I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a month and a half and I know I love him. I am thinking about telling him ‘I love you’ on Valentine’s Day. Is it too soon to say it?
~ Sakel
When the three little words “I love you” are put together they make one very big sentence. This sentence is especially big for a man to hear. It is the second scariest sentence in the world for a man to hear trailing just behind “I’m pregnant.” So how do people know when it is the perfect time to drop the “I love you” bomb on their partner? They don’t. Saying “I love you” for the first time is a risk, but people say it because the rewards outweigh the risks. People often only think about the rewards though forget about the risk though. People need to remember the possibility that the person hearing “I love you” may not feel the same way.
When a person is told “I love you” for the first time, they will likely react in one of four ways:
* They will be happy to hear the words and will say it back with just as much love.
* They will say it back because they are still unsure how they feel, but they know they don’t want to lose their partner.
* They will not say it back and will most likely start to distance them self.
* They will say it back to enjoy the sexual benefits of the relationship one more time before they bail.
Before saying the words “I love you,” a person needs to ask them self these questions:
Am I in love or infatuated?
A person should make sure it is love they are feeling and not infatuation. Nine times out of ten it is infatuation and not love that is present during the beginning stages of a relationship. Both love and infatuation have the ability to create euphoric feelings in a person so it is very easy to confuse the two. A person should think about what the partner does or doesn’t do that makes them feel like they are in love.
How will my partner react?
A person needs to think about how their partner might react to the words. Is it likely they are feeling the same way? Will they be overwhelmed? Are they sure that saying the words will make the relationship and not break it?
What level is my relationship at?
Does the partner think you two are just dating? Is it a committed relationship?
Am I prepared for my partner’s reaction?
It is possible the partner may not react in the way expected. A person should hope for the best, but always prepare them self for the worst.
Love is a beautiful thing that is meant to be shared and embraced. It cannot be forced and is made at the will of each person. It has the power to create happiness, but it also has the power to make misery. Express your love through words with discretion, but never hold yourself back from experiencing true love.
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