June 19, 2013

UFC / MMA: Gustafsson not cleared to compete at UFC on FUEL TV 9

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Mauricio “Shogun” Rua, left, Alexander Gustafsson during their light at on Fox on Dec. 8.(Photo: , AP)

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The event is set to take place Saturday in Stockholm, Sweden
It is unsure if Gastafsson will be replaced or if the card will be shuffled

(PhatzRadio / MMA) — The Swedish MMA Federation announced Tuesday that Alexander Gustafsson has not been cleared to fight at Saturday’s on FUEL event because of a facial cut.

He’ll no longer headline the FUEL TV-televised event, where he was scheduled to fight fellow light heavyweight and promotional Gegard Mousasi (33-3-2 MMA, 0-0 UFC).

The cut, which Gustafsson (15-1 MMA, 7-1 UFC) suffered near his during a recent , was deemed too substantial, and the SMMAF, which is Sweden’s local , won’t clear him to fight. An initial examination took place on Saturday, and Tuesday’s exam sealed the deal.

“The SMMAF has today reviewed the circumstances regarding Gustafsson and his injury,” a statement read. “The SMMAF recognizes that a cannot be medically cleared earlier than the day before the match.

“However, bearing in mind that a correct medical examination that met the regulatory demands has been performed, nothing in the SMMAF regulations hinders the SMMAF from making a decision to stop Gustafsson from competing. As it is clear that Alexander Gustafsson will not be fit to compete as planned and cannot be medically cleared on Friday the 5th of April, the SMMAF has today decided that Alexander Gustafsson will not be allowed to participate in the planned match.”

UFC officials haven’t made a . It’s unknown if Mousasi will get a late-replacement opponent or if the card will be shuffled, though an update is expected shortly.

Gustafsson was scheduled to headline a UFC card in his home country for the in a year. Saturday’s event takes place at Ericsson Globe Arena in Stockholm.

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Afghanistan: The transition ratchets up the complexity of Karzai

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Karzai prepares for presidential elections and 2014 withdrawal of U.S. troops
Attack comes a day after a deadline given by for U.S. special operations forces to withdraw
scrapped joint Hagel-Karzai

(PhatzNewsRoom / AP/ Security) is not in an enviable position.

The man who has led the country for nearly 10 years is a difficult politician to deal with for the most part.

Beyond his seemingly outrageous comments toward the United States, he has also been called corrupt and often impossible to predict.

In his latest eyebrow-raiser following a in that killed at least nine people, Karzai said on Sunday there are “ongoing daily talks between Taliban, American and foreigners in Europe and in the .”

The comment effectively claimed the United States was trying to foment continued violence inside Afghanistan.

The top commander of U.S. and allied forces, Gen. Joseph Dunford, quickly denounced the remark.

“We have fought too hard over the past 12 years. We have shed too much blood over the past 12 years. We have done too much to help the Afghan grow over the last 12 years to ever think that violence or instability would be to our advantage,” he said.

It cannot be denied Karzai has timing. He made the comment as the new U.S. , Chuck Hagel, made his first visit to Afghanistan.

Hagel met with Karzai and assured him the United States was not engaged in a deal with the Taliban to continue violence inside Afghanistan.

In fact, Hagel seemed to understand why Karzai made the statement.

“I know these are difficult issues for President Karzai and the Afghan people,” Hagel said after a meeting with him.

“I was once a politician, so I can understand the kind of pressures that especially leaders of countries are always under. I would hope, again, that we can move forward and I have confidence that we can and will deal with these issues,” Hagel said.

He may not have been far off base.

“A lot of times, he has to say these things because he is playing to his domestic base, especially the Pashtuns in the East and the South who are his constituency and who are concerned that he is only acting at the request of the international community,” says Javid Ahmad, program coordinator at the Washington-based policy analysis group German Marshall Fund.

“He (Karzai) has to give that internal audience the message that he’s still president and still in charge, especially now that he has to ensure his legacy,” Ahmad said.

But amid the continued drumbeat against the United States and NATO allies, Karzai’s comments continue to chip away at allied support.

“It is unfortunate that President Karzai chose to make remarks that are so unfounded,” says Kimberly Kagan, who leads the Institute for the Study of War in Washington.

“It is possible for American’s to overreact to those comments, which President Karzai aims at an international audience, at our senior leaders as well as a huge domestic audience, when he is engaged in negotiation with us over really important issues,” Kagan said.

The Karzai government is in the middle of discussions to gain full access to the main detention facility at Bagram Air Base as well as a bi-lateral agreement on keeping a security agreement with Afghanistan after the 2014 withdrawal of U.S. forces.

In another recent decree, Karzai prevented Afghan troops from calling in NATO air support under “any circumstances” which reflects his bigger problem, according to Mark Jacobson, a former NATO adviser in Afghanistan.

“Karzai, rather than seeking a “mature” discussion of the issues, acted reflexively and issued a decree barring Afghan forces from asking “for the foreigners” planes for carrying out operations on our homes and villages,” Jacobson wrote in an opinion piece for CNN.com.

“His unfair and irresponsible characterization that “foreigners” are the threat to the Afghan population, and that it is “foreigners” who wage war on Afghan homes, threatens to weaken the coalition that has helped build Afghanistan’s capacity to secure its future,” according to Jacobson.

And to muddy the waters a bit more, it is not entirely clear where Karzai’s comments come from.

“He has opted to act this way, to take the NATO allies to task, because he believes western officials and Americans don’t take him seriously and they fail to listen to him during private meetings,” Ahmad said.

But Ahmad says the Karzai aides that he has spoken with say the Afghan leader will often say publicly exactly what his advisers tell him without thinking it through.

“Strategic communication is very important. But when he surrounds himself with such an unholy alliance of people, it’s really hard to gauge where his comments are really coming from,” Ahmad said.

Regardless of what Karzai thinks and says, the United States cannot ignore him.

“It is vital to continue having a relationship with Afghanistan precisely because it is vital to ensure there is no return of al Qaeda, there is a stable government and that the region of Afghanistan and Pakistan and Central Asia does not become a bout of civil war or instability,” says Kagan.

“The relationship between the U.S. and Afghanistan is essential, but we have to recognize the uncertainty,” Kagan said.

WASHINGTON — The harsh reception Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel received this weekend in Afghanistan on his first trip abroad owes as much to key transitions the country faces than any new rift in its relations with the United States, analysts say.

As the Pentagon prepares to remove half of its remaining 66,000 troops over the next year — and virtually all of them by the end of 2014 — Afghan President Hamid Karzai faces national elections next year to choose his successor. Those factors helped prompt Karzai to make critical remarks, says James Dobbins, a former special U.S. envoy to Afghanistan and director of Rand’s International Security and Defense Policy Center.

Karzai blamed bombings — one within earshot of Hagel — in Kabul that killed 17 people over the weekend on the U.S. military and the Taliban who he said were conspiring to convince Afghans that foreign troops will be needed in Afghanistan beyond 2014. The top commander there, Marine Gen Joseph Dunford, and officials flatly denied that. U.S. officials scrapped a news conference with Hagel and Karzai over security concerns, which the Afghan government said were unfounded.

Karzai has recently called for U.S. special operations forces to be expelled from Wardak province, a restive area near Kabul. Two U.S. troops were killed there Monday by a gunman wearing the uniform of an Afghan police officer.

Expect more tantrums, Dobbins says.

“These outbursts will probably become somewhat more frequent,” Dobbins says. “They’re more likely to continue because of the converging transitions.”

They also work — to a degree, according to Dobbins. They often occur after Karzai has raised concerns to U.S. officials in private but feels they aren’t adequately addressed. The outbursts can focus attention on an issue — night raids, for instance, that are resented by many Afghans. Karzai appears to his domestic audience as a champion of Afghan sovereignty.

The downside is that pushing too hard and causing a more rapid U.S. withdrawal could force ill-trained Afghan security forces to contend with an insurgency they can’t handle.

Seth Jones, another Rand analyst who has advised U.S. special operators in Afghanistan, says Karzai’s bouts of pique may stem from concerns that U.S. diplomats may be seeking to negotiate separately with the Taliban. In 2010, Karzai said he might join the Taliban because he bristled at pressure to change his government.

“There appears to be a growing angst within the presidential palace that Afghanistan is vulnerable to foreign governments and groups, such as the Taliban, U.S. and Pakistan,” Jones said in an e-mail. “President Karzai will periodically lash out at these groups and occasionally lump them together – such as condemning both Pakistan and the Taliban together. Now he has lumped the Taliban and U.S. together.”

David Barno, a retired Army lieutenant general and former top commander in Afghanistan and a senior fellow at the Center for a New American Security, said Karzai’s brash comments erode trust among the U.S.-led military coalition and support for the war among Americans in general.

Hagel said he was once a politician and understands the pressure Karzai is under.

Monday’s attack also killed two Afghan policemen, and the shooter was killed.

So-called insider attacks have plunged this year compared with last. There have been three attacks this year, killing four troops. Last year, 47 attacks killed 62 people. The military credits better vetting of Afghan recruits and greater vigilance about the threat with helping reduce the number of attacks.

The military, Barno said, has done a “phenomenal job” in reducing the threat.

Outside Kabul, U.S. troops fired on a truck approaching their military convoy, killing two Afghan men inside it.

The incident in the eastern Wardak province and others like it have threatened to undermine the U.S.-Afghan alliance when the forces need to work increasingly close together in order to hand over responsibility as planned next year.

The attack came a day after the expiration of the Afghan president’s deadline for U.S. special operations forces to withdraw from the province after accusations of abuse by those under their command.

In Monday’s attack, an Afghan police officer stood up in the back of a police pickup, grabbed hold of a machine gun and started firing at the U.S. special operations forces and Afghan policemen in the police compound in Jalrez district, said Deputy Police Chief Abdul Razaq Koraishi.

The assailant killed two Afghan policemen and wounded four, including the district police chief, before he was gunned down, Koraishi said.

The U.S. military said in a statement that two American servicemembers were killed in the shooting.

Five Afghan police officers were being held for questioning by the Americans, Koraishi said.

In the convoy shooting, U.S. forces spokesman Jamie Graybeal said the Afghan driver failed to heed instructions to stop as his truck came close to the American convoy near Kabul.

“The convoy took appropriate measures to protect themselves and engaged the vehicle, killing two individuals and injuring one,” Graybeal said in an e-mail. He said an assessment is underway.

Associated Press video shows a U.S. major cursing one of his soldiers and slapping him over the head with his cap as Afghans pulled dead bodies from the truck. In the video, the major appears to be upbraiding the soldier for not using a laser to warn the approaching truck.

The two dead men were employees of a company that repairs police vehicles, said Interior Ministry spokesman Sediq Sediqi. Another man was wounded in the shooting, said Col. Mohammad Alim, the police commander overseeing Kabul highways.

Contributing: Associated Press

8 Amazingly Sexy Things About Women You’ll Be Surprised That Men Notice

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(Phatforums News / The Stir) — Women go through a lot for guys. I don’t just mean squeezing something the size of a out of a garden-hose-sized hole. It’s tough to beat that.

No, I’m talking about just the daily primping. The makeup, the , the hair, the Spanx. (Yes, ladies, we do know about Spanx.)

Now I know guys are an incredibly visual species. , the letters “T” and “A” would probably top most guys’ “Sexiest Things About Women” list. And as a guy, I can’t really argue with those. But there are plenty of other attractive attributes women have going for them.

With that in mind, here are 8 truly sexy things about women you might be surprised that we notice.

1. Eyes – Forget the mascara, the heavy , the longer lashes, or the plucking. I’m talking purely about eyes in all their natural beauty here. One powerful and confident look from a woman can make any guy weak in the knees.

2. Freckles – Lots of women want to hide these, and I don’t know why. Freckles are seriously just adorable. Heck, they’re kind of like natural tattoos, right?

3. Bare shoulders – Even back in high school, we guys would go nuts if we caught just a of a girl’s shoulder. Some things never change. There’s just something super sexy about that part of a woman.

4. Confidence – This one’s a . The more confident a woman is in herself and her body, the more of a turn-on it is for guys. So stop being so self-conscious about how you look and just be comfortable being you.

5. Lips – It drove Fifty ’s Christian wild every time Anastasia bit her lip. While I don’t totally get that one, lips can definitely be sexy. They have to be… they’re the tools used for kissing after all!

6. – Women? Funny? Yes, yes they are. Women already like a guy who can make them laugh, so why shouldn’t the same thing be true for us? Look at Tina Fey or Sarah Silverman. Both are hilarious, which just adds a whole other layer to their , and in turn, their sex appeal.

7. Curves – Call me crazy, but curves on a women are definitely hot. What’s the point of hips if you’re so skinny you don’t even have any?

8. Smile – Lips can certainly be a turn-on, but so can a smile. From a tiny corner-of-the-lip curl to a full-on, display of teeth, a smile can be much more powerful than most women realize.

The Number One Secret of Happy Couples

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(Phatforums News / ) — It’s not that they never row – They just do it very well. Learn how to change bad communication habits for good.

You Talk, He Doesn’t Listen

The Pattern:
With this loop, communication gets nowhere. says, “ can get into really bad trouble when thay get in the of looking ahead. He thinks, ‘I know what she’ll say,’ so when she does say it she hits a brick wall. It gets to the point where all you have to do is raise an and he shuts down.”

How It Happens:
Women are much more vocal than men and they need to talk to air their . Denise Knowles says: “A lot of men imagine that when their partner says something is wrong, she’s asking him to fix it. More often than not, what women want is to be listened to, to unload the feeling.”

Unpick The Loop:
Ask him for five minutes of his and say, “ I just want you to listen to me and not interrupt or try to sort it out.” You’ll probably find after three or you’ve had your say and he can go back to the paper.

Attack And Defense

The Pattern:
“If someone says, ‘You never do so and so,’ that’s taken as criticism and the other person attacks back,” says Denise Knowles. “They’ll say, ‘Well, you don’t do this.’ They’re attacking as a form of defense. Until one or the other realizes they have nothing to defend, the pattern goes round in .

How It Happens:
People prone to this pattern, says Knowles, are those “who were told from the word go that they were no good at anything.” Deep down they believe they’re no good, but they don’t like it, so they lash out. Get two people like this together and there will be a war.

Unpick The Loop:
If it’s you doing the criticizing, Susan Quilliam suggests: “Experiment for a week just noticing how many times you nag him or criticize. The following week, bite your before you start. It can take many months to reverse years of non-communication, but any kind of change means the old pattern can’t happen any more.” If it’s you doing the defending, try not to do that either. A powerful trick is to agree: “You’re right, I did forget to post your letter.” There’s not much you can say to that.

You Complain, He Listens, Nothing Gets Done

The Pattern:
One partner appears to listen and take notice of what the other says, but it never translates into action, which is just as frustrating as not being listened to at all.

How It Happens:
Either you’re challenging your partner on something he can’t change or he’s not taking you seriously.

Unpick The Loop:
Quilliam says: “Look at what you want done and take responsibility for getting it done another way. Maybe by paying someone outside to do it. When he says, ‘But I said I’d do it,’ look him straight in the eye and say, ‘You obviously weren’t going to, so I got it fixed myself.’ No blame, no hassle. When he sees the outcome of his not doing it – that it gets done at the expense of his bank balance, things may begin to change. Not necessarily the first time, but eventually.

The Same Old Argument

The Pattern:
You have the same old argument on an annual, monthly, weekly or daily basis. Susan, 32, met her husband Roland, 33, at university 12 years ago. Today, Roland runs a large multinational company and Susan is a freelance journalist. Apart from the fact that they hardly have time for a chat, their work lives throw up a difficult issue that surfaces again and again. “He puts me and the children last,” says Susan, “and that upsets me. We have the same argument over and over again, but nothing changes. I don’t really understand how we got here. Life just seemed to take over.”

How It Happens:
As Denise Knowles points out: “Nothing ever gets resolved, that’s what keeps you in the pattern. You find yourselves picking up where you left off last time, perhaps with stronger tones and harsher words.”

Unpick The Loop:
Do something – anything – different. Refuse to have the same old debate. Offer an off-the-wall solution, crack a joke, book a session with a counselor or hold your breath, count to 10 and say nothing. Experiment with any of these things and see what happens.

You Don’t Talk, He Doesn’t Talk Either

The Pattern:
There’s something eating away at you, but you never say so. It’s too private, too hurtful. You fear the world might end if you mention it.

How It Happens:
This self-destructive pattern comes about because you think you can’t air the thing you’re angry about – often because you’re afraid you’ll hurt the other person. So you repress it and you both get hurt. A common area for this is sex. Sarah, 31, a PA, loves Michael, 35, a store manager – they have lots in common and make each other laugh. There’s just one flaw. “He’s a lousy lover, but I can’t possibly tell him,” she says. So she says nothing and puts up with a less-than perfect time between the sheets. And just occasionally, finds herself ranting about the washing-up instead.

Unpick The Loop:
You need to take responsibility for your own communication. The trick lies in expressing your feelings, rather than going on the attack. So, “I would love it if we could spend more time on foreplay when making love,” is a million times better than, “I’m sick to death of you just not waiting until I’m ready.”

What Your Friends Could Tell You About Your Relationship

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(Phatforums News / RL) — … if only you’d just hear them out. Sometimes your close are in a better position to predict the longevity of your latest love-affair than you.

I once had a friend who told me, in no , that I had . Eventually, I managed to forgive her. This same friend also told me that she didn’t like my boyfriend. I’m still working on forgiving her for that one.
Get the difference? My friend was actually right on both counts. She gave me some killer to help me deal with the first social problem. But as to the second – a stinking – well, there’s nothing worse than knowing that your friends have your mistakes all sussed out long before you do. And here’s where it gets interesting. Much as it might make you squirm, your friends really do know what’s best.

Last year, a couple of Canadian psychologists did a study on predicting the future of romantic relationships. They asked three groups of people to participate: the people in the relationship; their and their flatmates. The were then asked to guess how long the couples would last. The flatmates predictions won hands down, edging out the and trouncing the couples (most of whom foresaw love everlasting; more than half broke up a year later).

Is love, in other words, blind? Well, put it this way: if love had 20/20 vision, the human race would have died out about 9,000 years ago. All the would have been sitting around saying, “I will not mate with Nuttnutt. She has an agenda and that single turns me off.” There is evolutionary, survival-of-the-species stuff at work here.

But back to the present. You’ve been telling your all about this amazing guy you met. And, naturally, you’re in a state of . Pals have a lot of power in your life – and if they don’t, they should. Your friends aren’t going to play commitment games or suddenly develop a bizarre need for “space”. They’re not likely to buy you lingerie, then hint that you look fat in it. A guy did this to me once and I was too embarrassed to admit it to the friend who’d said, “Steph, I don’t think this guy even likes you.” That’s the trouble with friends. They’re the reality check from hell that you definitely (a) need and (b) don’t want.
At the end of the day, it’s your life. Your friends don’t get into bed with your boyfriend (they’d better not). And you’re not asking them to fall in love with him. Maybe the best you can hope for is that they’ll learn to tolerate him. That’s okay. The point is, your pals are a valuable resource at a time in your life when – by definition – your powers of reason are a bit fogged up. Here’s how to use that resource wisely…

NEVER TELL YOUR FRIENDS: “I JUST MET SOMEONE. I THINK I’M IN LOVE”
Your friends will translate this to mean: “My brain just turned to jelly. I’m about to become an utterly useless conversationalist for at least two months.”
You know that hesitation in your friend’s voice when you utter such a prematurely optimistic phrase as the one above. She wants to believe you’re telling her the truth. There’s even a vague statistical possibility that you are. But, just in case you’re not, your friend wants you to hear that slight hesitation. “Wake up!” is what she’s saying to you. “Unless you have several thousand dollars saved up to pay for the intensive therapy you’ll need when this is over, proceed with caution.”

PAY ATTENTION WHEN YOU INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS
As you’re driving to the restaurant with your boyfriend, you say, “Please don’t tell that joke about the nun, the possum and the camping stove.” And when he’s in the men’s room, you whisper to your friend, “Try to play down the not-eating-dead-animals thing.” In other words, if you’re playing the peacemaker and a war hasn’t broken out yet, what subconscious voice is telling you it’s going to? Might this guy remind your friend of the last politically insensitive clod you picked out? Are you afraid you’ll have to give up your friend in exchange for romance and passion, not to mention someone who looks damned good standing in line with you at the movies? What I’m saying is, pay attention to your own behavior.

LISTEN UP IF YOUR FRIENDS SAY YOU ACT DIFFERENTLY AROUND HIM
Before you get all defensive, what you need to ascertain is : “In what way?”
They’re probably basing their observations on a pattern of behavior, as opposed to one isolated incident. It’s likely that you have quite a bit invested in the relationship at this point. And it could well be that you are acting differently – in good ways. Maybe he’s made you a more considerate, patient person who’s nicer to be around. “Differently” doesn’t necessarily mean worse.

MEANWHILE, CONSIDER THE SOURCE
Is the friend who’s evaluating your relationship happy in her own right? Does she have enough in her life not to be mean-spirited when you find love? Are you getting her honest, heartfelt opinion, or is envy talking?
We need to consider this sad, but very real, possibility. Even good friends aren’t above petty jealousy at certain times in their lives. The best friends to ask for advice on relationships are your happy friends. Their agendas are always clean, fresh and lemon scented. There’s always the chance that, for no particular reason, they won’t like your boyfriend. But, usually, if they’re harboring some kind of negative “gut feeling” about him, it’s coming from a legitimate place and needs to be heard.

USE THEIR OBSERVATIONS FOR A CONSTRUCTIVE PURPOSE
This has to be done the right way. I’m not suggesting you try to score points by saying, “Melanie agrees that you’re always trying to be the centre of attention when we go out.” This self-serving, second-hand stuff is rarely ever taken seriously, nor should it be. Use your friends observations to sharpen and focus your own – not as cannon-fodder. Sometimes, they can come through in areas where you’re temporarily powerless. I once had a boyfriend who showed up two hours late for a birthday dinner my friends were throwing me. For some unknown reason, he didn’t think this would be a problem. My pointing out that this was a problem failed to even register with him. But when the girlfriend who had hosted the party refused to speak to him for a month because she was so outraged, he sure as heck got the message. The best thing was, I didn’t have to say a word.

NOTICE WHO THEY COMPARE HIM TO
I used to go out with an extremely unpleasant guy whose name was (get this) Buddy. Why did I do this? He was hot, okay? Anyway, when my friends met Buddy, their unanimous reaction was: “This man will cause you great heartache.” And that’s what came to pass, in a ridiculously short time.

About six months later, I was dating another guy, in a completely different emotional context – or so it seemed. Then my friend Ruth, said, “I think he’s a Buddy.” I pretended not to understand what she meant. “You find him really friendly?” I queried, desperately. “No,” she said. “He’s a Buddy.”

Ruth was right on target. But here’s the thing: Ruth is 69 years old. She’s not a blood relative. She has no emotional stake in my life of any kind, other than that she cares about me. But Ruth calls ‘em as she sees’ em. And she’s seen most of ‘em: she was born in 1929. It’s a good idea to have girlfriends of all ages. They give you a good perspective on life.

IF YOUR FRIENDS DO TURN OUT TO BE RIGHT AND THE RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T PAN OUT, DON’T PUNISH THEM FOR IT
You’re probably thinking, “Why would I do a thing like that?” Well, maybe you wouldn’t. But, if you did, you wouldn’t be the first. Making a major blunder in love isn’t only emotionally devastating, it’s humiliating. If you chose to ignore your friend’s negative feedback and stood your ground when the situation started to deteriorate, you may now feel like a fool. Almost no friend ever comes out and says, “I told you so.” Yet, in your hyper-sensitive state, you can just feel those words floating in the air.

The loser ex-boyfriend isn’t around for you to hate on a day-to-day basis; your friends usually are. Suddenly, all the stardust from your fractured fairytale has blown away and your left standing in the broad, unshadowed daylight of your old life. Starring: your same old friends.

Brief flashback. Do you remember the scene at the very end of The Wizard of Oz when Dorothy says: “Some of it was beautiful and a lot of it was horrible. But you were there! And you! And you!” This is the scene in which Dorothy not only wakes up, but grows up. She sees the weathered, goofy faces of her friends and she realises that she’s looking at the most precious thing in her life. That’s memorable stuff.

Oh, and one more thing. This guy you just met may be great for you. He may actually be the one. You may even have to ask your best friend to put on a bridesmaid’s dress. And she’ll smile at the wedding and hug you in this monstrosity, but won’t tell you what she really thinks of the colour. This time, you don’t want to know.

New Study Uncovers Men’s Surprising Sexual Position Preference

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(Phatforums News / The Stir) — Do you want to know what men prefer? You do, don’t you. That’s maybe why Esquire posed the question to their readers and published the results last week. The outcome wasn’t too surprising, but there was one little tidbit of data that caught my eye. It wasn’t that 14 percent of married men have had at least one sexual encounter with another man, though that was an raiser, it was that 28 percent of the who actually took the time to fill out the survey said that their favorite posish is missionary style. Well well well.

Would you look at that. To be honest, I’m not surprised surprised, but listen. How many times have you seen headlines on the covers of magazines say something like, “How to Spice Up Your Sex Life!” or “Ways to Make Your Man Go Crazy!” or “This Will Save Your Marriage!” You’ve probably even seen a headline or two like that on this very site. But according to the Esquire study, all 28 percent of us have to do is lay back and relax.

That said, 30 percent of men prefer their lady friend on top, facing them (as opposed to not facing them, just to be clear). Another 26 percent like doing it doggie style, and the others around doing it while in the position, or standing up, or the .

The takeaway here, ladies, is we don’t need the LATEST HOTTEST NEWEST AWESOMEST MOST-IMPROVED COOLEST sex position out there to keep things exciting in the . There are only three positions that guys are apparently really into, despite what , , or any other publication has to say. Three.

Kind of refreshing, no?

Men’s grooming habits that turn women off

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(Phatforums News/ TT) - Ladies, tell me you agree. There is a horrific beauty double standard going on that we have to do something about. Now that it’s summer, we’ve all been upping our beauty game— more shaving and , keeping toenails in check— so the terrible grooming habits of our guys have become all the more glaring. Why is -turning (or in certain cases, too much attention) the norm? We’re not asking guys to do anything we don’t do ourselves. If you’re feeling extremely grossed out by what you’re seeing thanks to flip-flops and , take comfort in this: You are not alone.

We asked our (affectionately known as “Threaders”) to share the grooming issues that irk them the most, and the answers were awfully familiar. One Threader asked if we could please paste the comments “on a huge billboard that all men can see.” Well, here’s our billboard equivalent! See the top ten offenses below and add more by posting on our Facebook wall.

1. Long, dirty toe nails. Or, as one Threader called it, “Hobbit feet.” I love that. It’s true. Guys, you don’t have to sit for a , but there’s no for claws filled with dirt.

2. Hair where it shouldn’t be. Nose hair was the number-one complaint with ear hair a close second. “Why is it so hard to buy a trimmer and a mirror?” asked a completely reasonable Threader. We don’t have the answer.

3. Mouth . This is just basics. We’re brushing, flossing, and whitening, but certain guys seem to think they can get away with “yuck mouth,” as a Threader called it. Not true.

4. Unattractive smells. This can mean not showering often enough or not embracing deodorant. This is also related to #3 (see above).

5. issues. Either overgrown or over plucked. We don’t want unruly, caveman hairs, but we also don’t want you to look more sculpted than we do.

6. Too much . If everything you touch starts to smell like your medicine cabinet, that’s not good.

7. Too much waxing. There’s grooming and then there’s grooming. No one wants to feel like they’re with a newborn.

8. Dry, cracked heels. You can put lotion on them, you know.

9. Hair that never moves. If your hair is as hard as a car door, you’ve got to rethink your products.

10. Letting your blackheads live on. Everyone has zits, especially in the hot and sweaty summer. But, jeez, if you have blackheads on your face, deal with them or book a facial where someone else will.