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Dating Don’ts: 4 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex

February 7, 2013 By Leave a Comment

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(PhatzNewsRoom / The Frisky) — Soooo, “Girls” is back. Which means lots of watching them make bad decisions so that we don’t have to. Hooray for vicarious learning! As I watched the season two premiere, I had a bunch of thoughts: How come I never get invited to house parties anymore? Am I old? I should do more . How are these characters managing to make sooo many mistakes with their in the of ? Oops! I”ve done many of these myself. Geez, they make it look so fun and quirky!

In real life, we are well aware that messy ex situations are not fun and quirky. Oh no. They are comp-li-cated and emotionally fraught. After the jump, let’s review all the mistakes that Hannah and the gang made so that we can avoid making them in the future. Spoilers ahead, obviously.

1. Live together. Let’s start with Hannah and her new roommie — gay ex-boyfriend, . Cut to them spooning in bed together. “Sorry, I have a . It’s not for you,” Elijah says. Hilarious! But not so much.

Why is this living situation a ? He’s not attracted to women, you may say. They are and feel comfortable around each other. Eh, why not? Here’s why not: Hypothetically, let’s say that Elijah were to become confused about his after a night of drinking and karaoke and found himself with a boner meant for Hannah’s best friend, Marnie. And hypothetically, if that boner found it’s way into Marnie’s , and then got confused again in mid-pump, would that be awkward for Hannah to find out about? Would that be distressing information for Elijah to keep a secret from his roomie/ex? Would that make Marnie too weirded out to ever come over to Hannah’s apartment again? I say YES to all of the above, but we’ll have to keep watching to find out. Even with the gayest, most platonic of exes, the for unseen minefields are endless.

2. Not tell them they’re an ex. Oh Hannah. She wasn’t doing Adam any favors by not telling him that she had already broken up with him IN HER MIND. Before you start fucking that hottie Donald Glover, I mean Sandy (never mind that he’s a Republican), you need to tell your invalid boyfriend that you are not together any more. Otherwise, that’s kind of considered cheating. Changing his bedpan and feeding him soup and scratching his balls underneath his body cast is not going to make it any easier to end the relationship.I get that Hannah blames herself for Adam’s injury, but guilt is not an appropriate reason to stay in a relationship. Luckily, by the end of the episode, Hannah grew a pair and told him. Although, I don’t get the feeling he’s going to take it well. I think we may meet Pyscho Adam in the next couple of episodes. I’m scared!

3. Go to parties where you know they’ll be. You might be telling yourself that you want to show off how good you look, how happy you are, how much you don’t need him/her anymore. If you have to tell yourself anything to justify attending a social event where an ex will be, you’re so fucked. Prepare for emotional blitzkrieg. Unless you are truly over that relationship, it’s best to stay away.

Just think, he might be at that party with his new girlfriend, and you’ll have to see him waiting for her while she pees. Why was Charlie waiting for his new chick while she peed? I can write a whole other Dating Don’ts about that. New rule: DON’T EVER WAIT FOR A GIRL OUTSIDE THE BATHROOM UNLESS HER LIFE IS IN DANGER OR SHE ASKS YOU TO.

I’ve gotten sidetracked. Back on topic. Other things that can go wrong when you attend the same party as your ex: You might make out with him accidentally in the coat room. Shoshanna. Or feel so vulnerable that you have sex with a gay man/your best friend’s ex. Marnie. Am I missing anything? That party was a shit show. Moral of story: going to social engagements where you know your ex will be. BAD.

4. Show up at their place and ask to sleep in their bed. You may be at the lowest point in your life. You may have lost your job. Lost your boyfriend. Lost your best friend. Lost your appetite. You might have just had the worst sex of your life with your best friend’s gay ex-boyfriend. You may be drunk. You may be depressed. You may be desperate. But you must not show up on your ex’s doorstep and ask to sleep in his bed. Why? Because he will have to say yes. Or he will have to say no. And either way, in the morning you’ll wish you had gone home and cried in your pillow and watched reality TV instead, because you’ve just further obsfucated your chances of ever getting back together. If you even wanted that chance. Wait and make that decision when you’re not vulnerable and/or wasted. It also helps if he’s single. I’m talking to you, Marnie. Time for therapy.

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8 Reasons Halloween Hookups Are Different

October 15, 2012 By Leave a Comment

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(Phatforums News / The Frisky) — Halloween is an interesting night for with its own peculiar array of . One Hallow’s Eve back in my 20s, I remember having this realization as I made out with a guy at a party. He was dressed as Frankenstein. I’ve never gotten green greasepaint all over myself while making out before … I wonder if it will make me break out? The thought distracted me while we sucked face. This is an example of a uniquely Halloween issue. The makeup did not make me break out for the record. And he got back together with his ex-girlfriend the following week, so that’s that. But these types of things good things to know. After the jump, some more ways hooking up on Halloween is different.

1. You don’t know how he normally dresses, so you can’t be as judgey about his shoes as you normally would be. For example, this may be the only night of they year when Tevas are acceptable if, say, he’s dressed as a hiker or a Band fan.

2. You’re already half-naked, so getting undressed is not a big deal. Actually, it’s a relief to peel off that itchy, smelly. whatever it is you’re wearing. You’ve probably never gotten undressed so quickly in your life.

3. You ate so much candy, that you can blame any bad decisions on sugar . Or maybe you spent a lot of time by the punch bowl. You can blame it on the spirits. Whatever the reason, blaming your embarrassing hookup on Halloween is easy and totally acceptable.

4. You have no idea what he’s going to look like in the morning and vice versa. Surprise! He’s cute when he’s not caked in blood!

5. No needed to dress your sluttiest. Usually I know a guy for longer before I’ll dress up like a pirate wench, but hey, it’s his .

6. You don’t know if his with your baby costume was just a one-night thing or a serious fetish. Hopefully not a fetish.

7. It’s totally normal to wear during sex. It’s not like a thing you need to discuss beforehand and make sure he’s comfortable with it and you have a safe word.

8. The “walk of shame” is waaaayy more obvious. When it’s November 1st and you’re catching the train home in a wrinkled cheerleader costume, everyone has your number. I say, own it.

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NFL: Patriots wary about New York pass rush

February 1, 2012 By

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() – The know from experience that protecting quarterback from the marauding pass rush is absolutely central to the outcome of Sunday’s Super Bowl.

Four years ago, Brady was sacked five times as the Patriots lost to the Giants in the ’s and he says that was a lesson learnt.

“They have a very good pass rush. I’ve seen it game after game this year,” Brady told reporters on Wednesday.

“They can get to the quarterback, they can hit the quarterback, force the quarterback into and some bad throws.

“We’re going to try to eliminate those. We really can’t afford many of those on Sunday. We had too many of those last time we played them and we’re not going to be able to win the game making mistakes”.

While Brady was better protected in this year’s regular season clash between the two rivals, the one time he was sacked led to a fumble and a Giants on the next play.

“The better job you do protecting him, the better chance you have to win. Hopefully he doesn’t need much laundry work on his jersey,” said Patriots guard .

Overall, Brady has been pretty well protected this season by his offensive line and was sacked just once in the two .

But the Giants offer something few teams can match, with Jason Pierre-Paul, , Justin Tuck making up the core of a rotating system that has proven very effective at getting to the quarterback, sometimes featuring four specialist pass rushers.

The man charged with masterminding the protection of Brady, Dante Scarnecchia, the Patriots , told Reuters that New York have a multi-dimensional approach.

“If they can get you off your spot and get an edge and run by you, they will do that, if they can’t they’ll go into power rush moves, but they are always working, always trying to get to the and they do a great job,” he said.

“The players that they have are exceptional and I think that is the number one thing. They use a lot of bodies, use people in multiple places, they are playing really, really well and a really high level. They know it and everyone in the league knows it.”

Head coach Bill Belichick says the team have tried in practice to simulate how the Giants pass rush operates but concedes it is a tough process.

“Their ends are a combination of power, speed and athleticism. We try to move our guys around a little bit and get them to play like the Giants play. I don’t know if anyone can play like the Giants play.”

(Editing by Julian Linden)

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RBS report urges tougher rules on bank M&A, execs

December 12, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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() – Bank takeovers should face deeper scrutiny and directors be more accountable for their actions, Britain’s finance watchdog said in a long- into Royal ’s (.L) near collapse.

The Financial Services Authority (FSA) said in a 452-page report on Monday that RBS managers, like former chief executive Fred Goodwin, were most at fault in the bank’s brush with bankruptcy, which was only averted by a 45 billion pound ($70 billion) government in 2008.

The regulator, which is due to be broken up next year with much of its remit returning to the , was also critical of its own actions and of Gordon Brown for encouraging a “light touch” regulatory regime.

The report, like earlier investigations, said there was no prospect of successful legal action against former RBS executives as there was no evidence of , although they had made a series of .

But it said they could still be disqualified from being directors in future, pending a decision by the government, and suggested the law could be changed.

“The question I have raised for the future is whether the balance of the law is right,” FSA Chairman told , arguing that new rules could ensure directors face personal financial consequences if a bank failed.

“The point about banks is banks are different. When things go wrong in banks you can screw up the whole economy rather than just shareholders’ interests. We haven’t recognized that enough in the past.”

Peter Wright, a litigation partner at London-based law firm Fox Williams, said it was hard to reconcile the lack of punishment with the scale of RBS’s failings.

He warned, however, of the dangers of singling out directors of banks for extra liabilities.

“This could simply mean that individuals with the highest risk tolerance, rather than the most skilled, would be prepared to accept the most systemically important roles that affect us all.”

TOUGHER TAKEOVER RULES

The FSA said banks should face closer scrutiny of their takeover plans, identifying RBS’s highly-leveraged 16-billion-euro purchase of parts of Dutch bank ABN AMRO in 2007, just before a financial markets meltdown, as its biggest mistake.

“The decision to make a bid of this scale on the basis of limited due diligence entailed a degree of risk-taking that can reasonably be criticized as a gamble,” it said, adding the information made available to RBS by ABN AMRO in April 2007 amounted to “two lever arch folders and a CD.”

In future banks should need formal consent from the regulator for a takeover and obtain independent advice from an adviser whose pay is not linked to a successful deal, it said.

The British government welcomed the report, saying it showed its reforms of the banking sector were right, while RBS’s new management said it had learned the lessons of past and was building a new bank.

RBS, which came within hours of running out of cash in October 2008, is 83 percent owned by the government following the bailout. The taxpayer is currently sitting on a 25 billion pound loss at today’s share price.

“MULTIPLE POOR DECISIONS”

The FSA said flaws in its own supervision “provided insufficient challenge” to RBS, but also argued it was under pressure from the government to take a hands-off approach.

There was “a sustained political emphasis on the need for the FSA to be ‘light touch’ in its approach and mindful of London’s competitive position,” the report said.

On several occasions in 2005 and 2006 prime minister Brown said he didn’t want “unnecessarily restrictive and intrusive regulation” to impair London’s competitiveness, it said.

Originally a small Scottish bank, RBS rose to become one of the world’s biggest thanks to a string of takeovers and aggressive expansion. It was brought to its knees by a decade-long acquisition spree led by Goodwin and his strategy of running the bank with levels of capital that proved too low.

“The multiple poor decisions that RBS made suggest … that there are likely to have been underlying deficiencies in RBS management, governance and culture which made it prone to make poor decisions,” the report said.

Goodwin has been slammed for a management style that discouraged dissent among senior staff — his daily morning meetings became known as the “Morning Beating” — but former board directors told the FSA they did not feel bullied by Goodwin, the report said.

The FSA also investigated a court injunction obtained by Goodwin to prevent publication of details of his private life, and concluded “it is irrelevant to the story of RBS’s failure.”

($1 = 0.6402 British pounds)

(Writing by Mark Potter; Reporting by Steve Slater and Sudip Kar-Gupta; Editing by Sophie Walker)

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The Top 6 College Hook-Up Blunders

September 20, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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(Phatforums News / College Candy) — If you’re a single college girl, chances are you have had a “what was I thinking” hook-up. Thanks to liquor, hormones, and the of myself and my friends, I’ve been witness to more than a few. Here’s a list of the most common…and awkward. My sincerest apologies if I resurface any unpleasant memories.

1. The Floormate/Neighbor

Floorcest, as it has been deemed, is the college equivalent of sleeping with a . Not only is it hard to avoid the dude, but you probably have , floormates, and neighbors just waiting to call you both out. In rare cases it does work out (two of my neighbors have been dating for months!) but 99% of the time, that one night results in a whole semester or two of awkward.

2. The

Of course the traditional clinger is female (think Isla Fisher in Wedding Crashers), but occasionally a guy will surprise you with too much unwanted post contact. Sure a few texts here and there can be entertaining, but an immediate friend request followed by incessant messaging is borderline creepy. Somehow this guy didn’t get the memo about the morning after digit exchange just being a courtesy. [Editor note: and by "digit exchange," we think she means phone number...not round 2.]

3. The Friend

This one is a definite oops. A lot of girls, including myself, have a close platonic . Mutual friends joke you two will end up together (and, hey, maybe you will) but are a rare find so why compromise the friendship. Well, your buds Captain Morgan and Jack Daniels believe you should carpe diem and convince you otherwise. Needless to say, your friendship became a whole lot of complicated.

4. The Player

You know it’s a before it happens, but curiosity is a dangerous thing. His GTL regimen and aspiring rap career make him less than boyfriend material (and a bit of a joke), but you have to admit he’s a hottie. What’s the harm in having a little fun? Well for starters, the dude’s a walking health risk (statistically speaking, he’s got to have something). Diseases aside, you’ve given the douche an ego boost and given your friends a free pass to mock you for eternity.

5. The Could’ve Been Boyfriend

A good rule of thumb for college hook-ups, is: go for it if it’s safe and consensual, but don’t expect to find your future boyfriend (recall The Clinger). Many guys are still of the philosophy that THEY can sleep around, but if a girl does, she’s a slut you could never bring home to mom. So you’ve been flirting with Mr. Perfect for a while now, and one night, the stars align and so does his P and your V. The bad news is, you’re probably stuck in that hook-up girl category. There are obviously exceptions to this but it’s usually safe to say you’ve lost your shot.

6. The Novelty

Finally, there’s that guy that makes you go, “Eh, what the hell.” He has some feature that makes him unique (i.e has a sexy accent, plays on the football team etc.) and you rationalize you’ll never get that chance again. I’m all for embracing your , but if you sleep with every guy with a sexy attribute; you might get yourself some less-than-complimentary nicknames.

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