We are updating on Page Twelve models this week but for the Sunday Eye Candy – we have scanned the world just for a few moments just to say – Damn!!!! Enjoy
We are updating on Page Twelve models this week but for the Sunday Eye Candy – we have scanned the world just for a few moments just to say – Damn!!!! Enjoy
How will I know if he really loves me? I say a prayer with every heartbeat. I fall in love whenever we meet. I’m asking you what you know about these things?
I laughed when I read this question and couldn’t pass up providing an answer to it. Here’s how you will know if he really loves you:
* If he is thinking about you, he will let you know.
* If he wants to talk to you, he will call.
* If he wants to hangout with you, he will make plans.
* If he wants to kiss you, he will kiss you.
* If he wants to cuddle with you, he will pull you into his arms.
* If he wants a commitment, he will ask for a commitment.
* If he wants to get to know your friends, he will get to know your friends.
* If he wants to meet your parents, he will make time to meet your parents.
* If he wants a future with you, he will talk about having a future with you.
Men are very easy to read. The problem often lies in the hands of the woman reading a man’s signals because women tend to only hear what they want to hear. Women also tend to take clear signals from men and change their meaning to something that they want it to mean. For example, he hasn’t called for three days. She makes up several excuses in her head on how he could be “too busy” to talk. In reality though, he would make a minute or two to call or text her if he wanted to.
Women need to stop making excuses for the men they like. They rely too much on false hope and waste their time on men who don’t feel for them in the same way. They fall for a man and quickly become at his beck and call. Most men are fine with keeping these women around for the “convenience factor.” If he doesn’t have any other options at the time, she will do. If a man can’t go out for a steak, he will settle for ordering in a hamburger. He may not be able to satisfy his craving for steak, but he can fulfill his hunger with a hamburger. A woman shouldn’t settle for being the hamburger! She should go out and find a man who considers her steak.
If a man is into a woman, he will let her know. He will climb mountains for her and make her his number one. He will not hesitate letting her know how he feels. Her happiness will become a key factor in his own happiness. Men don’t fall in love as often as women do, but when they do fall, they fall hard. If he is into you, you will know.
Yes, it’s that time once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to AskMen.com readers.
This week’s Q&A focuses on why giving her the upper hand is never a good thing and how sometimes good food isn’t enough to make her see the romantic light. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
Well, here’s what happened: I had a lady friend of mine over to the house the other night. We have been friends for a little while now and I have tried in the past to pursue this woman; but, like a lot of males in the world, I would always turn into a Wussy on her. This women is about 5-foot-nothing, with a beautiful mind and a beautiful body (she’s an 8 or 9 on my scale, and I’m picky). We haven’t talked in a while, so we caught up on each others’ lives, had some laughs with the Cocky & Funny attitude, and I even fixed dinner! Well, I told her before I made dinner that when we finished eating she owed me a 30-minute massage. She said OK. Now, we get done eating and she tells me to dim the lights and lie down. She tells me she is going to wash her hands, and never comes back. She left! What happened?!
JF, from Texas
david d. responds
You went and watched a chick flick all by yourself?
You cried yourself to sleep?
It’s probably horrible that I’m laughing at your misery, but hey, these things happen.
Don’t worry about it, man.
Next time, try making something other than Hamburger Helper with rainbow Popsicles for dessert.
I think you’re gonna live.
The problem is that you acted like a Wussy for so long that the thought of you being anything more than a friend made her run all the way home.
You created your own problem by trying to make a girl who was convinced that you were a Wuss into something more than a friend. It’s not easy.
Let’s cut to the chase. Two things (first, the success story): I met this chick who was getting off work. I yelled out “Hey!” She came over to me. I started talking about anything and everything to get keep her attention — busting on her and all. She gave me her number after 20 minutes. But I didn’t call. Then, I ran into her again in the neighborhood, but this time I did the same thing plus asked her: “What’s your number again?” And then finally I wrote it down and scored on the second meeting after coffee. The stuff works, bro.
Now for the Wuss part: I met this chick last summer. She was in town for her job assignment that lasted for one month. She’s a real player. We met again after the party (she called me and said: “Hey, I’m coming over”) and within 30 minutes she was in my bed in her bra and panties. But I didn’t do anything cause she was complaining about how guys are such dogs. So, I didn’t do anything for the next five meetings. She said: “I’m glad you never did anything cause we still wouldn’t be talking if you did.” Anyway, last time we met she invites me and four other guys for dinner. She sits on their laps (just like she did with me) to make me jealous.
We have kept in touch for five months, and next month she’ll be back for a two-week visit. I have heard she’s talking to five other guys in town besides me. Whenever I confront her on the phone about these guys she says: “No! I’m not! And I’ve never slept with any of them, so ignore the rumors! Who do you believe, them or me?” She called me a month ago and let my phone ring once, and then when I called her back it was a guy’s voice (she moved in with her “friend” from high school).
This question’s not done yet, and we have David D.’s response coming up next…
My question is: I told her how I felt about her and she already said she just wants to be friends because she travels around a lot. She’ll be staying with one or two of these guys she’s talking to when she comes back, and she will try to make me so jealous — I know it. She called me last week and actually asked me for one of these guys’ numbers. I got angry and hung up on her (something I would never have done before), and then she called me back and actually seemed a lot more interested. Then I called her yesterday from work and told her that a stripper approached me at a bar and asked me out, and then this girl said: “Oh, well, why don’t you go out with her then?” But then she said: “Oh, by the way, I’m coming back on April 21.” I want to beat her at her own damn game! But I already gave her so much power. I wish I could just take it all back and make her feel the same way.
How do I handle this girl? She’s driving me nuts!
david d. responds
Wow, this is actually a very powerful story.
First, she intimidated you by telling you that “guys are dogs,” which caused you to not try to take things to a physical level.
When you did that, you failed the first test.
She intimidated you with her words!
Then, the more you pursued her without progressing, the more she tested you until she finally started insulting you right in front of a bunch of other guys!
By the way, when you mentioned that after you hung up on her she seemed a lot more interested — it’s probably true.
Look, man: Bail! Drop it. Hit the road.
You screwed up in the beginning by handing over the control of the relationship to her, and it’s not worth the trouble or hassle to try to take it back.
She’s probably the type of girl who loves to play guys and make them chase her, and who enjoys seeing how much a guy will do to get her — only to leave after he does all he can.
But remember the lesson. Steer clear of women like this in the future.
This article is sponsored in part by DoubleYourDating.com
Call it the Letterman Effect … here, Marie Claire explores the darker side of having an affair with the guy in the corner office.
It’s not unusual for an ambitious young attorney to curry favor with her law firm’s higher-ups by fetching them coffee and plying them with office gossip over happy-hour cocktails. But when Lisa Scarso, a tall, coltish 29-year-old lawyer for a scrappy Bay Area public interest firm, invited her supervising attorney to lunch, she wasn’t trying to get in good with the boss — she was trying to bed him. “He had these beautiful eyes” — one bluish-green, the other brown — “and that was kind of it for me,” she recalls.
Their flirt-filled lunch was soon followed by another, and while walking the long way back to the office, they ducked into a Laundromat, where Scarso hopped up on a dryer to make her case, eye to eye. Her boss was decidedly skittish. Though he was single and only five years older than Scarso, an office romance with an underling was considered taboo by the senior partners — never mind that it would obliterate his credibility with his other charges. Over dinner later that week — “I remember talking him into it,” Scarso laughs — he relented, and the pair began to discreetly see each other. For fun, she’d slip into his office, sit on his lap, unbutton her shirt, and put his face between her breasts. All the while, she insists, her colleagues suspected nothing.
As attracted as she was to him, Scarso concedes that the subterfuge, coupled with the sheer ballsiness of their affair, was a major turn-on. “I never felt that there was a power disparity. If anything, I felt more powerful, if only because very often I was the initiator,” says Scarso, who eventually left the firm for unrelated reasons. Only then did she make public her relationship with the attorney, whom she ultimately stayed with for five years before they amicably parted ways. Besides, she adds, for a young, attractive woman pulling 12-hour days in the office, the relationship was exceedingly practical. “People sleep with who they have access to. You become attracted to who you see on a daily basis.”
True enough, sex in the workplace is rampant. According to a recent survey by careerbuilder.com, more than 40 percent of workers admit to dating someone at work over the course of their careers. Of those who romanced a colleague in the last year, 34 percent said it was with someone in a higher position at the company, typically their boss. (More often than not, it’s women hooking up with a male supervisor — 47 percent versus just 38 percent of men.) The workplace has become a sexually charged arena, populated by neatly pressed cadres of driven men and women putting in long hours side by side, often under intense circumstances. They work together, eat together, and, of course, drink together, capping off a grueling day with a few highballs at the nearest watering hole. Is it any wonder this alchemy of ambition, angst, and alcohol produces so much sexual tension, whether it’s on a Hollywood soundstage or in a mahogany-paneled executive boardroom?
There’s just something about working together on a big project one-on-one that forges intimacy. Watercooler liaisons are so common that they’ve spawned a lengthy and impressive list of power couples: Barack and Michelle Obama, Bill and Melinda Gates, Chelsea Handler and Comcast chief exec (and E! Entertainment overseer) Ted Harbert — they all fell in love on the job and, more importantly, one held a clear position of power over the other. (Full disclosure: I met my husband — who was my boss — while covering the collapse of the Soviet Union for a British TV network. He hit on me, I demurred, we ended up marrying and having two kids together.)
Yet despite the countless examples of illustrious couples who have made it work, shagging the boss remains for many employers a serious career taboo, on par with fudging a résumé or posting pics of your Girls Gone Wild Cabo vacation on Facebook — wildly inappropriate at best, a fireable offense at worst. Workplace romances are so fraught with potential problems that 12 percent of American companies have explicit policies regulating them, according to the American Management Association. That’s largely to avoid exposure to sexual harassment lawsuits. But there are subtle, less calculable dangers a company courts when a manager gets involved with his subordinate: Nasty rumors begin to circulate; workers spend less time working and more time gossiping; morale invariably suffers.
Case in point: In the wake of the David Letterman scandal, former Late Night scribe Nell Scovell, writing for vanityfair.com, conceded that while she’d never been the target of her boss’s advances, Letterman’s notorious on-the-clock hanky-panky nonetheless created a generally “hostile” work environment that favored some women over others. This in a workplace where female writers were as scarce as 9/11 punch lines. (Scovell, who wrote for Late Night in the early ’80s, points out that in 27 years, Late Night and its successor, the Late Show, hired only seven female writers.) And one need only look at the eye-popping list of perks Letterman’s latest paramour, Stephanie Birkitt, an assistant nearly 30 years his junior, reportedly scored to understand what kind of insidious favoritism Scovell is talking about: Birkitt earned an astonishing $200,000 a year, appeared on-air several times (even she looked embarrassed to be there), and reportedly enjoyed vacations with the Letterman clan. A tacit quid pro quo existed for women who had sex with high-level Late Show staffers. “Did that make me feel demeaned? Completely,” says Scovell, who writes that sexual politics ultimately drove her to find another job. (She went on to write for Coach and Murphy Brown.)
Scovell’s assessment of the Late Night milieu during her tenure there reveals another dirty little secret about office romances: They are rarely ever secret. When then-20-something British newspaper editor Danielle Janson was introduced to her boss, a married man with kids, the mutual attraction was palpable. “It was one of those things that just seemed inevitable,” she recalls now, some 20 years later. The grinding deadlines and late nights fueled the relationship, which quickly became intimate. “I was just at the beginning of my career, and it was all so exciting,” Janson says. Both went to great lengths to maintain discretion, always careful never to leave the office at the same time. Yet both were oblivious to the fact that their newsroom cronies were in on the secret — they intuited it — and routinely placed bets on how long it would take for the other to leave once one had packed up for the night. At the time, Janson says she didn’t think the affair had any negative impact on her standing in the office. But years later, it still comes up in conversation with former colleagues. “Looking back, I suppose some people in the office took me less seriously because of it,” she concedes.
At the time, Janson was in her 20s and five years younger than her lover. That’s worth noting because, let’s face it, it’s usually the young ones who are especially receptive to the charms of a powerful boss and who often underestimate the professional and emotional fallout when these hush-hush romances go south. Jessica Wakeman, a 25-year-old Manhattan-based blogger, says that while she interned at a prominent magazine, she struck up a friendship with one of its editors. For over a year, she was his special project. He pored over her writing, spent precious time giving her detailed feedback. “When you’re young, you don’t know that many successful people in your field, so when someone older starts paying attention to you, it makes you feel special,” Wakeman says. She knew he liked her, and she enjoyed the bragging rights. “It felt great to name-drop with my friends that I was hanging out with this editor at a big magazine.” One night, after her internship had ended, he invited her over to watch movies. By the end of the night, they were in bed. Pretty soon, she was smitten and regularly sleeping at his place.
When she scored a full-time gig working in a different department at the magazine, Wakeman says she was ecstatic. But her mentor-turned-lover chafed at the idea. Usually warm and friendly, he barely acknowledged her presence during the day. When she confessed that she was in love with him, he promptly broke things off. Wakeman was devastated. “I thought I was adult enough to handle it, but all he saw in me was a younger woman who graduated from NYU a year earlier,” she says. “If I was delusional about anything, it was that we were peers.” Wakeman took a job at another publication a short time later.
Did her editor take advantage of Wakeman’s naïveté? Perhaps, but officially it doesn’t count as sexual harassment. Current law bans sex-for-favors and behavior that creates an “intimidating” workplace. (In other words, you can’t promise your assistant a raise for a little boardroom nookie or plaster your cube walls with naked pictures of Robert Pattinson.) But the law is decidedly murky when it comes to likelier scenarios these days, like the fresh-out-of-college office naïf who welcomes the advances of an older, on-the-make boss.
Take 23-year-old Ava Smith, who began working at a small New York nonprofit shortly after graduation. At first, she was grateful for the attention lavished upon her by her boss. Though he was 20 years older, they clicked instantly. Smith wasn’t troubled by his frequent invitations to grab beers after work, nor was she suspicious when he invited her out for the occasional dinner. It was on one of these outings that he confessed to being infatuated with her. “I guess I was flattered,” she recalls. “But I was also really scared because I didn’t know how to respond.” Though she had reservations, she nonetheless went along with an affair. He was a big shot at work, smart and worldly, and he was interested in her.
But things quickly got weird. Soon, he was furtively grabbing her ass in the office. Sometimes he’d pull her into the back room and coax her into having sex with him. Then he began taking her to hotels in the middle of the day. She knew their relationship had become unhealthy — a distraction for her, a near-obsession for him — but says she didn’t want to compromise her job by putting an end to things. “I just felt that I couldn’t get out of it because he was my boss. He was like a puppeteer and I was the puppet, and he was just pulling the strings. I felt like I didn’t have a say in anything,” Smith says. Beset by anxiety, she began seeing a therapist who helped her realize she was being sexually harassed. Though she never filed a complaint, she left the job soon after and now works at a different nonprofit.
Still, despite the outcome — her former boss still texts and e-mails her — Smith accepts some responsibility for the role she played in the relationship. She relished the attention and enjoyed an “adrenaline rush” from their secret outings, she admits. “I’m not going to act like I was a helpless victim, although a part of me thinks I was,” she explains, then pauses for a bit. “It didn’t hurt me professionally. But I guess I was lucky.”
NEW: House Minority Leader John Boehner says the day “went very well”
President Obama says stimulus plan saved jobs in GOP districts
Obama says some Republicans acted as if health care plan was “some Bolshevik plot”
Obama says Democrats, Republicans both are to blame for “sour climate” on Capitol Hill
Baltimore, Maryland (CNN) — President Obama and House GOP leaders promised greater efforts to step back from the partisan brink Friday, acknowledging that Washington’s toxic political climate has made it increasingly tough to tackle major problems.
The pledge was immediately called into question, however, as the two parties repeatedly expressed sharply differing viewpoints during a rare meeting at a House Republican retreat in Baltimore.
Obama accepted an invitation from House GOP leaders to address their caucus. His speech Friday was followed by an often pointed question-and-answer session.
“House Republican leaders are grateful for [Obama's] willingness to come … and have a frank and honest conversation,” said Rep. Mike Pence, R-Indiana. “We welcome the dialogue with the president.”
Video: President reaches out to Republicans
Video: New package of tax credits
Health Care Reform
The president accused Republicans of frequently mischaracterizing his policy proposals, particularly in the health care debate.
Republicans, in turn, complained the White House and congressional Democrats had ignored their ideas, locked them out of the policy-making process and unfairly labeled them as obstructionists.
“Both sides can take some blame for a sour climate on Capitol Hill,” Obama said, adding that Democrats and Republicans need to be careful in choosing their rhetoric. “A ton of civility instead of slash and burn would be helpful.”
The president highlighted what he said was problematic GOP rhetoric on his health care proposals. Republicans, he said, had characterized the proposed program as some “kind of Bolshevik plot.”
In fact, he said that much of his plan was similar to what Republicans had proposed during the failed Clinton-era push to overhaul health care.
Both sides need to “close the gap a little bit between rhetoric and reality,” the president argued. Calling his health care plan “some wild-eyed plot to impose big government in every aspect of our lives” leaves little room for bipartisan negotiation, Obama said.
The president questioned how Republicans could negotiate in good faith after using such rhetoric without exposing themselves to conservative primary challengers.
House Minority Leader John Boehner, R-Ohio, said he tried to be honest about differences over administration proposals.
“I truly believe a government takeover of health care … is the essence of their bill,” Boehner said.
Obama conceded there’s been a failure on his part to “try to foster better communications even if there’s disagreement.”
He has promised regular meetings with GOP leaders in the future. Boehner welcomed the gesture but said it is equally important for House Speaker Nancy Pelosi to give Republicans a greater role in the legislative process.
Bipartisanship “isn’t about taking one little Republican idea and throwing it in a 2,000-page bill,” he said after Obama argued that Democratic leaders had taken GOP proposals into account in the health care debate.
“If you’re really serious about building a bipartisan product … you need to do it from the beginning.”
Republicans criticized the president for failing to fulfill a promise to televise all the health care negotiations on C-SPAN. Obama called the criticism “legitimate” but noted the overwhelming majority of committee hearings on the legislation had been conducted in front of TV cameras.
After the bills had cleared the committees, however, it became a “messy process,” he conceded.
“I take responsibility for not having structured it in a way where it was all taking place in one place that could be filmed,” he said.
Obama and Republicans strongly criticized each other on a range of issues tied to taxes and spending.
GOP leaders said Obama’s $862 billion stimulus plan had been ineffective and repeatedly urged the president to consider an across-the-board tax cut.
Obama said it would be wrong to slash taxes for the richest Americans or the banking sector in a weak economy. He also argued that the stimulus program had saved key jobs in GOP districts across the country.
“There is not a single person in here who, had it not been for what was in the stimulus package, wouldn’t be going home to more teachers laid off, more firefighters laid off, more cops laid off,” he said.
“The component parts of the Recovery Act are consistent” with what many Republicans say are important, he said.
The stimulus helped in terms of “rebuilding our infrastructure, tax cuts for families and businesses, and making sure that we were providing states and individuals some support when the roof was caving in.”
The president said he agrees with the GOP emphasis on fiscal responsibility but hinted that Republicans could do more to help control spending, including curtailing legislative earmark requests for their own districts.
He also said he is willing to work with Republicans on the enactment of a line-item veto.
“There’s not a president out there that wouldn’t like that,” he said.
Despite their disagreements, both sides agreed the day’s dialogue was a step in the right direction.
“I hope that the conversation we begin here doesn’t end here, that we can continue our dialogue in the days ahead,” Obama said.
The day “went very well,” Boehner replied later. “There are issues we do agree on” and Republicans will work to find “common ground.”
We should “set aside perhaps the things that the president believes in that we philosophically don’t, but if there is some common ground we ought to go ahead forward with those,” said Rep. Eric Cantor, R-Virginia.
Friday’s meeting, he said, was “the kind of discussion, frankly, that we need to have more of.”
China has announced a series of moves against the US in retaliation for a proposed weapons sale to Taiwan worth $6.4bn (£4bn).
Beijing said it would suspend military exchanges with the US, impose sanctions on companies selling arms, and review co-operation on major issues.
Ties are already strained by rows over trade and internet censorship.
Taiwan’s president welcomed the sale, saying it would make his country “more confident and secure”.
Beijing has hundreds of missiles pointed at the island and has threatened to use force to bring it under its control if Taiwan moved towards formal independence.
Taiwan and China have been ruled by separate governments since the end of a civil war in 1949.
The BBC’s Damian Grammaticas in Beijing says China’s latest moves are what the US would have expected, as the US view is that military exchanges are of limited use.
US Taiwan arms plan announced
China’s Xinhua state news agency quoted the defence ministry as saying: “Considering the severe harm and odious effect of US arms sales to Taiwan, the Chinese side has decided to suspend planned mutual military visits.”
“We strongly demand that the US respect the Chinese side’s interests”, it added, calling for the sale to be stopped.
The foreign ministry, meanwhile, said it would impose sanctions on US companies selling weapons to Taiwan, and that co-operation on major international issues would be affected.
Our correspondent says it is not clear what impact such sanctions might have.
Xinhua also said the US defence attache had been summoned.
Defence ties between the two countries have been difficult for several years because of differences over Taiwan, but the two countries’ leaders pledged to improve them in 2009.
The moves came after Mr He said the arms deal would have “repercussions that neither side wishes to see”.
“The United States’ announcement of the planned weapons sales to Taiwan will have a seriously negative impact on many important areas of exchanges and co-operation between the two countries,” Mr He said in a statement published on the foreign ministry website.
Earlier China summoned US Ambassador Jon Huntsman to give a warning about the consequences of the deal and to urge its immediate cancellation.
Taiwan, meanwhile, welcomed the US move.
“It will let Taiwan feel more confident and secure so we can have more interactions with China,” the Central News Agency quoted President Ma Ying-jeou as saying.
The Pentagon earlier notified the US Congress of the proposed arms sale, which forms part of a package first pledged by the Bush administration.
PROPOSED ARMS SALE
114 Patriot missiles ($2.81bn)
60 Black Hawk helicopters ($3.1bn)
Communication equipment ($340m)
2 Osprey mine-hunting ships ($105m)
12 Harpoon missiles ($37m)
Source: Defense Security Co-operation Agency
Friday’s notification to Congress by the Defense Security Co-operation Agency (DSCA) was required by law. It does not mean the sale has been concluded.
US lawmakers have 30 days to comment on the proposed sale, Associated Press reported. If there are no objections, it would proceed.
The arms package includes 114 Patriot missiles, 60 Black Hawk helicopters and communications equipment for Taiwan’s F-16 fleet, the agency said in a statement.
It does not include F-16 fighter jets, which Taiwan’s military has been seeking.
Our correspondent says the deal has been in the pipeline for a long time and is nearing its conclusion, but China does want to stop it.
Beijing has previously warned the US not to go ahead with arms sales to Taiwan.
Ties between China and the US are already strained by rows over trade and internet censorship.
Ruled by separate governments since end of Chinese civil war in 1949
China considers the island part of its territory
China has offered a “one country, two systems” solution, like Hong Kong
Most people in Taiwan support status quo
Guide to Taiwan flashpoint
Last week US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton angered Beijing with a call to China to investigate cyber attacks on search giant Google, after the company said email accounts of human rights activists had been hacked.
The DSCA said the proposed sale would support Taiwan’s “continuing efforts to modernise its armed forces and enhance its defensive capability.”
It added: “The proposed sale will help improve the security of the recipient and assist in maintaining political stability, military balance, and economic progress in the region.”
The US is the leading arms supplier to Taiwan, despite switching diplomatic recognition from Taipei to Beijing in 1979.
Washington regards it as an obligation to provide Taiwan with defensive arms.
Apple hits back that Adobe is playing the ‘porn card’ out of desperation
SAN JOSE, Calif.—A minor controversy is brewing over Apple’s decision not to Flash-enable the iPad, and pornography is front and center in the hissy fit. In this instance, however, the decision by Adobe to use a porn site to help make its larger point is not altogether inappropriate, even if some are calling it desperate.
The iPad, as everyone knows, was only just released, but even before Steve Jobs hit the stage to reveal his new baby’s charms, Adobe was crying foul. Wednesday, on the company’s Flash Platform blog, Adrian Ludwig wrote a post about what not having Flash will mean for people who purchase the iPad.
“If I want to use the iPad to connect to Disney, Hulu, Miniclip, Farmville, ESPN, Kongregate, or JibJab—not to mention the millions of other sites on the web,” he wrote, “I’ll be out of luck.”
But that is not the only online content that people will not be able to receive. Thursday, Adobe’s platform evangelist Lee Brimelow posted to theflashblog.com a group of images illustrating the types of content that will not show up on the iPad. Conspicuous in the second row of screen grabs is one for noted porn producer Bang Bros, minus the goodies.
Friday, Wired’s Brian X. Chen wrote, “Though porn is certainly relevant to many people’s web experiences, that’s kind of a desperate move.” He then provided a link to a tweet by his friend, Matt Drance, Apple’s former iPhone evangelist that said, “Adobe has resorted to playing the porn card. It’s over.”
That is a slightly unfortunate comment coming from an Apple evangelist, even a former one, especially condsidering how much money the company makes from Apple fanatics in the adult entertainment industry and the equally fanatical consumers of its products. Adult content has taken to the iPhone like ducks to water; indeed, the device is pretty much responsible for revitalizing (or jump starting!) the mobile sector of the industry. And the iPad itself, Flash or no Flash, is already being touted, albeit sarcastically, as “The Latest in Porn Delivery.”
Steve Tomassetti, in an post by on TMR Zoo, said, “You can go to almost any major news site to find out what the Apple iPad can and cannot do…or still be confused as to whether it will have a camera or not. But what those sites will not answer is what everyone really wants to know: How can I view porn on the iPad?”
Tomassetti concludes that despite its apparent drawbacks—limited storage and lack of Flash—acceptable alternatives remain. “Digital Playground has already announced that they will be providing iPad-optimized streaming on all of their company-owned websites such as digitalplayground.com and jessejane.com,” he said. “Many other XXX sites provide mobile device-friendly streaming as well.”
While it is likely that Adobe sees the HTML5 writing on the wall, and may indeed be “playing the porn card” in its determination to keep its product relevant, it is also interesting, if not surprising, to see all the corporate evangelists rushing to denigrate adult entertainment when so many of their products have been so consistently supported—and improved—because of it.
Spearheaded by Brian Gray, Head of Research of Love Bytes Research, the meet up is open to all XBIZ.net members and, according to Gray, “is specifically for people involved professionally in the adult industry, in whatever capacity.”
“Hopefully there will be a wide variety of professions represented,” Gray stated. “Whilst performers may attend — and are most welcome to do so — this event is not a ‘meet and greet’ opportunity for fans to attend.”
The rationale for the get-together was simple says Gray, the man behind the idea.
“Online industry communities such as XBIZ are great for making make new industry contacts, seeking advice from their peers or exploring new business partnerships,” Gray told XBIZ. “The event enables U.K.-based executives active on XBIZ.net to do this in a lively social environment — and putting faces to the usernames!”
“Many XBiz.net members are self-employed — myself included,” Gray added. “It’s often a struggle to pry oneself away from the laptop, feeling ‘welded’ to their computers. The event offers the opportunity to get out and enjoy oneself, whilst still being able to talk shop with like-minded individuals if desired — although that’s certainly not essential.”
According to Gray, the inaugural event was conceived fairly quickly.
“There were no grand designs, or anything too elaborate planned,” Gray said. “Simply ascertaining whether the interest and enthusiasm among the community existed for a face-to-face gathering was the main thing; we quickly found out there was.”
“It felt right to capitalize on this sooner than later: getting the ball rolling and meeting up, even if numbers are relatively small to begin with,” he added. “Getting things started in the first place is the primary objective: the rest can follow, with the potential for higher attendee numbers and expanded scope.”
The event is open to all XBIZ.net members, and while Gray expects that most of the attendees will be U.K.-based, he says that there has been interest from those living abroad, who have voiced their support and interest in attending subsequent events.
But given that the first event is still a few days’ away, is it too premature to ask what the future holds for the event? To Gray it’s a simply enough question to answer.
“Without wishing to appear glib, the XBIZ.net members themselves will decide its fate,” Gray concluded. “It’s the people who make the effort to attend, discuss it on the website, and engage with each other that will ultimately determine the event’s success, and whether there’s subsequent demand for it to be repeated. The sky’s the limit — if collectively we want to go for it and can see the value from doing so.”
The event is scheduled for Tuesday, Feb. 2, from 6:30 p.m. onwards. To minimize the risk of “gate crashers,” the venue has been posted on XBIZ.net, in an effort to limit the attendees to industry professionals.
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DAVOS, Switzerland – Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates and his wife Melinda say their foundation will donate US$10 billion over the next decade to research new vaccines and bring them to the world’s poorest countries.
Bill Gates said in a statement that “we must make this the decade of vaccines.”
Speaking Friday on the sidelines of the World Economic Forum, Gates added that “innovation will make it possible to save more children than ever before.”
Khalid Sheikh Mohammed is due to be tried with four other suspects.
On Thursday Mayor Michael Bloomberg said he had asked the attorney general not to hold the trial in Manhattan, near the site of the attacks.
The mayor had strongly backed the trial but changed his mind this week citing cost and disruption.
Several other senior politicians including Governor David Paterson and both state senators have expressed opposition to or doubts about the proposal.
There are places that would be less expensive for the taxpayers and less disruptive for New York City
New York mayor
Some relatives of 9/11 victims say they oppose a federal court trial, and many Republicans in Congress favour military tribunals over civilian trials.
New York Congressman Peter King has introduced a bill to block Justice Department financing for federal court trials of Guantanamo detainees.
However, White House officials say Mr Obama remains committed to the civilian option.
Last month officials said the trial would be held at a federal court in lower Manhattan, after announcing the move in November.
Mr Bloomberg initially said it would be fitting that the suspects should face trial near the site of the World Trade Center.
But on Thursday he called Attorney General Eric Holder to ask for the trial to be moved. Several lawmakers from around the country have made similar requests.
“There are places that would be less expensive for the taxpayers and less disruptive for New York City,” he told journalists.
“For example, military bases away from central cities where it is easier to provide security at much less cost.”
However, Mr Bloomberg said that if necessary “we will do what we’re supposed to do”.
Khalid Sheikh Mohammed has been described by US investigators as “one of history’s most infamous terrorists”.
They say he has admitted being responsible “from A to Z” for the 9/11 attacks.
Believed to be the number three al-Qaeda leader, he was captured in Pakistan in March 2003.
He told a pre-trial hearing at Guantanamo in December 2008 that he wanted to plead guilty to all charges against him.
But intelligence memos released last year revealed he had been subjected to harsh interrogation techniques including water-boarding on multiple occasions since his capture – potentially rendering some evidence inadmissible.
The other four men – the two Yemenis, a Saudi and a Pakistani-born Kuwaiti who have shared hearings with Mr Mohammed at Guantanamo Bay – are also accused of helping plan and finance the attacks.