May 19, 2013

Assad’s forces accused of massacre near Syrian capital

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(Reuters) – activists accused al-Assad’s army of massacring hundreds of people in a town close to the capital that recaptured from rebels.

About 320 bodies, including women and children, were found in houses and in the town of Daraya, southwest of Damascus, according to activists who said on Sunday most had been killed “execution-style” by troops.

Activists uploaded several videos to the Internet showing rows of bloodied bodies wrapped in sheets. Most of the dead appeared to be young men of fighting age, but at least one video showed several children who appeared to have been shot in the head. The body of one toddler was soaked in blood.

Due to restrictions on non-state media in Syria, it was impossible to verify the accounts independently.

are raging across Syria as the 17-month-old rebellion grows increasingly bloody, particularly in the northern city of Aleppo, where the army and rebels appear stuck in a war of attrition.

Fighting in Aleppo on Sunday was the heaviest in the past week, according to on the ground.

dropped bombs and fired missiles on rebel-held districts in the south of Aleppo, Syria’s largest city, as residents fled in panic. Reuters journalists there heard heavy explosions as clouds of black smoke rose a mile into the air.

Rebels say they control at least half the city of 2.5 million, but their hold is fragile as long as Assad’s forces can unleash their air power against fighters who are comparatively lightly armed.

The uprising, which began as peaceful protests, has become a brutal civil war. United Nations investigators have accused both sides of but laid more blame on government troops and pro-government militia than on the rebels.

The in Daraya, a working class Sunni Muslim town that sustained three days of bombardment before being overrun by the army on Friday, raised the daily to 440 people on Saturday, one of the highest since the uprising began, an activist network called the Local Coordination Committees said.

The official state news agency said: “Our heroic armed forces cleansed Daraya from remnants of armed terrorist groups who committed crimes against the sons of the town.”

The death toll for the following day, Sunday, was more than 90, including civilians and fighters, according to another activist network, the Syrian Observatory for Human Rights.

It said at least eight people were killed and dozens wounded on Sunday night when security forces shelled the southern town of Basra al-Sham in Deraa province, with the death toll likely to rise as many of the wounds were severe.

In Damascus, government helicopters hovered near the main Abbaside Square on Sunday and fired rockets and machineguns at eastern residential neighborhoods where rebels continued guerrilla attacks against loyalists, residents said.

Haitham, an activist in Damascus, said troops were also firing machineguns from roadblocks that encircle the suburbs.

“Ninety percent of the time they fire randomly at bystanders and homes. Rarely they hit rebels,” he said.

“REGIONAL PLOT”

Assad, who met an Iranian parliamentary delegation in the capital on Sunday, said the crisis was the result of Western and regional states trying to crush Syria’s role in the “resistance” against Western and Israeli domination in the region.

“What is happening right now is not just a plot directed against Syria but the region as a whole, of which Syria is a foundational stone,” he was cited as saying by state news agency SANA.

The United Nations estimates that more than 18,000 people have been killed in the conflict that pits a mainly Sunni Muslim opposition against a ruling system dominated by the Assad family – members of the Alawite faith, an offshoot of Shi’ite Islam.

Diplomatic efforts to stop the violence in Syria are stalled by a stalemate between Western countries, Gulf Arab states and Turkey – who all support the opposition – and Iran, Russia and China – who support Assad.

With veto-wielding Russia leading resistance to action against Assad, the U.N. Security Council remains deadlocked.

Egypt is seeking to arrange a four-way meeting with Turkey, Saudi Arabia and Iran, the main regional players in the conflict. Iran, a Shi’ite power, is Assad’s main backer, while Saudi Arabia is believed to be supplying weapons to the rebels.

Iran accuses its foes in the West and the Arab world of fuelling the conflict by arming the opposition. Deputy Foreign Minister Hossein Amir-Abdollahian welcomed Egypt’s initiative.

“Iran has its own views about the political process in Syria and will put forth these views upon the formation of this committee,” he said. “We see any foreign intervention, terrorist actions and armed movements against the wishes of the people of Syria.”

The Iranian parliamentary delegation that met with Assad also visited Vice-President Farouq al-Sharaa. It was Sharaa’s first public appearance in weeks, quashing activist rumors that he had defected to the opposition.

(Additional reporting by Marwan Makdesi in Damascus, Yeganeh Torbati in Dubai and Tamim Elyan in Cairo; Writing by Erika Solomon; Editing by Peter Graff and Andrew Heavens)

Why every couple needs a man cave

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(Phatforums News / Match.com) — When your man says he wants to turn the basement into a “man cave,” you might greet this news enthusiastically, thinking: Great, I can finally banish that poster he insisted on hanging up in the kitchen! Conversely, you might have reservations. Is him asking for a space of his own a polite way of saying that he’s going a little crazy from all the time you spend together?

To find out how a man cave could affect your relationship, we spoke with a few couples whose and were made over into of masculinity, courtesy of the DIY Network show, Man . We discovered that the men weren’t the only ones benefitting from having their own dedicated

Man cave benefit #1: Recharging from time spent alone
Andy Chen, 41, and Kathy Chen, 39, of Bridgewater, NJ, have been married and are a definite case of opposites attracting. “I’m a bit of an extreme , and Andy’s on the other side,” says Kathy. “He’s the first to leave the party, and I’m the last to leave.”

Early in their marriage, they figured out that the relationship operated far more smoothly when Andy was able to spend a little time by himself each day. Doing so is now much easier thanks to Andy’s man cave in the couple’s former basement, which is filled with memorabilia representing one of Andy’s favorite places: the .

“Coming home in the past was kind of crazy with our two kids and pulling for my attention,” Andy says. “I don’t need a lot of time there, but I need the isolation and time to recharge by myself.” Though Andy visits his man cave daily after work, Kathy doesn’t feel that this has led to him disengaging from family life or any of its responsibilities. In fact, it’s had the opposite effect. “Because Andy has more to himself, he actually helps out more. He never used to do the dishes, and he has now started to do them,” she explains.

Man cave benefit #2: Getting work done more efficiently
Spending some of their leisure time alone isn’t as important to newlyweds Ryan and Kiara Bolger, both 29, of Spring Lake Heights, NJ. However, after the DIY crew turned their garage into Ryan’s extreme sports-themed man cave, Kiara found that the new space increased their overall productivity. “I’m a teacher, and a lot of times I’ll come home and need to take over the kitchen area with school work. But our house is small, and it’s easy to get distracted: the TV is right there, Ryan and I start talking to each other, and things just take longer than they need to,” explains Kiara. “Now that we have the man cave, I can be in here getting some stuff done and Ryan can be out there working out on the rock-climbing wall. It allows us to be more efficient with our time.”

Man cave benefit #3: Spending quality time with the family
Antonio Manata, 36, and Isabel Manata, 33, of Clark, NJ, have been married eight years and wanted more room; specifically, they desired a place for family activities. Antonio’s soccer-themed man cave located in their basement certainly fit the bill. “Before, we would usually hang out in the kitchen and watch TV. Now that we have the man cave, we can spend more quality time playing with our son,” says Isabel. “We have a mini-soccer field, so we play soccer and also do everything from playing Wii to watching TV and movies,” adds Antonio. “My wife, my son and I can all be in the basement at the same time doing different things or doing them all together.”

Of course, not all men would think of their caves as the place to spend time with a significant other. That’s OK, too, according to Avi Roseman, author of Secrets of Shiksa Appeal: Eight Steps to Attract Your Shul-Mate. “When a couple starts dating, time apart was built in, and time apart is very healthy in small doses,” Roseman explains. “When you live together, you need to ensure that there is time apart so that he has the opportunity to miss you and long for you.”

Additionally, a man spending too much time in his cave likely won’t be an issue in healthy relationships. “If he does not want to come out of his cave, you probably have some bigger issues,” says Roseman. “That’s the equivalent of saying, ‘We’re dating, but he never makes an effort to see me.’”

Indeed, the women we spoke with said that adding man caves into their homes had affected their relationships positively — and in some cases, inspired them to also seek out a space of their own. Kathy Chen has taken over a spare bedroom for reading and scrapbooking. Isabel Manata would like to see women not only receive a cave of their own, but a corresponding TV program as well.

“Maybe it could focus on converting closets or adding a nice tub to the bathroom for the woman cave,” she says. “I definitely think DIY should have some sort of equivalent show for women.”

Maggie Flynn is a Los Angeles-based freelance writer. She has written for websites such as Salon, The Huffington Post, and many local print publications.

Online Dating Is No Longer Just for Weirdos

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(Phatforums News / The Stir) — Online dating was once something that people did in private. But recently when someone told me she met her boyfriend “in line at the ” and I later met him and discovered A.) he wasn’t a “” kind of guy and B.) they actually met on Match.com, I was surprised. Isn’t online dating kind of the now?

After all this time, I would think online dating would have long since surpassed the it once had of weirdos in who pretended to be 6’2″ lawyers when they are actually 5’1″ and have no jobs at all. I have seen enough marriages come of online dating and now even celebrities (like Carrie Ann Inaba) are doing it like it’s the norm.

So why are people still hiding it? And then I realized: Of the many married couples I know, almost none of us met online.

I met my husband in elementary school (though we reconnected online); my met her husband at work. Other friends met their spouses at college and so on and so on. For as normal as online dating appears to be, I guess I don’t know that many .

Or maybe people are lying. Maybe more people are meeting online than are admitting it. So what’s up with the stigma? It’s 2011, people! Almost everyone I know has gone on at least one online date.

Still, even with its incredible ubiquity, most of the people I know ended up meeting their in real life somehow. Online you can fake . But real only happens in person. That static that happens when two people have chemistry just can’t be reproduced online.

Online dating is like the modern day equivalent of searching for the frog prince. There are a lot of and far fewer princes. But still, they are out there, probably searching for you, too! Online dating can be your best friend if you let it. You may not meet your soul mate, but with our crazy and modern lives full of chaos, it’s awfully nice to have an easy way to make sure you have plans for Saturday night.