(Phatforums News / Match.com) — When you’re in a new relationship with someone you like, it’s easy to assume that things will get red-hot without much effort. But what if the only fireworks in your and your new flame’s future are the ones you plan to watch this Fourth of July? When everything else in a relationship is right but the attraction is more ho-hum than hot, there are things you can try before calling it quits. While chemistry is important, feeling love (or lust) at first sight isn’t a realistic gauge of a relationship’s success, says Julie Ferman, founder of Cupid’s Coach, a personal introduction service in Southern California. “It takes time to develop a history and a sense of comfort together,” she says. “Don’t expect the roof to blow off the restaurant on the first date.” So try kicking things up a notch with these tips:
1. Ditch the dinner
Unless you and your new honey are passionate foodies, forget the standard dinner date — where more heat may be generated by your bisque than your banter. Even a cozy dinner at an intimate bistro isn’t the best way to spice things up, Ferman says. The reason? “Dinner with a [near] stranger can feel staged and awkward.”
