May 23, 2013

22 injured in Turkey explosion

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Turkish police investigate the scene of a suspected suicide bombing in Istanbul.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS

* NEW: A second unexploded bomb was found near the suspected suicide bomber’s body
* Police say two of the injured are in critical condition
* Analysts say the Kurdistan Workers’ Party could be responsible
* A party spokesman says he did not know about the blast

RELATED TOPICS

* Turkey
* Istanbul
* Kurdistan Workers’ Party

Istanbul, Turkey (CNN) — At least 22 people were wounded in an apparent suicide bombing in the center of Istanbul on Sunday, police said.

Ten police officers and 12 civilians were wounded in the attack in Taksim Square, police said.

Two of the wounded police officers are in critical condition, Istanbul Police Chief Huseyin Capkin said.

The bustling square houses a commercial district and a major transportation network that includes buses, metro systems and taxis. Visitors throng the area, which is typically patrolled by lots of officers.

The suicide bomber struck when the city was marking National Day, which celebrates the declaration of independence for the Turkish republic. The parade was originally scheduled for Friday, but was postponed because of the weather.

Capkin said it appeared that a male suicide bomber caused the explosion. A second unexploded bomb was found near the body of the bomber.

The suspected bomber tried to board a police bus parked in the square, but the explosion happened before he could enter, Capkin said.

Analysts familiar with the Kurdistan Workers’ Party, known as the PKK, told CNN Turk that it is likely PKK was behind the

attack.

But a party spokesman told CNN that he did not know anything about the explosion.

“This blast in Taksim or explosion, I have no idea about it,” PKK spokesman Roj Qandil said.

Qandil said the PKK’s “unilateral cease-fire” was scheduled to end Sunday, but he said party leader Murat Karayilan told a Turkish journalist several days ago that “we are not going to do any actions against civilians anymore.”

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BBC – Police say 22 people have been injured in what appears to have been a suicide bomb attack in the centre of Istanbul.

Television pictures from Taksim Square showed body parts lying on the ground.

No group has said it carried out the attack, but a two-month-old ceasefire by Kurdish rebels was due to expire later on Sunday, says the BBC’s Jonathan Head in Istanbul.

Riot police stationed in the square may have been the target, a police spokesman said.

Nine police officers have been injured, some very seriously, he added. Six civilians were also hurt.

A large explosion was heard throughout central Istanbul just after 0900 GMT.
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The explosion took place right next to the independence monument on Taksim Square, which is always crowded with people, our correspondent says.

There are usually squads of riot police posted at this part of the square, as it is often the site of demonstrations.

A police spokesman has said he believes they were the target of the explosion, which he said may have been caused by a suicide bomber.

Eyewitness Aris Virkas told the BBC that he was walking through Taksim Square when he heard the blast.

“I turned around and saw policemen with blood on their face and someone lying on the ground,” he said. “People, including police, were running around in panic.

“There was a big bus with maybe 20 police officers: they ran out of the bus, trying to find out what’s going on.

“After a couple of minutes, they started asking people to step back. I think I think I heard a few gunshots afterwards, but I can’t be certain it wasn’t something else.”
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Our correspondent says suspicion is likely to fall on Kurdish separatist factions, or groups linked to al-Qaeda.

The Kurdish separatist PKK party has carried out bomb attacks in Istanbul in the past, as have extreme left-wing and Islamist groups.

Our correspondent says al-Qaeda-linked groups are small but active in Turkey, and police make frequent arrests.

A group with ties to al-Qaeda carried out the bombing of the British consulate in Istanbul in 2003 in which 28 people died.

Afghan President Karzai criticises US-Russia drugs raid

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Afghan President Hamid Karzai has criticised the first joint operation by Russian and US agents to destroy drug laboratories in his country.

Mr Karzai said he had not been informed of Russia’s participation – a sensitive issue in Afghanistan ever since the Soviet occupation ended 21 years ago.

He called it a violation of Afghan sovereignty and international law.

Russia said more than a tonne of heroin and opium, with a street value of $250m (£157m), was destroyed in the raid.

Officials in Moscow have in the past accused coalition forces in Afghanistan of doing little to tackle drugs, and thereby helping to sustain the estimated 2.5 million heroin addicts in Russia.
‘No authorisation’

On Friday, the head of Russia’s drug control agency said its agents had taken part in an operation on Thursday to destroy a “major hub” of drug production about 5km (three miles) from the Pakistani border, near the city of Jalalabad.

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Viktor Ivanov said that along with 932kg (2,055lb) of high-grade heroin and 156kg (345lb) of opium, a large amount of technical equipment was destroyed.

But in a strongly worded statement on Saturday, President Karzai’s office alleged that Russian military personnel had taken part in the “illegal” raid.

“While Afghanistan remains committed to its joint efforts with the international community against narcotics, it also makes it clear that no organisation or institution shall have the right to carry out such a military operation without prior authorisation and consent of the government of Afghanistan,” it said.

“Such unilateral operations are a clear violation of Afghan sovereignty as well as international law, and any repetition will be met by the required reaction from our side,” the statement added.

Mr Karzai said Afghanistan wanted friendly ties with Moscow, but that the relationship had to be based on mutual consent.

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A senior source in the delegation of Russian President Dmitry Medvedev, who is currently on a visit to Vietnam, told the AFP news agency on Sunday that Kabul’s reaction to the anti-drug operation was “simply surprising and incomprehensible” because “the Afghan interior ministry participated in this operation”.

The BBC’s Quentin Sommerville in Kabul says Afghanistan’s elite counter narcotics force did participate in the operation but it appears that the president’s office was not informed of who would accompany them.

Afghanistan’s interior ministry said it thought that only Russian observers rather than Russian troops were to take part, our correspondent adds.

The president’s national security adviser, Rangin Dadfar Spanta, said Nato officials had apologised in private but that he wanted a public declaration.

Earlier, the Nato-led International Security Assistance Force (Isaf) said it had killed at least 19 Taliban fighters who tried to storm a combat outpost in the eastern province of Paktika under cover of darkness.

The militants attacked from all directions, using rifles, rocket-propelled grenades and mortars, it added. Troops at the camp had to call in air support to repel the assault.

Five coalition soldiers were wounded in the fighting.

Saudi king offers talks to break Iraq deadlock

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Saudi Arabia’s king has invited the leaders of Iraq’s political blocs for talks in Riyadh aimed at breaking the deadlock over forming a new government.

King Abdullah suggested they meet after the Hajj pilgrimage in November.

A Sunni-backed bloc led by Iyad Allawi edged PM Nouri Maliki’s Shia alliance in elections in March.

But neither bloc has been able to form a coalition and Iraq now holds the world record for the longest time without a government.

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‘Unhelpful’

King Abdullah was quoted by the Associated Press news agency as saying on Saturday that Iraq was at “a crossroads”.

He also urged Iraq’s political rivals to unite to “put down the fire of ugly sectarianism”.

King Abdullah did not mention a specific date for the Riyadh talks, but suggested they could take place after the Hajj pilgrimage in two weeks.

A spokeswoman for Mr Allawi’s Iraqiyya faction welcomed the Saudi monarch’s initiative.

Maysoon al-Damluji said the proposal could help prevent “Iraq’s security situation from deteriorating”.

She said that Iraqiyya hoped that Iraq’s important neighbours – such as Iran and Turkey – would also be invited to the talks.

Mr Maliki’s State of Law bloc has so far made no public comment on the Saudi proposal.

Mr Allawi has been under mounting pressure to join a government led by Mr Maliki, but now that pressure is likely to be eased as the focus turns to Saudi Arabia in mid-November, the BBC’s Jim Muir in Baghdad reports.

One senior independent Kurdish politician, Mahmoud Osman, said the Saudi move was badly timed, unhelpful and would complicate the situation.

Analysts say that Saudi Arabia – like a number of other Sunni Muslim countries – is worried by the prospect of an Iraqi government dominated by the majority Shia and sympathetic to Iran.

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* Al-Iraqiyya (Iraqi National Movement): Nationalist bloc led by former PM Iyad Allawi, a secular Shia. Includes Vice-President Tariq al-Hashemi, a Sunni Arab, and senior Sunni politician Saleh al-Mutlaq
* State of Law: Led by Prime Minister Nouri Maliki and his Shia Islamist Daawa Party, the alliance purportedly cuts across religious and tribal lines. Includes some Sunni tribal leaders, Shia Kurds, Christians and independents
* Iraqi National Alliance (INA): Shia-led bloc includes followers of the radical cleric, Muqtada al-Sadr, the Supreme Iraqi Islamic Council (SIIC), and the Fadhilah Party, along with ex-PM Ibrahim Jaafari and Ahmad Chalabi
* Kurdistan Alliance: Coalition dominated by the two parties administering Iraq’s semi-autonomous Kurdish region – the Kurdistan Democratic Party (KDP) and Patriotic Union of Kurdistan (PUK), led by President Jalal Talabani

Strip Club Foreplay

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For most men, a trip to the strip club means hiding the credit card receipt and coming up with an alibi. But for a few lucky bastards out there, a night at the club means several hours of foreplay with their wife—without having to do any of the work. As women’s sexual appetites become more like their male counterparts’, more and more women can be found enjoying the same naughty pastimes once reserved for the boys. That means if he’s willing to share, and she’s willing to try, a couple can discover a whole new way to spice up their sex life.

If flinging dollar bills at a stage together sounds like your kind of night, here are four simple tips for getting the most out of your money:

Start your engines. Experienced couples know that foreplay starts even before you get to the club. “We don’t do it often, but once we do decide to go to a strip club, I immediately start getting excited for what happens when we get home,” says Cara, 26, who was pleasantly surprised by the outcome of her first visit to a strip club with her husband Mark*, 30, who was her boyfriend at the time. “How can you not have hot sex after a night of watching [that]?” Make the most of this pre-club foreplay by grabbing some drinks first and flirting across the table.

Check your jealousy at the door. There are two kinds of jealousy: the kind that destroys relationships and the kind that keeps things hot. If either one of you subscribe to the first one, don’t even bother entertaining this idea; that kind of jealousy stems from a lack of trust—and a room full of naked girls is not the place to be working out these types of issues. The second kind of jealousy, however, isn’t necessarily all bad and can even work in your favor. This is the type of jealousy that reminds you how sexy your partner still is, even when it sends a little pang to your chest to see another person flirt with your spouse. “Part of the reason I like going to strip clubs is because it makes [Cara] a little jealous,” says Mark. “She always gets more lovey-dovey because she wants to one-up them.”

“I admit I get a little hot when I see another girl dance for him,” says Cara. “But I remember one time watching a girl lead him to the VIP area and I got so jealous. I was actually mad at him. I had to talk myself down and remind myself that it was my idea to go there.”

Mind your manners. It goes without saying that this type of activity demands no boundaries are crossed. It’s a good idea to discuss what’s allowed and not allowed before you even get there. Are lap dances okay or strictly table dances? Is touching allowed or do hands stay at your side? And, as is often the case, minds may change. It’s very likely that what was deemed okay outside the club is suddenly inappropriate inside. Pay attention to any clues that your spouse is uncomfortable and immediately stop. If your wife said it was okay to get a lap dance but now looks like she’s about to cry, let the stripper finish (lest you insult her) and ask your wife if she wants to leave. “I always make sure [my wife] knows how much more beautiful she is than the strippers. It makes her feel more attractive when I tell her they don’t hold a candle to her.”

Turn fantasy into reality. For most men, the real turn on of going to a strip club has nothing to do with them and everything to do with their wife. “It’s so incredibly sexy to watch her face as she’s getting a lap dance,” says Mark about Cara. “I’ve even paid a stripper $20 once to have Cara giver her a lap dance. When your wife turns into the stripper—that was a total fantasy of mine. It’s every guy’s dream to take the stripper home and bang her.”

Whether you’re a first-timer or a regular, going to a strip club together can be just the type of naughty (and safe) fun your relationship needs. So the next time you feel a little frisky but are too lazy to spend time on foreplay, grab a handful of dollar bills and let someone else do the work for you.

Top 10: Halloween Sex Positions

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The time has come to breathe new life into Halloween — to replace the confectionary-fueled fun you enjoyed as a kid with the pheromone-laced action you want as an adult. After all, you probably won’t be spending All Hallows’ Eve donning masks and egging cars outside the house, so shouldn’t you at least be releasing your inner demons inside the bedroom? This is something that is easily done with the help from some evil Halloween sex positions. So, while we’ll happily leave the Kama Sutra to hippies, yoga nerds and people who treat scented candles as a lifestyle, those of us more partial to dancing with devils in the pale moonlight will be generating shrieks and moans this year courtesy of the following Halloween sex positions.

No.10 – Ghost Rider

Before you start writing us letters about this one, we want to make it clear that we’re not suggesting you set your partner’s head on fire while she’s faced the other way in doggy style — that would fall under a “Mike Tyson Sex Positions.” No, the Ghost Rider is much more humane, though slightly tougher on the eyes. The way it works is that when the female is riding the male, the man puts a white sheet over her head — all while resisting the overwhelming urge to cue up the Ghostbusters theme on his stereo.

No.9 – Grave Robber

The key to this Halloween sex position is finding a successful mix between the sexual thrill of robbery and the somewhat unappealing odor of putrid human innards. The way it works is that you wait for your girlfriend to fall asleep, then you ransack your laundry hamper and surround her with dirty, dank clothes to mimic the atmosphere of a grave. Once you’ve buried your corpse — er, partner — you give her the unexpected thrill of luring her back into consciousness with oral sex.

No.8 – Tail In The Crypt

Let’s face it: The first thing that comes to mind when you project sexual deviancy on a high-pitched decomposing corpse is Michael Jackson; but don’t worry, our carnal take on the famous Tales from the Crypt TV series is much more legal. In this Halloween sex position, you and your partner make your way under your bed (the “crypt”) and engage in anal sex (the “tail”) — we leave it up to you (the “crypt keeper”) to decided whether or not you’d like to annoyingly stimulate your partner with scratches to her back.

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No.7 – The Scarecrow

Aside from Michael Hutchence, a little bondage never (seriously) hurt anyone, and this sex position is no different. One partner is strapped to a cross-brace and must act as if they have no skeletal system; the other partner gets to enjoy the benefits of having someone strapped to a cross-brace in front of them. That involves groping, teasing, prodding, and just about anything else you want, just as soon as you get those cumbersome overalls unhooked. Best of all, when you are done, there’s all that straw to help clean up.

No.6 – Bobbing For Boobies

This sex position is pretty self-explanatory: Fill up a bathtub with two or more breasts, stick your hands behind your back, and bob your head in until you catch yourself an endorphin rush.

No.5 – Sleepy Bat

Courtesy of the public education system and some unpleasant personal experiences, we are extremely aware that it is unwise to put unprotected genitals anywhere near a sleeping bat — that is, unless, your partner has assumed the role of a blind, flying carnivore for the evening. In this Halloween sex position, your partner will require a stable pull-up bar or shower pole on which to hang upside down. Once she is comfortably locked in, position your mouths at each others’ genitals and engage in 69-ing until the sunlight comes up (or the blood rushing to her head causes your partner to pass out).

No.4 – Night Of The F*cking Dead

Squirming, convulsing and moaning isn’t something that only happens at Jack in the Box — case in point: “Night of the F*cking Dead.” In this ingenious brain-dead Halloween sex position, partners start off in a standard missionary position, but once the male has comfortably entered the female, that’s when things really get dumb — er, fun. Specifically, neither partner is allowed to use their arms or legs to support themselves during intercourse, leaving both sex-starved individuals to be grunting, struggling and shaking in order to get off.

No.3 – Monster Mash

Only a blindfolded eunuch could watch Godzilla movies and not get riled up by the overwhelming sexual tension between Mothra and the radioactive lizard. That’s why we’re suggesting you and your partner try out the “Monster Mash” this Halloween. The premise is simple, but potentially expensive, depending on the cost of the outfit you’re willing to invest in. Go down the costume shop, pick out costumes for you and your partner, then cut out sections around the genitals in each costume; unless you’re Paris Hilton, we assume you possess the mental powers to deduce the nasty act that should follow.

No.2 – Pumpkin Head

Jack-o’-lanterns are supposed to act as guides for lost spirits in the night. But in our twisted minds, they act as beacons for downright nasty things. While your girl is painting her face with orange and black makeup, you’ll cut a hole in a box to act as the table. Your girl will kneel down with her pumpkin-looking head poking out of the hole. You’ll stand in front of her, aim for the gaping black grin and put a candle of a different kind into the mouth of this jack-o’-lantern.

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No.1 – Witch’s Brew

Wart of mute child, eye of albino newt… unless you’re Prince or Charlie Sheen, this stuff probably doesn’t turn you on. But here for Halloween is the first-ever sexy witch’s brew. Though swingers would probably have an easier time accomplishing this one, a drunk girlfriend and the girl she kissed in college should suffice. The key to this position is all in the setup (and the alcohol): Fill a hot tub with brown food coloring, novelty eyeballs, Gothic candles, and two revved-up bisexual females. The bonus in this one is the post-witch’s brew shower, in which you’ll either get to clean your partners or sit back and watch evil take its course.

Home for the Holidays

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Now that the holidays are here, that means it’s time for the obligatory trip home to spend some quality time with the parents or in-laws. Love them or hate them, it’s always a little stressful to be under the same roof again, especially when there’s no hotel room to return to at the end of the day. Sleeping in your old bedroom has its perks though. All it takes is a little channeling of your inner high school libido.

“There’s something very naughty about having sex in [my husband’s] old bedroom,” says Mary*, 26. “For some reason it always makes me fantasize that I’m in high school again and fooling around with a boy—or teacher or camp counselor—whatever! It always makes me feel like I’m 17 again and all those tingly ways fooling around used to feel like.”

Ah, yes. Remember those tingly feelings? Back when just breathing on your neck was enough to get you excited? Having sex in your old bedroom is the perfect way to bring those old memories back—just keep from mentioning if any of them were actually created right there. No one wants to imagine all the old memories they might be rolling around in.

“Having sex in my parents’ house brings me back to my childhood, when I used to have to sneak around and [sex] was more interesting because I wanted it more and couldn’t have it,” says Andy*, 29, who recalls a few memories he made of his own in his old bedroom. “On the way to my room there was a creak in the board, so we couldn’t be too loud because we had to listen for it. Once you heard the creak you had exactly five seconds to get done—exactly five seconds to pretend you were doing something else before my mom walked in.”

The idea of getting caught may turn some people on, but for others it can put a damper on the mood. It can be hard to feel kinky when your father-in-law is drinking beer and eating deviled eggs in the room next to you. And the last thing you want is for your mother-in-law to investigate the creaking sounds coming from her son’s bedroom.

However, there’s something very thrilling about ‘secretly’ having sex in anyone’s house. Plus, it forces you to have sex in ways you probably haven’t done in years.

“Sex always feels so different when we do it at Andy’s parents’ house,” says Mary. “It really forces us to slow down and to be quiet, instead of the loud, mattress-moving sex we usually have. It almost feels like I’m sleeping with a completely different person.”

So the next time you find yourself facing a trip home for the holidays, be thankful for all the money you’ll be saving on a hotel room and for the chance to switch up your sex routine—and don’t forget to pack the lube.

Tips On Taking Sexy Pictures

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In almost every couple’s relationship, a sexy photo or two will surface at one point or another. Whether it’s innocently snapping a self-portrait of yourself giving the camera a sultry look or whipping out the camera mid-coital action, taking sexy pictures is one of the easiest and best ways to add a little heat to your relationship.

But unless you’re schooled in Porn-Star 101, actually setting up a pre-planned photo shoot can be a little intimidating. What should you wear? How should you pose? Taking sexy photos at home is a snap, as long as you keep a few simple rules in mind. Freelance photographer Ken Shames, Studio City, California, offers the following tips:

Set the Mood
There’s nothing sexy about posing naked if you’re not comfortable or in the moment; if you don’t feel sexy, your pictures won’t look sexy. Set the mood depending on what type of photos you want to take. If you’re going for an innocent, romantic feel, light some candles and play soft music. If you’re looking for something a little hotter or kinkier, put in something faster that gets your blood pumping. Of course, a cocktail or two never hurts, either!

Set the Scene
Going for a theme? Costumes are usually a good choice because they allow you to start off slowly and get used to the camera before stripping everything away. They also allow you play around a bit, leading to other things. Also, try playing around with props. You can get fancy and purchase kinky items such as whips and paddles at a porn store, or play around with stuff at home; simply straddling your kitchen chair is sexier than you think. If you really want to get into it, you can purchase a paper background from a photography store or drape fabric that’s rich in texture and color over your couch. Red and white are great colors to work with on film.

Lights
Good lighting makes all the difference in how your pictures turn out. Soft lighting is the most flattering, so try turning your camera’s flash off. Position household lights so your pictures don’t turn out too dark or start shooting before the sun goes down to take advantage of those last, dusky rays. Most professional photographers shoot their models either just after sunrise or just before sunset.

Camera
Digital cameras have tons of settings to make your pictures turn out just as good as the professionals. If you’ve never tried photography, stick to the automatic settings; but if you’re familiar with your camera, try playing with the features and manipulating settings such as F-Stops and Iso, which control your shutter speed and how much light your camera lets in.

Action
Once you get over the initial nervousness of being photographed, have fun! Be yourself, and move however you feel that makes you comfortable and makes you feel sexy. Before you begin, check out an erotic website or magazine together to get an idea of what types of poses are most flattering and sexy. This is also a great way to set the mood.

And don’t forget one very important tip: make sure your little secret stays your little secret. If you don’t want to end up like Pamela and Tommy Lee, check out privacy software such as CoupleBox (search the web to find a copy), which keeps your sexy photos and video secure from prying eyes by creating a separate place on your hard drive to store your private files; also check out Hide Photos (http://hidephotos.com). And for you iPhone users, check out the My Eyes Only app (click here), which will encrypt and password protect your mobile snaps. Also, buy a digital-photo printer to print your racy photos at home. Not only will you have fun taking pictures together, you’ll also have a collection of naughty snapshots to look at later to put yourselves in the mood.

Sexting for Adults

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Sexting has gotten a bad rap in the media lately for being harmful to teenagers, but what about adults in consenting, long-term relationships like marriage? Sexting, or sending sexually suggestive texts or phone pictures, is a playful way to heat things up in a marriage. In fact, digital foreplay is not only a turn on; it can also improve intimacy.

To help you get more textually active, we asked textperts Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of the new book, Flirtexting: How to Win Your Way to His Heart, to give you the Do’s and Don’ts of sexting your way to a hotter and more intimate relationship.

Do send him or her dirty texts when you’re feeling a little feisty; fun and playful texts when you’re thinking about your spouse throughout the day; and intimate flirtexts when you miss them.

Don’t argue or express deep emotions over text; it’s inconsiderate to your partner (e.g., “Are your cheating on me?,” “I can’t stand your parents,” “I want another baby”).

Do use picture texts in a clever and creative way (e.g. snap a picture of your lips and write “they miss you”).

Don’t be afraid to be racy. Being in a married relationship allows you the luxury to be more explorative and risqué with your flirtexts. You can use sexting to reveal fantasies and sexy thoughts to him/her while you’re at work or even across the dinner table.

Do use inside jokes or words that only the two of you are in on. For instance, say you were watching the movie Juno last night and started fooling around five minutes into it. If you’re feeling frisky today, text “Juno again tonight? I thoroughly enjoyed it last night.” This ups the intimacy factor when you can’t be physically close together at that moment.

Do’s and don’ts aside, sexting is a lighthearted way for two adults in love to stay connected and get a little frisky at the same time. Whether it’s saucy or sweet, sending a sexually charged text or picture messages can add a little spice to any marriage. So have fun, be creative and above all, always sext responsibly icon wink Sexting for Adults

Pillow Talk

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It is a documented fact that couples who talk in bed have happier relationships. Pillow talk is a special time when you are lying down with the person you love in the intimate setting of your bed. Pillow talk may be before or after making love, or it doesn’t have to involve sex at all — that’s the beauty of it.

Pillow talk is special to women because of the physical closeness and the words whispered. Women like pillow talk as much as any man because sharing intimacy and being close emotionally and physically to someone feels good. It always helps to have your ego stroked by someone who loves you and wants to be with you.

Read on to master the ins and outs of pillow talk.

What she wants to hear
Obviously this varies considerably from woman to woman, but overall she just wants your time and attention in a private environment. She wants you to tell her that she’s beautiful, that she is clever, that she is funny, that she is a wonderful partner, or whatever it is that you think and feel.

Surveys on pillow talk reveal that people like hearing their own name because it increases rapport and intimacy. Recall how in everyday life when someone says your name, you instantly feel more noticed, useful or special.

What she doesn’t want to hear
Whatever you do, don’t use this opportunity to say anything negative. Sharing the moment positively will always ensure that this time is special for you both. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Bedtime is for loving, relaxing and sleeping — rejuvenating from your everyday lives. It is not a time for arguing or picking faults in your mate.

Don’t use pillow talk time to bring up issues in your relationship or to discuss chores, work, family or friends; keep it as “us” time.

What she wants to talk about
Intimate performance review
This topic is reasonably easy — there must be something she does very well that you love, so tell her. Being appreciated feels good to everyone. Start off with something like, “It feels really good when you…”

Tomorrow’s plan
Keep your plans romantic. The meals you may share, the time you will spend together, the sex you may have — these are good topics because they are based on an expectation of the next day. Do not discuss household chores (unless you plan on making them romantic or sexy), work or other people.

Pillow talk doesn’t have to drag through the night…

Distant future planning
A holiday you are planning, a trip away, a weekend at home — discuss whatever it is you are doing together in the future that will be enjoyable, in a romantic way of course. Dreaming about the future may include future sex, food, adventures or even having your own family. Don’t discuss controversial topics. This type of conversation is great because it is based on fantasy; the trip, sex or good-looking kids who excel at everything may be a long way off, but talking about the future connects you together.

How long she wants to talk for
Obviously, it is not convenient to have pillow talk every time you are in bed. There are a billion other things that always need doing — like sleeping, having sex, eating, and working — that spending the time being intimate is often left out. Sex is still on the agenda, but pillow talk is not about sex, it’s about love. If you find yourself lacking time but still want to get the brownie points for making the effort, think a little bit more about quality and not quantity.

You need to be present, and I don’t just mean be there in bed next to her. I mean, you have to be present emotionally. If you are not really there — thinking about the sandwich or a football game that you are missing — she will know. Choose your time carefully, and you will find it easy to fulfill both of your emotional pillow talk desires without causing conflict.

Pillow talk does not have to take a long time. In fact, it might be as little as a couple of minutes spent reliving a past memory you have together and how wonderful it was, daydreaming about your next adventure, or simply giving her a nice compliment. She will go to sleep with a smile on her face. Remember: You reap the benefits in numerous ways when you have a cheerful lover.

Goodnight and good luck
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Yemen cargo plane carried explosives, Dubai police say

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A US-bound parcel intercepted in Dubai contained explosives and bore al-Qaeda hallmarks, Dubai police said.

The parcel contained pentaerythritol trinitrate (PETN) – the same explosive used in a failed plot to bomb a plane to Detroit in December 2009.

On Friday, security officials in the UK and Dubai intercepted two packages from Yemen on US-bound cargo planes.

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Intelligence agencies believe the packages are linked to Al-Qaeda in the Arabian Peninsula, based in Yemen.

The two suspect packages – described by President Barack Obama as “a credible terrorist threat” – were addressed to synagogues in the Chicago area.

The packages were found on UPS and FedEx cargo planes, triggering alerts in the US, UK and Middle East. Other planes at US airports were checked because they were thought to contain items from Yemen.

US ‘remains vigilant’

What is PETN?

* Powerful plastic explosive, a key component of Semtex
* Colourless and difficult to detect
* Used in several attacks linked to al-Qaeda, including:
* December 2001: “shoe bomber” Richard Reid tries to blow up a Miami-bound plane
* August 2009: assassination attempt against Saudi Prince Mohammed bin Nayef
* December 2009: Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab arrested on suspicion of trying to blow up plane to Detroit with PETN in his underpants

* Q&A: Cargo plane bomb plot

UK Home Secretary Theresa May said experts were trying to establish whether the package found in Britain was “a viable explosive device”.

Mr Obama’s top counter-terrorism adviser, John Brennan, said: “The United States is not assuming that the attacks were disrupted and is remaining vigilant.”

Witnesses in the Yemeni capital Sanaa say a security crackdown has begun there, reports BBC Middle East correspondent Jon Leyne in Cairo.

Security forces are searching vehicles and carrying out identity checks, he says.
Saudi tip-off

Speaking at a White House press conference late on Friday, President Obama said: “Although we are still pursuing all the facts, we do know that the packages originated in Yemen.

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Barack Obama: “Counter-terrorism professionals are taking this threat very seriously”

“We also know that al-Qaeda in the Arabian Peninsula – a terrorist group based in Yemen – continues to plan attacks against our homeland, our citizens and our friends and allies.”

He stressed that new aviation security measures were being taken in light of the alert by the Department of Homeland Security, “including additional screening”.

The White House later said Saudi Arabia had provided information that helped identify the threat.

The UK’s Daily Telegraph reported that an MI6 officer responsible for Yemen had received a tip-off.

FedEx and UPS suspended all their shipments out of Yemen, saying they would fully co-operate with investigators.

Speaking in London early on Saturday, Mrs May said that “at this stage, I can say that the device [found in Britain] did contain explosive material”.

“The forensic work continues,” she said, adding that the British government’s emergency committee, known as Cobra, had met on Friday and would hold another meeting later on Saturday.

“We are reviewing the security measures for air freight from Yemen and are in discussion with industry contacts,” she said.

US security services remain on a high level of vigilance in the wake of the attempted Times Square bombing in New York in May and the attempted Christmas Day attack.

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• Early hours of Friday morning: alert raised at East Midlands airport after suspect package found on UPS plane. Security cordon put in place, then lifted.

• 0900: suspect package found on FedEx plane in Dubai.

• 1300: security cordon reinstated at East Midlands airport, apparently after a second suspect device is found.

• 1700: FBI says two suspect packages were addressed to religious buildings in Chicago.

• 1835: Emirates Flight 201 from Yemen via Dubai lands at JFK airport, New York, escorted by US fighter jets. The plane is carrying a package from Yemen.

• 1845: FedEx in Dubai confirms it has confiscated a suspect package sent from Yemen and is suspending all shipments from Dubai.

• 1900: two other FedEx flights investigated after landing at Newark, New Jersey, and Philadelphia. Both receive the all-clear.

• 2330: BA flight from London to New York (JFK) met by US officials as a “precautionary measure”.