William Kofron is a professional Photographer in Doylestown, Pennsylvania, known as WK Photography. He specializes in shooting models for portfolio development, and his photographs have been on various websites and published in many magazines, including Maxim and MMA Sports. For more information and photos please check out Model Mayhem and WK-Photo. The images shown here are from a shoot with a brand new model from West Chester, Pennsylvania, 22 year old Kendra Davis.

anal play
Hi Dr. Chaves,

My wife asked to play with my butt with a strap-on dildo. I’m weirded out by this. Is she trying to see if I am gay or something?

Gary R., Chevy Chase, MD

Gary,

I doubt she’s trying to prove you’re gay, but maybe she’s expressing some deeper sexual fantasies of domination or kink. Strap-on play, or pegging, within heterosexual couples is a fast-growing sexual behavior. It doesn’t mean you’re gay, it means you’re open-minded. It’s a misconception to associate ass play with homosexuality. Not all gay men practice anal sex and many gay men practice oral sex. Does this mean you’re gay when your wife performs oral sex on you? Not at all, because she’s a woman. Being gay (sexual attraction to the same sex) is a self-defined orientation and in your example, strap-on play is a sexual behavior between a heterosexual couple.
g-spot love

Hey Doctor Chaves,
What are some of the best ways to stimulate the G-spot?

-Jacob K., Wichita, KS

Jacob,

The G-spot is approximately one to two inches inside the upper wall of the vagina (if she is lying on her back), and it swells when stimulated during arousal. The best way to stimulate the G-spot, or Skene’s gland, is to insert your index and/or middle finger into the vagina with your palm facing up. Using a come-hither motion, apply pressure to the upper wall of the vagina. You’ll feel a slightly rough patch about the size of a nickel. A curved sex toy in her vagina also works effectively. Placing a pillow beneath her pelvis during male superior (missionary) can tilt her pelvis upward, creating a better angle for penis/G-spot stimulation. Having a female lean down and forward during rear entry (doggy style) can make the G-spot more accessible. Remember, most women don’t reach orgasm from G-spot play but from clitoral stimulation, so don’t stray too far from what’s most effective.
circumcision decision
Hey Doctor Chaves,

I’m 26 years old, uncircumcised, and thinking about getting it cut off. Is there any reason to keep the skin? Should I do it?

-Brett E., Bend, OR

Brett,

Whether it’s religious/cultural reasons or looking like the other dongs in the locker room, it’s really up to you. Some women prefer cut, others prefer uncut. I’ve found that girls fall for the man, not the foreskin status. Approximately 85% of the world is intact (uncircumcised) with America on its way to having the majority of males with foreskin. The major reason to keep your foreskin is pleasure. A recent study found intact men to be four times more sensitive because the foreskin is loaded with super sensitive Meissner’s corpuscles nerves. The five most sensitive points on an intact penis are on the ridged band of the foreskin and the most sensitive part of a circumcised penis is on the circumcision scar. Prior research suggested circumcision cured epilepsy, paralysis, insanity, masturbation, penile cancer, and STIs — all of which were dismissed. Current research claims circumcision helps prevent HIV transmission, but I’m skeptical as the results in many studies have varied and the urethra (pee hole) is still there acting like an open door inviting infection. To cut or not to cut, why mess with a good thing?

Doctor Chaves has more answers to your sex questions after the jump..

loose woman
Dr. Chaves,

I just hooked up with an older woman that I really have a connection with. I’m not a small-penis guy. I’m not huge either, but I’m average. The problem is really her. She has a very loose vagina. I understand that her being 37 and single, she’s been around. But I couldn’t even nut the first time we had sex. That’s never happened to me. I’m young and strong. I just need some suggestions as to what I can do to help this problem for mine and her sake. What can I do?

-Devonte R., Decatur, GA

Devonte,

First thing to do is make sure you have a relationship in which you can talk openly about touchy subjects and communicate your message without making her feel uncomfortable or broken. She’s not broken, as this could be the result of anything from childbirth to neglecting the muscles in her pelvis. There are a few things she can do to remedy this. Encourage her to do Kegel exercises, which strengthen pelvic floor muscles and can tighten the vaginal canal. There are also Kegel toys specifically made to aid a female “working out” her pubbococcygeous muscles. A fun exercise I encourage is to have her practice Kegels while your erect penis is inside her. Not only is the squeeze arousing for you, it’s helping tighten the vaginal canal. In the meantime, some quick fixes are having sex in positions where her legs are closed together and using specific gels/lubes that help the vaginal walls swell. Both suggestions help create a tighter feeling.
intro to anal
Dear Dr. Chaves,

Me and my girlfriend are planning on trying anal sex. We’ve never done it before, but I’ve wanted to for as long as I can remember. Any tips to help make it better and more fun?

-Juan Carlos G., Roswell, NM

Juan,

Welcome to the world of sex outside the box! Anal sex can be a wonderfully erotic experience for those who choose to venture into the slightly taboo. Research shows that almost 40% of couples try anal sex and about 10% do it consistently. Some women can even reach orgasm from anal penetration. If cleanliness is a factor, she can use a water enema beforehand and you can use latex gloves and condoms. Anxiety reduction and preparing the anus/rectum is essential as the anus constricts with nervousness. I’d suggest having her lying in a comfortable position (on her stomach with a pillow under her pelvis), giving her a buttocks massage, and stimulating her external anus until she feels calm and comfortable. Start off with gradual entry that’s slow and not forceful. Gently enter her with one finger, then two fingers, then a small dildo or butt plug. Remember to use lots of lube as the rectum doesn’t produce lubrication. Eventually, she’ll feel mentally and physically comfortable to try a penis. This could take time, so don’t expect porn-like anal sex the first time out. Some great instructional books are Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Jack Morin’s Anal Pleasure and Health. Remember, open communication is important, so check in often with each other about things like more lube, pain and comfort.

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