XM. Her other books include Girl Meets Girl: A Dating Survival Guide, Box Lunch: The Layperson’s Guide to Cunnilingus, Bottoms Up: Writing About Sex, and the groundbreaking On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex.

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10 Ways to Make Date Night Sizzle

August 4, 2012 By Leave a Comment

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( News / The Stir) — If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a thousand times — date night is a great idea … in theory. In practice, however, “date night” is often sitting around watching crappy with your partner after the kids go to bed.

And if, by chance, you do manage to eke out a true date night with a and everything, it can STILL be hard to manage — a conversation that doesn’t revolve around little Jimmy and how he’s adjusting to this season.

SO not sexy.

So here are some tips for making date night SIZZLE!

1) Spend the afternoon getting all dolled up for date night — take special care to groom your undercarriage. This will make YOU feel sexier and give your partner a sexy surprise later on.

2) Slip into some sexy undergarments. Over dinner, whisper in his ear, “I’m wearing those silk undies you bought me. I can’t wait to show you.”

3) Drink a little — not a lot. The last thing you want to deal with on date night is being wasted and unable to even get it on.

4) Any time the conversation gets close to kid stuff, or house stuff, steer it back into the sexy direction.

5) Flirt, really flirt with your partner. Sure, you’ve been together since the dawn of time, but how often do you get to be flirty? Probably not enough.

6) Book a for the night so you two can go back there and get down and dirty WITHOUT of the kids walking in on you.

7) Slip into the bath together — let him really bathe you as some amazing .

8) Sit together during dinner and whisper dirty things into his ear as you stroke his leg.

9) Let your intertwine as you roam up them with your foot — that gives him quite a sexy reaction.

10) While you’re wearing sexy stuff underneath, make sure to dress a little sexy (not slutty) for the night. A little , a shorter , : he’ll go wild!

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Good Sex Should Not Have to Last All Night Long

May 8, 2012 By Leave a Comment

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(Phatforums News / The Frisky) — The other day, I stumbled across an article on discussing the “other male problem.” It was referring to premature ejaculation (men who can’t hold on longer than a minute). And while premature ejaculation (PE) is its own nightmare, the idea that women want long, pounding, all night is simply just outdated and wrong.

Women talk. And most of what I hear from my friends and myself is that 10- of actual is plenty. Sure, we want foreplay and romance and after, but a man who can last 10 minutes is usually .

And yet if you talk to men, you get something else entirely.

They joke: “I am going to give her the best 10 minutes of her life,” they might say. But behind that bravado is actual shame and feelings of inadequacy as if 10 minutes is somehow way too short.

And while obviously there are — after all, what honeymooner or early couple doesn’t love the occasional all-night sex session? — generally speaking, 10 minutes is plenty.

We get sore! We get bored! For many women, 10 minutes is enough to hit their , so anything after that just feels a little like overkill and may result in (and soreness). If you can get her to orgasm, you have done your job, good sir. You can stop now.

I know I don’t speak for all women, and sure, there are likely women who like to be banged all night long. Good on them. Talk with your partner. If she is like that, then carry on. But many, many women are happy and satisfied with a 10- bookended by a little foreplay and a little cuddling.

“Lasting” is lovely, but give me 10 skilled minutes most days and I am a happy and satisfied woman. I have things to do!

Besides, usually even “all night sex” had some periods of rest. Think over one time that lasts 3 hours. Our vaginas need some rest, dudes. Chafing is a very real problem.

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Beware the 6 Types of Lousy Lovers

October 28, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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( News / The Stir) — I decided a long time ago that I would never, ever stop . Ever. Of course, that all changed when I met my first lousy lover. Which was followed by my second, third, and, well, you get the idea.

I get it, not everyone is born knowing all the tricks, or there wouldn’t be a market for ’s recycled . Through my own experiences, I’ve been able to compile a list of my top six types of lousy lovers.

1. The Leg Humper. In high school, I remember dry-humping being the of awesomeness. Nights on the couch “watching a movie” ruled. However, once actual penetration was achieved, dry-humping went by the . For . Dry-humping is NOT better than actual sex. Ever.

2. The Minute-Man. Okay, so don’t get all up in arms at me about this one. It happens. It’s flattering … until it’s not. If every time we get naked, it takes me more time to remove my bra than to complete sex, something’s got to give.

3. The Jack Rabbit. I’ve (unfortunately) seen have sex. The look on the female rabbit’s face is always a mixture of shame and , like, “How did I GET myself into this situation?” Which neatly sums up what it’s like to have sex with a Jack Rabbit.

4. The Pushy Lover. It really DOES suck when you’re all ready to get down and dirty and your partner decides that they’re not in the mood. Been there. However, begging, pleading, and downright groveling for sex is not only not hot, it’s embarrassing. For both of us.

5. The Lazy Boy. Now, I don’t always need hours of to get in the mood, but if you just want to be in and out every single time, well, you can be in and out somewhere else.

6. The Selfish One. There’s nothing I like post-sexin’ than to roll over and take a nap. However, if I haven’t actually climaxed and you roll over and go to sleep without a word? It’s time to roll right on over and out of my bed.

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Top 10 Ways To Spot A Man Who’s Good In Bed

October 7, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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( News / MFP) — Girls, before you even make the effort (read: bother to shave , get a Brazilian, wear nice matching underwear and do an infinite amount of !) to bed a man, wouldn’t it be great if there were a way to tell whether or not he’d be any good in bed?

There’s nothing worse than expecting the best but ending up disappointed in the sack because lover-boy ends up being a premature ejaculator, Mr selfish asshole or just plain clueless!

So the next time a man catches your eye… look for these ten signs to figure out if he’ll be any good in bed.

1. He’s Erect.

Got your attention didn’t I? I mean . Bad indicates laziness. If he stands straight, it means he will make the effort.

2. He’s Clean

If you get a chance to see his home, check that there are no dishes in the sink and no piling up. If he’s sloppy, I would take it as a bad sign.

3. He walks Fast.

The man’s got places to go. He has a and purpose in life. He’s confident so, he’ll be willing to try new positions and places. He has goals to reach in life, and in bed (yay!). Bad part about this is that it is also the mark of an impatient man (which I find a turn off), and possibly someone who skips .

4. His hands do as much talking as his mouth.

I find men who use confident, sweeping hand gestures while talking… end up favourable in the bedroom. Think– creative & fun.

5. He’s Balding

If he’s losing his hair early in life, this guy’s is through the roof. That means he has a high sex drive. But whether he looks good bald, is an entirely different story, of course.

6. The Way He Speaks

Some men have I-am-good-in-bed voices. The tone is low, sexy and confident. You hear him and there’s no way he’s going to be bad in bed!

7. He commands several tongues.

If he’s tri-lingual… (speaks more than 2 languages) it means he’s intelligent (woot!), and works hard for rewards. Plus are just sooo sexy.

8. Sniff him.

I’m not talking after-shave or sweat here. But if you get a sense of comfort from nestling close to him because the way he smells kinda calms you… then the more genetically complementary the two of you may be.

9. He Looks You In The Eye

This usually means that he is confident and genuine and these traits make a good lover between the sheets.

10. He does not Boast.

I feel that a man who knows he’s good in bed doesn’t have to brag and advertise it. Men who are bad in bed have a tendency to brag and over compensate for past failures.

How can you tell if a guy is good in bed? Please do share!

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Do You Want To Have Better Sex??

September 2, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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( News / R&L) - Learn how to let him know exactly what you want without bruising his or dampening his :

TIP #1
Employ behavior-modification techniques
If he’s doing it wrong and won’t respond to unspoken directives, take a tip from dog trainers, who know all about reinforcing good behavior and punishing bad. Respond positively only when he does something that feels good and give consistent signals (pull away, reposition yourself, go silent) whenever he tries a move you don’t enjoy.

TIP #2
Teach by example
Show him how you like to masturbate by placing his hand over yours so he can feel and see what you’re doing. Alternatively, while he’s manually stimulating you, put your hand atop his hand and guide him. “Guys love this,” says Dr Gabrielle Morrissey, author of Urge. “When he learns a technique by feeling, as opposed to being told, he’s more likely to remember it.”

TIP #3
Take tips from the sexperts
Find an erotic video with you find horny and watch it with him. When someone on screen does something you’d like him to try, say: “I bet that’d feel amazing.” It’s also an idea to leave containing smart lying around (with key bits circled!).

TIP #4
Give him some instruction
Ask him to help you act out a fantasy that has a teacher/pupil or mistress/slave component. As the dominant party, you can tell him to do all the things you want but he rarely gives you – and make him repeat them till he gets it right. Once he sees how aroused you become, he may well decide to incorporate these new techniques into his standard bedroom repertoire.

TIP #5
Teach him about
Set a mood using sexy music, soft lighting, aromatherapy oils, sensuous fabrics and the like. Offer him a massage as it will help you both to feel more sensual (and he might reciprocate). Once he realises that simply altering the environment can put you in the mood for sex, he’ll be motivated to create similar surroundings next time he wants to get you into bed.

TIP #6
Talk dirty… and pile on the praise
“I’m a fan of and research suggests that most men are too,” says Dr Morrissey. “Men love specific feedback, but blunt criticism hurts their feelings and they may never do X or Y again.”
Instead, she advises, “Be sexy but be specific – that way, you’re more likely to get what you want.” You can be romantically explicit or just plain filthy, whatever you’re more comfortable with, “but do say ‘desiring’ things,” reminds Dr Morrissey, “because men love having their sexual egos stroked.”
For example, “You look so sexy when you’re going down on me” will yield better results than a muted moan; and “I love it when you lick me slowly” is better than “slower”.

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