During masturbation I orgasm within a few minutes, but I rarely do during vaginal sex. What can I do?

~ Justin

You know how Goldilocks goes about finding a chair to rest on in the legendary fairytale Goldilocks and the Three Bears? First, she sits on a chair that is “too hard.” Next, she sits on a chair that is too soft. Finally, she finds a chair that is just right. That’s how women work when it comes to sex. If a woman is with a guy who she can’t satisfy during intercourse, she is going to start to thinking his inability to orgasm is because of her. This will most likely make her want to move on. On the contrary, if a woman is with a man who orgasms too quickly and is unable to satisfy her, it is likely she will decide to move on. She wants and needs to find someone that is “just right” for her in bed.

If you want to be the man who is “just right” for her in bed, you need to face the facts of your sexual dysfunction. The difficulty or inability for a man to orgasm during sex is a real disorder that is fairly common. It is called male orgasmic disorder or anorgasmia. It’s the third most common sexual problem for men following premature ejaculation and the inability to get an erection.When men enjoy occasional prolonged sex it can be an ego booster, but for men with anorgasmia it creates negative feelings such as frustration, anger and embarrassment.

One in ten men suffer from anorgasmia, but only one in a hundred seek help for their problem. Most men are embarrassed to talk about and seek help with problems related to sex.Men shouldn’t be embarrassed to seek help when it comes to any type of sexual dysfunction because there are medications, psychological treatments and physical treatments readily available. There is a huge variety of things that can cause anorgasmia in men like medications, stress, anxiety and alcohol. I would suggest contacting a healthcare professional that can help cure your anorgasmia, not only for you, but also so you can be “just right” for your partner.

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I have been dating this girl for a couple months and everything is going great except she can’t cum from sex or from oral? What do I do?

~ Anonymous

Well, that really sucks. By “cum” do you mean she doesn’t get wet or do you mean she can’t reach an orgasm? If by “cum” you mean she can’t get wet, well that’s an easy fix. Vaginal dryness is actually very common, why do you think K-Y is a multi-million dollar company? There are several reasons behind vaginal dryness, such as dehydration and stress. It is also a side effect of several medications. Even when her menstrual cycle is on that day, it could cause dryness. The easiest way to fix vaginal dryness is to go your local pharmacy and pick up some lube. I recommend the K-Y Touch, it gives the perfect little tingle. Another option is to take it slow in bed and spend more time on oral sex. Find out what she likes and what arouses her the most. Every girl has a secret button (I don’t mean the “G” spot either), push it.

If by “cum” you mean she can’t reach an orgasm, well you simply don’t know what you are doing. Just kidding! There are three main reasons as to why a woman can’t climax while with a partner; physical, hormonal and/or psychological issues. Physical ailments, such as a headache, are enough to keep a woman from having an orgasm. Hormones play a huge role in a woman’s ability to orgasm because they are all over the board due to a woman’s menstrual cycle. Finally, the most common reason for the inability to orgasm is psychological. Women are fucking cuckoo so the smallest thing can prevent her from feeling comfortable enough to orgasm with you. Women are run by their emotions and if something other than you is on her mind, well it ain’t gonna happen. I know you’d rather run your fingers across a chalkboard, but sit down and talk to her and find out what’s on her mind. Women like to talk. Maybe it is something small that you can fix for her or maybe it’s a whole other issue that makes you realize she’s fucking nuts and you need to get out of the relationship pronto.

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