May 22, 2013

America in Afghanistan until 2024 ?

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(Phatforums News / ) - The Daily Telegraph reports that the status of forces agreement that the United States and Afghanistan are negotiating may allow a U.S. in the country until 2024 . That’s a full 10 years beyond the deadline for withdrawal of U.S. combat troops and handing over to Afghan forces.

The negotiations are being conducted under a veil of security, and we have no way of knowing, at this point at least, if the two sides are really talking about U.S. troops in the country for that long. ( The very fact that a decade after U.S. troops entered the country there is no formal agreement spelling out the terms of their deployment is in itself remarkable)

But it does seem more likely than not that there there will be a U.S. military presence, however small, in Afghanistan beyond 2014, and that is going to force the players involved in the conflict and those watching from the with more than a ’s interest to rethink their calculations.

Indeed, the talk of an extended force deployment may be an attempt to reverse the perception that America was in full retreat following President ’s announcement of a drawdown that many in the military believe has only hardened the resolve of the and their in Pakistan to wait out the departure.

Now with troops, including a sizeable element of , backed by the United States’ aggressive and unparalleled air power, to be based in the turbulent south and east of the country beyond 2014, the players have to shuffle their cards again. For those elements in the Taliban who may have explored the idea of , the plan for a long-term U.S.military involvement in the country has just made their task even more difficult.

For Pakistan, the country most affected by what happens in Afghanistan, the idea that the United States is not going to walk away, sharpens its dilemma and once again goes to the heart of its role as a conflicted partner in the war against Islamist militancy. On the face of it, a U.S. military presence next door means continued pressure on Pakistan to act against the militant groups that operate from its soil. It means the drones will continue to fly in its skies and fire missiles at will.

It also means it has to be on guard against ground incursions by these foreign forces – after all, if the United States can violate Pakistan sovereignty in the skies with impunity and for years on end, what stops it from crossing the so-called red line of a ground raid. So it has to worry privately about an indefinite U.S. military presence on its western borders.

But at the same time, Pakistan has cried itself hoarse about the United States turning away from Afghanistan following the Soviet withdrawal of 1989, which led to the civil war, the jihadi gun culture into which Pakistan itself got sucked in and the influx of tens of thousands of refugees. That’s at least the Pakistan narrative and if they were to be held to that belief, then a U.S. withdrawal will again leave them holding the baby.

For arch-rival India, obviously it will have to be the opposite of the Pakistani position. New Delhi, which was taken off-guard by the U.S. military drawndown announcement and its blessing of efforts for a political settlement with the Taliban, will be quietly relieved that America is not about to abandon Afghanistan. India sees Afghanistan directly impinging on its security, concerned that a Taliban comeback and greater influence of Paksitan’s military spy service will increase the threat from militant groups fighting Indian forces in Kashmir and also carrying out attacks in its cities.

Given that its own options are limited by geography and a hostile Pakistan in the middle – it can’t really send troops there – it has come to rely on NATO. Indeed the uncharitable view about India in Afghanistan is that it wants to fight there to the last American soldier. See here an excellent piece by Shashank Joshi from the Royal United Services Institute laying out India’s strategic priorities in Afghanistan.

Iran on the other hand will be worried about U.S.. troops operating nextdoor for the long term. Indeed some will argue that part of the reason of staying there could well be to keep a watch on Iran, like in the case of Pakistan. Russia and especially China, which is taking a closer interest in Afghanistan’s resources and and its location at the crossroads of south and central Asia, are also wary about U.S ambitions in the region.

A year I wrote about the witches brew in Afghanistan – how each of the countries involved was trying to ensure a role in a post-war Afghanistan. They will now have to adjust their strategies to a longer U.S. involvement, even though the scale will be vastly reduced.

Libya’s interim leaders reject UN military personnel

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(Phatforums News / BBC News) – Libya’s has rejected the idea of deploying any kind of , the UN envoy to the country has said.

Ian Martin said the UN had considered the deployment of .

Earlier, the chairman of the (NTC) said the country did not need outside help to maintain security.

The news came as fighters loyal to the council approached the pro-Gaddafi stronghold of from east and west.

The city’s defenders have been given until Saturday to surrender.

However, fugitive ex-leader ’s spokesman, Ibrahim, rejected the ultimatum, the Associated Press reports.

“No dignified honorable nation would accept an ultimatum from ,” he said in a telephone call to the AP on Monday night.

Mr Ibrahim reiterated Col Gaddafi’s offer to send his son to negotiate with rebels and form a transitional government, the agency said.

‘Special case’

Libya’s deputy representative to the UN, Ibrahim Dabbashi, told the BBC that the situation in Libya was unique.

“They [the UN] put the possibility of deploying peacekeepers on the ground but in fact the Libyan crisis is a special case.

“It is not a civil war, it is not a conflict between two parties, it is the people who are defending themselves against the dictatorship.”

However, Mr Martin said the UN did expect to be asked to help establish a police force.

“We don’t now expect military observers to be requested,” he said after a meeting of the .

“It’s very clear that the Libyans want to avoid any kind of military deployment of the UN or others,” he said.

Mr Martin added that one of the greatest challenges for the UN would be helping the country prepare for .

“Let’s remember… there’s essentially no living memory of elections, there’s no electoral machinery, there’s no electoral commission, no history of political parties, no independent civil society, independent media are only beginning to emerge in the east in recent times.

“That’s going to be quite a challenge, sort of organizationally, and it’s clear that the NTC wish the UN to play a major role in that process.”

UN Secretary General Ban Ki-moon has said that growing humanitarian shortages in Libya demand urgent action and appealed to the security council to be “responsive” to requests from the transitional authority for funding.

Though stockpiles of medical supplies and food stashed away by the government were found over the weekend, water supplies are short.

“An estimated 60% of Tripoli’s population is without water and sanitation,” he said. The EU’s humanitarian office says that pro-Gaddafi forces are responsible for cutting supplies.

The BBC’s Ben Brown in Tripoli says people have gathered in Martyrs’ Square to mark Eid al-Fitr

Ultimatum

On Tuesday, the UN Security Council let Britain release 1.86bn dinars ($1.55bn; £950m) in frozen assets to buy aid for Libya but an attempt by France and Germany to release an additional $8.6bn remains blocked.

Diplomats said that Russia was holding up Germany’s request to release about 1bn euros ($1.4bn) in seized assets and France’s move to unfreeze about five billion euros ($7.2bn) to buy humanitarian aid, AFP news agency reports.

As anti-Gaddafi fighters converge on his birthplace of Sirte, interim leaders gave the city’s defenders an ultimatum, telling them that they had until Saturday to surrender or face military force.

It has also emerged that Col Gaddafi’s wife and three of his adult children fled to neighboring Algeria in the early hours of Monday morning.

Col Gaddafi’s whereabouts remain unknown, with suggestions he may be in Sabha, Sirte or Bani Walid. However, the deputy head of the NTC, Ali Tarhouni, said they had a good idea of where he was and were confident that they would catch him.

WikiLeaks says website was target of cyber attack

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() – said its website had been the of a late on Tuesday as it proceeded with the release of thousands of previously unpublished U.S. diplomatic cables, some still classified.

“WikiLeaks.org is presently under attack,” said a message on WikiLeaks’ Twitter page, which is believed to be controlled by Julian Assange, the controversial Australian-born founder and chief of the whistle-blowing organization.

WikiLeaks later described the problem as “a cyber attack.” In a subsequent message on its Twitter feed, it said the website was back up though some users were having problems accessing it.

The U.S. cables which the website said it is dumping onto the public record appear to be from a cache of more than 250,000 State Department reports leaked to the group. WikiLeaks began releasing the cables in smaller late last year, but until now had made them public in piecemeal fashion.

Several news organizations around the world, including Reuters, have had complete sets of the cables for months. But for the most part, have only cited or published cables when publishing specific news or investigative stories based on them.

A person in contact with Assange’s told Reuters recently that dismay among WikiLeaks activists over lost interest in publishing stories based on the material was the rationale for the mass release of documents.

The source described Assange and his associates as “frustrated” at the lack of .

Last year WikiLeaks and Assange were celebrated after their release of State Department cables, tens of thousands of other secret U.S. files, and a classified video of a contested American in Iraq.

Since then public interest in WikiLeaks has waned. It may have suffered from publicity related to Assange’s flight to Britain after sexual misconduct allegations were made against him in Sweden and a subsequent protracted .

Assange, who has denied any wrongdoing, has also publicly feuded with former collaborators.

A person close to Assange said a British appeals court is due to rule early next month on his appeal against Sweden’s extradition request. The source was unaware of any link between the latest document dump and the anticipated court decision.

(Writing by Paul Simao, Americas Desk; Editing by Mark Heinrich)

Flooded Vermont town epitome of patience

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Peggy Schorle took this photo of flooding at Tweed River and Route 100 in Pittsfield, Vermont, Sunday afternoon.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS

The of Pittsfield, Vermont, is flooded; roads are impassable.

Local restaurant owner cooked hamburgers and hotdogs for hundreds in flood-ravaged town
A town meeting was called by word of mouth, and held in Pittsfield’s single church

() — Pittsfield, Vermont, population 427, reacted in its own special way to severe flooding from that has turned their community into an island.

They had a town barbecue.

“No one in this town was expecting the flooding to be what it was, and we’ve all gotta eat,” said Jason Evans, the owner of the skiing enclave’s popular Clear River Tavern.

“My house is high and dry, but there was water all around my restaurant,” he said. “We just had everybody come to the park and we cooked up hamburgers and hotdogs.

“I would have lost everything anyway, so why not feed some folks?”

On , more than a full day since Irene’s effects were being felt along the northeast in New England and upstate New York, Pittsfield was the of positivity. The fact that roads were impassable and homes were partly underwater didn’t seem to send residents into a fury.

Everyone in the landlocked rural state is suffering, a few pointed out. No one had been reported injured or killed in the town. They could start pumping their and shouting but that wouldn’t dry a darn thing, they said. They are confident officials are doing what they can.

Vermont Gov. Peter Shumlin toured devastation from the air. He said the flooding he saw is probably the worst the state has ever experienced. Three people in Vermont have died. Many areas of the state were still under flood watches and warnings .

CNN.com reached Evans at Pittsfield’s fire station. It’s hot today in Pittsfield, and the station is a nice, air-conditioned break for people who are without electricity, a problem a reported 50,000 Vermonters are dealing with.

“We’re not in dire straights yet,” said Evans. “I think everybody here is smart enough to have some pasta and beans in their cupboards. But that isn’t going to last forever.”

The U.S. National Guard says it’s preparing to air-drop supplies into flooded areas. Pittsfield residents told CNN.com they’ve seen what they think are military helicopters flying Tuesday.

“That’s a good sign and so we’ll be patient,” said Peggy Schorle. She was chatting on her cell phone which she’s charging at the general store. And that is the Pittsfield general store, the other place in town besides the fire station that has a big generator. The store, across the street from the fire station, has the town’s only two gas pumps, she said.

It was about 1 p.m. ET when CNN.com spoke with Schorle.

“The people who run the general store said we could start pumping our gas around noon, but now they say 5 p.m.,” she said.

“They’re rationing it, a smart thing,” she said. “I guess we could have bad attitude about the whole thing, but what good would that do?”

Most are refueling their personal ATVs so they can get around, Schorle said.

It’s not a problem if you don’t own an ATV, she said, because most people are loaning theirs.

A retired health care administrator, Schorle and her husband thought they were making a smart move by getting out of New Jersey to spend some time at their vacation home in Pittsfield.

See photos and video of the area around Schorle’s home

Their house is on a mountain, and so wasn’t seriously damaged by flooding.

George Deblon said he’s had a little flooding at his home. The 48-year-old who grew up in Pittsfield has been the town’s road commissioner for 20 years.

“I’m the road guy, so this is a big week,” he said.

Deblon’s been scooting around town on an ATV, making sure people know the latest. On Monday he said that there was a town meeting at city hall. But city hall wasn’t big enough to accommodate all the people who showed up.

“So we had it at the big church,” he said. “There’s one church in town. We just let people know about the meetings word of mouth.

“We’re going to keep things real calm around here,” Deblon said. “We see the helicopters and we think we’ll get some help soon. We’re optimistic.”

NEWFANE, Vt. (AP) — National Guard helicopters rushed food and water Tuesday to a dozen cut-off Vermont towns after the rainy remnants of Hurricane Irene washed out roads and bridges in a deluge that took many people in the landlocked New England state by surprise.

“As soon as we can get help, we need help,” Liam McKinley said by cellphone from a mountain above flood-stricken Rochester, Vt.

Up to 11 inches of rain from the weekend storm turned placid streams into churning, brown torrents that knocked homes off their foundations, flattened trees and took giant bites out of the asphalt across the countryside. At least three people died in Vermont.

“I think that people are still a little shell-shocked right now. There’s just a lot of disbelief on people’s faces. It came through so quickly, and there’s so much damage,” Gail Devine, director of the Woodstock Recreation Center, said as volunteers moved furniture out of the flooded basement and shoveled out thick mud that filled the center’s two swimming pools.

As crews raced to repair the roads, the National Guard began flying in supplies to the towns of Cavendish, Granville, Hancock, Killington-Mendon, Marlboro, Pittsfield, Plymouth, Rochester, Stockbridge, Strafford, Stratton and Wardsboro. The Guard also used heavy-duty vehicles to bring relief to flood-stricken communities still reachable by road.

The cut-off towns ranged in population from under 200 (Stratton) to nearly 1,400 (Cavendish).

“If it’s a life-and-death situation, where someone needs to be Medevac-ed or taken to a hospital, we would get a helicopter there to airlift them out, if we could get close to them. A lot of these areas are mountainous areas where there may not be a place to land,” said Mark Bosma, a spokesman for Vermont Emergency Management.

There were no immediate reports of anyone in dire condition being rescued by helicopter.

But it took a relay operation involving two ambulances and an all-terrain vehicle to take a Killington woman in respiratory distress to a hospital in Rutland, about 13 miles away, after floodwaters severed the road between the two communities, Rutland Regional Medical Center President Tom Hubner said. The patient, whose name was not released, was doing fine, he said.

In Rochester, where telephones were out and damage was severe, people could be seen from helicopters standing in line outside a grocery store. McKinley said the town’s restaurants and a supermarket were giving food away rather than let it spoil, and townspeople were helping each other.

“We’ve been fine so far. The worst part is not being able to communicate with the rest of the state and know when people are coming in,” he said.

He said government agencies did a good job of warning people about the storm. “But here in Vermont, I think we just didn’t expect it and didn’t prepare for it,” he said. “I thought, how could it happen here?”

Wendy Pratt, another of the few townspeople able to communicate with the outside world, posted an update on Facebook using a generator and a satellite Internet connection. She sketched a picture of both devastation and New England neighborliness.

“People have lost their homes, their belongings, businesses … the cemetery was flooded and caskets were lost down the river. So many areas of complete devastation,” Pratt wrote. “In town there is no cell service or internet service – all phones in town are out. We had a big town meeting at the church at 4 this afternoon to get any updates.”

“Mac’s opened up at 5 and gave perishables away to anyone who came,” she added. “The Huntington House put on a big, free community dinner tonight.”

Access to Rochester and Stratton by road was restored later in the day, officials said.

All together, the storm has been blamed for at least 44 deaths in 13 states. More than 2.5 million people from North Carolina to Maine were still without electricity Tuesday, three days after the hurricane churned up the Eastern Seaboard.

While all eyes were on the coast as Irene swirled northward, some of the worst destruction took place well inland, away from the storm’s most punishing winds. In Vermont, Gov. Peter Shumlin called it the worst flooding in a century. Small towns in upstate New York — especially in the Catskills and the Adirondacks — were also besieged by floodwaters.

In Pittsfield, Vt., newlyweds Marc Leibowitz and Janina Stegmeyer of New York City were stranded Sunday along with members of the wedding party and dozens of their guests after floodwaters swamped the couple’s honeymoon cottage. The honeymooners narrowly escaped in a four-wheel-drive rental car just before a bridge behind them collapsed.

More than a dozen of the 60 or so guests were airlifted out by private helicopters on Tuesday.

Michael Ricci of Woodstock, Vt., spent the day clearing debris from his backyard along the Ottauquechee River. What had been a meticulously mowed, sloping grass lawn and gorgeous flower beds was now a muddy expanse littered with debris, including wooden boards, propane tanks and a deer hunting .

“The things we saw go down the river were just incredible,” he said. “Sheds, picnic tables, propane tanks, furnaces, refrigerators. We weren’t prepared for that. We had prepared for wind and what we ended up with was more water than I could possibly, possibly have imagined.” He said the water in the yard was almost up to the house, or about 15 to 20 feet above normal.

He added: “The force of it was beyond our comprehension.”

Vermont emergency officials and the National Weather Service warned before the storm about the potential for heavy rain and flooding. On Thursday, Shumlin recommended stocking up on enough food, water and other supplies to last three days.

On Tuesday, the governor defended his state’s decision not to undertake extensive evacuations before the storm arrived, noting that it was too hard to predict which communities in a rugged place like Vermont would get hit.

“You’d have to evacuate the entire state,” he said.

Gerald and Evangeline Monroe of Quechee, Vt., agreed with the governor and said they had no complaints about the way authorities handled the crisis.

Gerald Monroe noted that some homes on one side of the river through his town were damaged, while those on the opposite banks 100 yards away were unscathed.

His wife said city-dwellers may see a weather report and know it applies to their entire metropolitan area. “But when you live in Vermont, there are lots of little microclimates and every village is different.” she said. “I think our authorities were fine.”

Approximately 260 roads in Vermont were closed because of storm damage, along with about 30 highway bridges. Vermont Deputy Transportation Secretary Sue Minter said the infrastructure damage was in the hundreds of millions of dollars.

Relief supplies arrived at Vermont’s National Guard headquarters early Tuesday in a convoy of 30 trucks from the Federal Emergency Management Agency. Accompanied by Shumlin, FEMA administrator Craig Fugate toured the state by helicopter Tuesday to survey the damage.

Meanwhile, in North Carolina, where Irene blew ashore along the Outer Banks on Saturday before heading for New York and New England, Gov. Beverly Perdue said the hurricane destroyed more than 1,100 homes and caused at least $70 million in damage.

Airlines said it would be days before the thousands of passengers stranded by Irene find their way home. Amtrak service was still out Tuesday between Philadelphia and New York because of flooding in Trenton. Commuter train service between New Jersey and New York City resumed Tuesday, except for one line that was still dealing with flooding.

Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano said at news conference in North Carolina that she was unaware of anything federal authorities should have done differently in Vermont. She said FEMA and its state counterpart worked closely together, and she noted that after the state agency operations center got flooded out, it moved into FEMA’s quarters.

William “Breck” Bowden, an expert on Vermont’s watershed at the University of Vermont, attributed the disaster to a combination of factors: The soil was wet, Vermont’s steep hills quickly fed the rainfall into streams, and the storm dumped a huge amount of water.

“There was plenty of warning being given about the coming storm by the meteorological community and the news media,” he said. “The real issues are the enormous damage to our infrastructure. That’s nothing an evacuation could have done anything about.”

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Contributing to this report were Associated Press writers Holly Ramer in Woodstock, Vt., Wilson Ring and Dave Gram in Montpelier, and Michael Gormley in Albany, N.Y.

The 9 Best Things to Say to a Guy You Just Met

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(Phatforums News / Cosmo) – Step 1: Spot a . Step 2: Deliver one of these pickup lines. Step 3: Watch him turn to putty in your hands.

The hardest part of meeting guys is knowing how to strike up an intriguing conversation that will keep him wanting more. So we asked and Mike Lindstrom, authors of Dan and Mike’s Guide to Men, to reveal the best words that can hook any dude, anywhere.

At a : “What’s the most impressive goal you’ve ever scored in a game?”
Double entendre aside, ahem, dudes love to talk about sports almost as much as they love to brag. This question taps into both of those things. Whether he tells you about his high school years as the star quarterback, or surprises you with a minor league past — just know he’s already digging you, simply because you asked.

At a club: “I dare you to show me your .”
To a guy, completing a dare is as mandatory as applying in the morning. Moonwalk, , or The Dougie — he’s going to do it. And when he makes a complete clown out of himself, you’ll be there to swoop in and save him from his two left feet. We’re guessing he’ll repay you with a round of drinks.

At a restaurant bar: “They have the best here. Ever tried ‘em?”
If they don’t serve nachos, choose another menu item nearly everyone has a strong opinion about, like pizza or wings. Best case? He agrees with you and you decide to share a plate. Worst case? He disagrees, you flirtatiously fight, and then you offer to buy him some — just to prove him wrong. It’s a win-win line that will have any guy eating off of your plate. Literally.

At a friend’s party: “I wanted to talk to you the second I got here, but no one introduced me. So I’m introducing myself.”
Men are attracted to confident women. He’ll think the fact you had the to approach him is hot. Sure, some guys like to make the first move, but that doesn’t mean they’re not pleasantly surprised when a woman does the .

At the laundromat: “I’m bored. What do you normally do when your underwear is drying?”
Guys are extremely visual creatures. Even though you mentioned his underwear, he’s automatically thinking about yours — and the fact that they’re probably black and lacy, or barely there at all. So basically, you’ve got him hooked, and even if your only awesome suggestion is a quick round of Fruit Ninja on your phone, count him in.

At the park: “Any ideas on how to turn this blanket into a Twister board? I really want to play.”
This shows a guy that you’re fun, playful, and energetic — all in one quick line. He’ll be curious to see what other crazy thoughts you dream up next.

At a baseball game: “I bet you a post-game drink that (insert player’s name) will hit a home run this inning.”
It’s human nature for men to be competitive, and there’s nothing like a harmless wager to get ‘em going. He’ll probably raise the stakes, turn the drink into a shot, and spend the rest of the game talking to you. So even if that player with the cute rear doesn’t hit a home run — that line just scored you an after-game date.

At the gym: “You look like you know your way around this place. Where’s that machine that works your glutes?”
While we consistently flatter our (“Your hair looks so cute today! Love that top!”), guys rarely receive compliments from one another. So when they hear one, they take note. By saying he knows his way around the weight room, you’re telling him he looks buff and manly, feeding right into his macho ego. In return he’ll be more than willing to help you find whatever machine you’re looking for … and probably a whole lot more too.

On the beach: “I bet you’re wondering how I avoid tan lines.”
Nope. He wasn’t. But after that comment, that’s all that will be on his mind as long as you’re laying next to him. And if it’s up to him, you’ll stay right there, talking to him …. At least until you give up your secret about being a spray tan addict.

Ladies, Be Prepared To Fall In Love If You Have Sex

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( News / The -UK) — Sex is one of our biggest preoccupations — causing thrills, and downright confusion. But until recently, exactly what happens in the brain during sex was something of a mystery to scientists.

Now, however, American researchers have uncovered what goes on in a woman’s head during an .

The scientists from Rutgers University, New Jersey, used scans to monitor women’s during orgasm and found that different brain parts are activated when various parts of her body are aroused.
Scientists used scans to monitor women’s brains during orgasm and found that different brain parts are activated when various parts of her body are aroused

Scientists used scans to monitor women’s brains during orgasm and found that different brain parts are activated when various parts of her body are aroused

They found that up to 30 different parts of the brain are activated, including those responsible for emotion, touch, joy, satisfaction and memory.

The scientists found that two minutes before orgasm the brain’s reward centers become active. These are the areas usually activated when eating .

Immediately before they reached the peak, other areas of the brain became affected such as the sensory cortex, which receives ‘touch’ messages from parts of the body.

The final part of the brain to be activated is the , the ‘control’ part which regulates temperature, hunger, thirst and tiredness.

showed how women in , but when they’re not faking them, they are more likely to fall in love with a man after sex

The scientists also discovered that sexual arousal numbs the female nervous system to such an extent that a woman doesn’t feel as much pain — only pleasure. The team now hopes to map what happens in a man’s brain during orgasm.

But what else is happening inside our heads when we slip between the sheets? Here we ask the experts to reveal how sex alters our brain.

WHY LOVE HURTS

A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more, says Dr Arun Ghosh, a GP specializing in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital.

It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.

However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term ends.

Men, on the other hand, instead of getting a surge of bonding hormone receive a surge of simple pleasure.

‘The problem is that when a man has an orgasm, the main hormone released is dopamine — the pleasure hormone. And this surge can be addictive,’ says Dr Ghosh.

That’s why so many more men tend to suffer from sex addiction.
For many people – especially women – the mind plays a key role in achieving orgasm. The key to female arousal seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety

For women especially – the mind plays a key role in achieving orgasm. The key to female arousal seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety

STARVING OFF DEMENTIA

Many of us are all too aware that our brain cells decline with age. In fact, it’s said we lose 7,000 brain cells a day by the time we’re 35, which makes rather depressing reading.

The good news, however, is that having regular sex may help us grow new brain cells, according to scientists from Princeton University in the United States.

And the more sex you have, the more cells you can grow, it seems. Animal studies, published in the journal PLoS ONE, suggest that sex stimulates the growth of brain cells in the hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for memory and learning.

Factors such as stress and depression have been shown to shrink the hippocampus, yet exercise and sex counteract this effect.

Furthermore, sex could actually be protecting our brain cells against decline.

‘There is some evidence that older people who are sexually active are less likely to have dementia and this could be for a variety of complex reasons,’ says Dr Ghosh.

Sex causes increased blood flow to the brain, which improves oxygen levels.

‘MRI scans have shown that during orgasm the neurons in the brain are more active and use more oxygen,’ explains Barry Komisaruk, professor of psychology at Rutgers University and a leading authority on sex and neuroscience.

‘It appears that the more active the neurons, the more oxygen they withdraw from the blood — so more oxygenated blood is supplied to the region, delivering a fresh supply of nutrients.’

But as well as boosting brain cells, sex could also sharpen a woman’s mind, says Dr Ghosh. That’s due to a surge in sex hormones, particularly testosterone, which can help improve concentration and reaction times.

SMOOCHING MEANS BETTER SEX

You’ll have much better sex if you kiss before intercourse

The lips are packed with nerve endings — 100 times more than the fingertips.

As a result, kissing kick-starts multiple mechanisms in the brain, releasing chemicals that lower stress and boost mood, says Dr Ghosh.

‘You’ll have much better sex if you kiss before intercourse,’ says Dr Ghosh.

It increases levels of the pleasure hormones and will make you a lot more receptive to what happens later.

‘That’s why loving sex can be more satisfying than a quickie — and that endorphin hit from dopamine is especially important for women.’

A NATURAL PAINKILLER

Orgasm (rather than sex) can block pain signals, says Professor Komisaruk. Research using laboratory animals and humans has found that orgasm can inhibit the release of pain transmitters from the spinal cord so they can’t reach the neurons in the brain that respond to pain.

In fact, he says, it can raise the pain threshold so much that the equivalent effect in morphine is three times the usual pain-relieving dose.

MIND POWER

A lot of sexual health research focuses on what’s happening physically.

But experts say that for many people — especially women — the mind plays a key role in achieving orgasm.

While male brains tend to focus on the physical stimulation involved in sexual contact, the key to female arousal seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety.

The scans show that, during sex, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax more and more, reaching a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s anxiety and emotion are effectively closed down.

THE ULTIMATE HAPPY PILL

‘There is a known circuit in the brain that’s involved in feeling happy,’ explains Paul Thompson, professor of neurology at the University of California, Los Angeles, and an expert in brain imaging.

‘This is called the limbic region, which is deep in the brain, and it’s more active when we’re rewarded. The same system is activated by sex, drugs, gambling — basically anything we enjoy.

‘There’s more blood flow to the head, more neurons firing, more brain activity.

‘Much of this deep brain circuit runs on the hormone dopamine. Anything pleasurable tends to cause these brain cells to exude more of it and this makes them fire faster.’

‘Without doubt, sex has not only physical but psychological and social benefits, too,’ says Dr Ghosh.

‘The endorphins released during sex can really help treat depression and clear the mind.

‘One is serotonin, also called the happy hormone, which creates a sense of bliss. People often say that sex is the last thing they feel like doing when they’re depressed, but do try it if you can.

‘And don’t worry if you get emotional afterwards — it’s very common to end up crying after sex. This is caused by a combination of endorphins being released and heightened emotions.’

BETTER SLEEP

If you’re struggling to nod off, it’s better to have sex than take a sleeping pill, says Dr Ghosh.

‘In fact, it’s more beneficial to have sex in the evening rather than the morning because the body wants to be relaxed afterwards, not get up and go to work.

‘By having sex at the end of the day you’ll reap more of the stress-relieving benefits. For a man, a powerful orgasm is the equivalent of having on average a 2-3mg shot of diazepam (or Valium).

‘That’s why so many men nod off afterwards — there really is a biological reason for this.’

Never Put Friends Before Your Husband

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( News / The Stir) - Remember when used to say, “Always put your friends ahead of any man”? Well, forget that advice and listen to this: If you put your husband behind your friends, you will find yourself without a husband.

A recent piece in the Daily Mail advises women to always pick their friends over their spouses. While I agree with the basic — friends are so, so important — the idea that a woman would prioritize anyone — yes, even children — above her husband isn’t all that great.

When a person gets married, they should be marrying their best friend, and when they do, that person becomes like family. So why would you prioritize anyone above him? The writer says:

are those who will always rally round when you are in trouble, or sick, or you need a good laugh or a new dress or even just to download your day. Your friends are there when you need them. Guaranteed. But with your partner, you just never can tell.

Certainly I deeply value my , but there is no one I value like my spouse. And that is how it should be. To enter into a marriage thinking it could potentially end and one should keep their friends around “just in case” is so cynical, it begs a simple question: Why get married at all?

My husband is everything to me, and I have his back and he has mine. When I have falling-outs with friends, he is there to tell me how much they suck. When I want to be sad about , he is holding my hand. When I have a at work, it’s my husband I call. But when I want to see some chick flick he hates, I go with my sister or a friend. When I want to shop or just be away from the family, I have plenty of , but for the important stuff, my man remains the number one.

And I think that is the right way to be. Children thrive on seeing happy . The between the is the base of a healthy family. It’s the most important part of many people’s lives. How does really compare to that?

Private sector adds 91,000 jobs in August: ADP

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() – The pace of U.S. private sector job growth slowed in August for the second month in a row with employers adding 91,000 positions, a report by a payrolls processor showed on Wednesday.

Economists surveyed by Reuters had forecast the report would show a gain of 100,000 jobs. July’s private payrolls were revised down to an increase of 109,000 from the previously reported 114,000.

The report is jointly developed with Macroeconomic Advisers LLC.

The ADP figures come ahead of the government’s much more comprehensive labor market report on Friday, which includes both public and private sector employment and is forecast to show the economy added 75,000 jobs in August.

(Reporting by Leah Schnurr; Editing by Padraic Cassidy)

Futures up on Fed stimulus hopes

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() – Stock index futures gained on Wednesday on comments from Federal Reserve officials that boosted hopes of more monetary stimulus and as investors awaited data for a better assessment on the economy, including the weak labor sector.

Wall Street stocks ended higher in the previous session after minutes released from the most recent Fed board meeting indicated several policymakers backed further monetary easing to support growth.

“With the markets on the cusp of seeing very important economic data over the next three days, comments yesterday from Fed voting members (Charles) Evans and (Narayana) Kocherlakota have changed the dynamic in terms of what the market response will be. The question is how long it will last,” said Peter Boockvar, equity strategist at Miller Tabak + Co in New York.

S&P 500 futures gained 9.4 points and were above fair value, a formula that evaluates pricing by taking into account interest rates, dividends and time to expiration on the contract. Dow Jones industrial average futures rose 73 points, and Nasdaq 100 futures added 20 points.

The S&P 500 is on track for its worst month since May 2010. After the United States credit rating was downgraded in early August, the index posted one of its worst weeks since the depths of the financial crisis in 2008.

At 8:15 a.m. EDT (1215 GMT), Automatic Data Processing will release its August employment report. Economists expected 100,000 jobs were created in August, versus 114,000 created in July.

The Institute for Supply Management-New York will release at 8:30 a.m. EDT (1230 GMT) its August index of regional business activity. In the previous month, the index read 538.8.

At 9:45 a.m. EDT (1345 GMT), the Institute of Supply Management-Chicago releases its August index of manufacturing activity. Economists forecast a reading of 53.5 in the month, compared with 58.8 in July.

The Commerce Department reports July factory orders at 10:00 a.m. EDT (1400 GMT). Economists forecast a rise of 1.9 percent, compared with a 0.8 percent drop in the prior month.

Bank of America Corp (BAC.N) is looking to sell its correspondent mortgage business and the unit’s employees could be notified as soon as Wednesday, the Journal reported, citing sources.

The FTSEurofirst 300 .FTEU3 index of top European shares rose 1.3 percent, extending the previous session’s steep gains on hopes the U.S. Federal Reserve will soon add new stimulus to boost the economy.

(Reporting by Angela Moon; editing by Jeffrey Benkoe)

US Open: Serena, Djokovic, Nadal prevail on Day 2

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Serena Williams of the United States returns a shot against Bojana Jovanovski of Serbia during Day Two of the 2011 US Open at the USTA on August 30, 2011 in the Flushing neighborhood of the of New York City.
(August 29, 2011 – Photo by Julian Finney/ North America)

(PhatzRadio / AP / ) - NEW YORK – Serena Williams’ first U.S. Open singles match since her 2009 foot-fault tirade came and went, quickly and quietly.

Williams began her bid for a fourth championship at Flushing Meadows and 14th overall with a 6-1, 6-1 victory over 54th-ranked Bojana Jovanovski of Serbia on Tuesday night.

The 29-year-old American was greeted warmly by the crowd as she walked out to play, a far cry from the ugly scene at the same court two years ago, when Williams produced a profanity-laced, racket-brandishing tirade at a line judge after a foot-fault call at the end of her semifinal loss to eventual champion .

Williams insisted Tuesday she wasn’t thinking about that infamous outburst at all.

“If anything, I thought, ‘Wow, I’m back. I haven’t played in a long time.’ I’m telling you: Out of sight, out of mind for me,” she said. “You guys should try it.”

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Rafael Nadal’s first match as defending U.S. , on the other hand, was hardly a tour de force.

He would fall behind in a set, then come back. Fall behind, then come back.

His serve was broken six times; that happened a total of five times in seven matches during his 2010 run to the title at Flushing Meadows. His shots didn’t have their normal depth. He needed to save seven set points during the second set.

Locked in a struggle for nearly three hours, the second-seeded Nadal eventually got past 98th-ranked Andrey Golubev of Kazakhstan 6-3, 7-6 (7-1), 7-5 on Tuesday night to reach the second round.

“Well,” Nadal conceded, “I was a little bit lucky to win today in straight sets.”

Williams missed last year’s U.S. Open because of surgery on her right foot after cutting it on glass at a restaurant in Germany in July. That was part of a series of health scares — including clots in her lungs, and a gathering of blood under the skin of her stomach — that sidelined her for nearly a year.

Tuesday, Williams made only 10 unforced errors, compiled 22 winners, never faced a break point, and needed only 56 minutes to wrap things up.

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Rafael Nadal of Spain celebrates his 6-3, 7-6 (7-1), 7-5 first-round victory over Andrey Golubev of Kazakhstan on Day 2 of the U.S. Open.

Still, she wasn’t completely satisfied.

“I mean, I could’ve played more aggressive,” Williams said. “I kind of was just out there, getting balls back.”

The U.S. Open is the sixth tournament of her comeback. She won hard-court tuneup events at Stanford and Toronto in August, her first consecutive titles since 2008.

“I’m so happy to be here. I didn’t think I would make it,” said the 28th-seeded Williams, whose ranking fell to 175th last month because of all that time off. “Just feel so blessed. I’m so happy.”

Nadal expended a lot more energy Tuesday than Williams or Novak Djokovic, who overtook the Spaniard at No. 1 in the rankings last month.

Djokovic’s opponent quit after 44 minutes Tuesday because of food poisoning. But it didn’t take too long to see that Djokovic’s right shoulder is feeling fine. He began with a 121 mph service winner. Four points later, he closed that game with a 120 mph ace. He whipped forehands exactly where he wanted them. He returned well, too.

Playing his first match since Aug. 21, when he quit because of a sore and tired shoulder, the top-seeded Djokovic began setting aside any questions about his fitness for Flushing Meadows, building a 6-0, 5-1 lead before 197th-ranked qualifier Conor Niland of Ireland stopped.

“Great opening performance,” Djokovic declared. “Today I didn’t feel any pain. I served well, and I played well, so I have no concern.”

The 24-year-old Serb improved to 58-2 with nine titles in 2011, including at Wimbledon and the Australian Open. Djokovic is on his way to compiling one of the greatest seasons in tennis history, particularly if he can earn his first championship at the U.S. Open, where in the past four years he’s lost twice in the final and twice in the semifinals.

“This year has been tremendous — best so far in my career — and there has been a lot of talk about history-making and this incredible run,” said Djokovic, who lost to Nadal in last year’s U.S. Open final but is 5-0 against him this season.

Nadal didn’t enter the year’s last Grand Slam tournament under the best of circumstances.

“His confidence is not too good,” said Toni Nadal, Rafael’s uncle and coach. “I hope in one week, it will be different.”

After losing to Djokovic in the Wimbledon final, Nadal lost his first summer hard-court match at Montreal, then bowed out in the quarterfinals at Cincinnati, where he also burned two right fingers on a hot ceramic plate in a restaurant.

“I didn’t have the best summer possible for me,” said Nadal, whose second-round opponent is Nicolas Mahut, the man who lost the longest match in tennis history, 70-68 in the fifth set, at Wimbledon last year.

Against Golubev, who has a 3-13 career record in Grand Slam matches, Nadal trailed 3-2 in the first set, and 5-2 in each of the others.

“I hit good shots, but not enough,” said Nadal, who finished with 18 winners, 23 fewer than Golubev.

There was one especially important point: At 5-all in the second set, Golubev hit a terrific drop shot with Nadal stuck behind the baseline. On a full sprint, Nadal lifted the ball over the net; Golubev flubbed an overhead to lose the point. Golubev thought the ball bounced twice — which would have meant he won the point — and argued at length with the chair umpire, but TV replays showed Nadal got there in time.

That gave Nadal a break point, which he converted to lead 6-5. He got broken yet again, but then reeled off the last six points of the tiebreaker.

Golubev served for the second set at 5-3, and for the third set at 5-2 and 5-4. Nadal broke each time.

“If you don’t think about the points, it was not bad performance,” Golubev said. “I mean, you have to win the points when you have to win — for example, like second set or third set, when you serve for the set.”

While Djokovic had no problems Tuesday, and Nadal overcame his, Day 2 of the tournament included the second consecutive first-round upset of a Grand Slam winner. Tuesday it wasa sixth-seeded French Open champion Li Na. Since becoming China’s first major singles champion at Paris in June, Li has gone 5-6, exiting in the second round at Wimbledon, then losing 6-2, 7-5 to 53rd-ranked Simona Halep of Romania on Tuesday.

“Terrible feeling,” Li said. “I really want to do well after Roland Garros. But, I mean, it’s not easy to do. Always easy to say, ‘I want to do, I would like to do,’ but always lose early. Now I even lose all the confidence on the court. I was feeling, ‘Oh, tennis just too tough for me.’”

It’s the first time in 40 years that none of the women’s champions at a season’s first three Grand Slam tournaments reached the second round at the U.S. Open. Wimbledon champion Petra Kvitova lost her first-round match Monday, while Australian Open champion withdrew because of a stomach muscle injury.

Top-seeded Caroline Wozniacki — who’s been ranked No. 1 for most of the past year but is still in search of Grand Slam trophy No. 1 — defeated 125th-ranked Nuria Llagostera Vives of Spain 6-3, 6-1.

Afterward, Wozniacki was asked about criticisms that she lacks a big-time shot.

“They can say what they want,” said Wozniacki, who is dating U.S. Open champion Rory McIlroy. “I’m the type of player I am.”

Among the past major winners who advanced Tuesday were 2010 French Open champion Francesca Schiavone, who overcame 16 double-faults, including four in her last service game; 2008 French Open champion Ana Ivanovic, whose blood pressure was checked by a trainer at the final changeover and said afterward she felt overwhelmed while thinking about the recent death of her grandfather; and two-time Grand Slam champion Svetlana Kuznetsova.

Other winners included No. 4 Victoria Azarenka, No. 10 Andrea Petkovic, No. 11 Jelena Jankovic and three young Americans: Sloane Stephens, CoCo Vandeweghe and Vania King.

Two seeded men lost during the day: No. 16 Mikhail Youzhny was beaten by Ernests Gulbis of Latvia 6-2, 6-4, 6-4, and No. 32 Ivan Dodig was eliminated 6-7 (6-8), 6-3, 6-0, 2-6, 6-2 by Nikolay Davydenko of Russia, who was a U.S. Open semifinalist in 2006 and 2007 and once was ranked No. 3 but now is 39th.

Winners included No. 5 David Ferrer, No. 11 Jo-Wilfried Tsonga, No. 17 Jurgen Melzer and Americans James Blake and Donald Young.

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