May 19, 2013

3D: The Future of Adult Entertainment?

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3D will open up new vistas, and the time to prepare for it is now

I can still remember seeing the ad in the Trenton Times: “See … The Stewardesses … IN 3D!” And somewhere down below: “Rated X.”

The year was 1969, and up to that point I had never seen a 3D movie of any kind, much less one that had in it. So that evening, I trundled off to the Lincoln Theater in Levittown, Pa., paid my admission, picked up my “special glasses” from a box by the theater entrance, and settled in for what I was sure would be the sexual experience of a lifetime.

Sadly, it wasn’t.

Yes, there was plenty of nudity, but not a lot of penetration. And what was that thing with the girl dropping acid and having sex with a lamp topped by the head of Julius Caesar?

What the movie did do, however, was spark a lifelong interest in 3D—an interest I suspect may also have been aroused in the hundred or so attendees at the Sept. 26 debut of porn’s first mass-distributed 3D movie in more than a decade, Tommy Gunn’s Cummin’ At You, which was shown on a giant-screen TV at Las Vegas’ Déjà vu Boutique.

But more on that later.

The point is, 3D is coming. It’s been around practically since cameras were invented. Throughout the 20th century it’s been tried in mass-market magazines, comic books and movies. The 1950s were the heyday of 3D cinema; now it’s back with a vengeance. And thanks to a push from some major electronics manufacturers, it’s not going away—so adult moviemakers and webmasters had better get used to it.

Or better still, they shoud try it themselves, as the folks at Pure Play Media have already done.

“In Canada, there’s a big theatrical chain called Cineplex Odeon, and in their last quarter financials, their net profit was up 10 percent—and that was directly attributed to 3D,” Pure Play CEO Richard Arnold reports. “3D brings in the crowds, and they charge a premium for the glasses. They also charge a premium [admission price] to view the 3D pictures.”

Arnold’s not the only studio head who’s taken note of the box-office promise of 3D. There are nine major-studio 3D movies scheduled for release in late 2009 and 2010, including James Cameron’s Avatar, Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland and Pixar’s Toy Story 3 in 3D.

As Arnold explains, “There’s this huge driving fiscal factor that’s positive. Everything ultimately comes down to the bottom line, and for the theaters this is a big win.”

For the adult industry, however, a big win would have to involve providing consumers with equipment to watch high-quality 3D in their own homes. But given all the current developments in the 3D field, that’s something quite likely to come about relatively soon.

In the Beginning

Also known as “stereo”—and more recently “stereoscopic 3D” (S3D), to distinguish it from three-dimensional computer design programs—3D has been around since before cameras were invented, and it really took off once they were. By the early 1900s, companies such as the Keystone View Company and Underwood & Underwood had produced more than 300,000 different “stereoviews,” and looking at stereoview cards (you’ve probably seen them at flea markets) was the main of early-20th-century America.

Stereo hit its stride in the early 1950s, when camera production boomed. The most popular camera, the Realist, was touted in ads by Hollywood celebrities such as Harold Lloyd, Joan Crawford, Fred Astaire and Doris Day. Even President Eisenhower was a 3D enthusiast.

Nowadays, it’s easy to find a Realist for about $100 at used camera shows—and no wonder: More than 400,000 were manufactured. In addition to the Realist, I’ve owned about a dozen different stereo cameras over the years, from the Nimslo, which produces “lenticular” prints that you can see in 3D without glasses, to a string of double-lensed cameras with names like Kodak, Revere, Iloca and the Stereo Vivid, with its porn-friendly moniker. At the end of it all I’ve found one that produces (IMHO) the best “stereo pairs” around, the Wollensak.

And now Fujifilm makes a digital 3D camera, but more about that later.

There are several ways stereo may be presented. Besides the “side by side” stereoview, the left and right image of the stereo pair can be tinted different colors—usually red and cyan (blue), or red and green—in a process known as “anaglyph.” These pairs are then overlaid into a single image that can be perceived as 3D by wearing red/cyan or red/green glasses.

The first polarized 3D movie, In Tune With Tomorrow, was shown at the 1939 World’s Fair. Polarization—running the left and right images through polarized filters for later “decoding” with polarized glasses—dominated mainstream through its heyday in the mid-1950s and is the primary method (known as “RealD 3D”) used in today. However, some theaters, notably Imax, use “sequential field” 3D. As left and right images are projected, special glasses darken one lens and then the other, which our brains interpret as seeing the image in depth.

Of course, sex has had its place in 3D since the beginning, with many famous early erotic photographers using the medium for 3D “French postcards.” The aforementioned The Stewardesses, presented in polarized format, was the first widely distributed 3D XXXer, and several sexy European productions followed. Then, in 1996, a new adult company, Vidmax, began offering a number of straight and gay sequential-field 3D titles such as Bedroom Cries and Boudoir Babe. Sadly, the attempt failed, in part because would-be fans couldn’t figure out how to hook up the necessary viewing equipment to their VCRs.

No Time Like the Present

But stereo returned to porn in style this September, with the release of Tommy Gunn’s Cummin’ At You in 3D, from Pure Play Media. The two-disc set includes three versions of the movie: one viewable in either sequential-field or polarized format (viewable on the proper equipment; see below), one anaglyph version (glasses included) and a 2D version. Besides being presented in 3D, the movie is also interactive, allowing the viewer to choose whether to see the action from either Gunn’s or co-star SinDee Jennings’ point of view, and at various points during play, viewers are allowed to choose which direction the sexual action will take—or they can use the “Adventure Randomizer” and let the DVD player make the choices for them.

“When I was first approached with this,” Pure Play’s Arnold recounts, “I said, ‘Forget it. Don’t even waste your time’—until I started looking into it, and looking into what is going to drive this market, and there are massive positive things. Right now, it’s the theater that’s going to drive the market.”

Arnold’s assessment was certainly correct. Most of the 19 movies in 3D released by Hollywood over the last two years have won their opening weekends for highest box office revenues, and each has continued to do well in the weeks following, even when up against 2D openings with major star power.

And that’s not all. Plans are also under way to convert several past box office successes to 3D for theatrical re-release—but the task isn’t easy.

“It’s too costly right now, but they’ve been doing it,” says owner Joone, who’s been looking into the possibility of his company releasing hardcore 3D. “Disney did it with Toy Story and Nightmare Before Christmas. I know George Lucas is doing it with all the Star Wars movies, and Cameron is putting Titanic out in 3D, but it’s costing about $15 million per movie to turn it into 3D. It’s a very labor-intensive, frame-by-frame task; you basically are separating every frame [element] from its background; you’re making all those decisions of what [people and objects] will go in front, middle and back of the screen, so it’s not a cheap thing to do. But they can do it because they have the theaters.”

Vivid Entertainment Group’s Steve Hirsch says his company is currently working with a developer who plans to market a TV with a lenticular screen that would allow 3D viewing without the need for special glasses. Hirsch feels that glasses are “awkward to wear while having sex”—several masturbators of our acquaintance would disagree—and could not easily be distributed with standard DVD packaging. (Several lenticular-screened TVs were on display at the 2009 Consumer Electronics Show.) But Hirsch also feels that as more comfortable glasses are developed and become commonplace in homes, this will open up more opportunities for the industry.
And Hirsch isn’t the only porn bigwig considering stereo.

“We are actually in negotiations with someone right now to work out a 3D system we can be happy with,” Wicked Pictures VP Joy King says. “I don’t know if or when it’s ever going to happen, but I know we are talking.”

3D’s Biggest Selling Point

Another reason mainstream producers are willing to go to the extra expense of either making original 3D productions or revamping older films to 3D is piracy: As things currently stand, it’s impossible to pirate a 3D theatrical production.

“If I were a theater owner and I saw someone trying to enter my theater with a mini-DV camera, I’d just say, ‘Come on in!’” one knowledgeable mainstream director says. “They could point that camera at my [3D] screen all day long and not come out with anything usable, thanks to the polarization. It would come out looking like garbage.”

Indeed, one primary consideration in attempting to arrive at a universal standard for home 3D viewing is whether the discs can be programmed in such a way as to prevent illegal copying.

Three Words: Content, Content, Content

But is it too soon to prepare for the coming 3D world?

“We’ve been playing around with 3D, and we shot some stuff on 3D, but the biggest problem with 3D right now for is delivery,” Digital Playground’s Joone notes. “Right now, there’s so many different formats and so many different wars as far as which format is going to win, that I don’t foresee this thing clearing out for at least the next five years. The thing is, there’s not even a standard yet on Blu-ray of how they’re going to do this.”

Not everyone is quite so pessimistic, however.

“From research and articles that I’ve looked at from different companies that have expressed interest in the 3D home-viewing experience, the way I understand it, their target would be sometime in the spring of 2010—the April or May time frame,” predicts Jake Westwood, a mainstream producer who recently shot his first hardcore 3D movie. “These major studios have all these blockbusters they’ve done and are doing in 3D, and it makes sense to me that they would package these films with their home systems to market and sell, to get the people away from the standard LCD screen into a 3D-capable screen for the home. And from what I’m hearing from people who work in the electronics end of the business, the prices are not going to be significantly more.”

The greatest problem facing adult producers who wish to enter the 3D market will be obtaining the necessary hardware. Vidmax’s 3D efforts were shot with the only mass-produced 3D camcorder to be made available to consumers: the much-coveted Toshiba SK-3D7K, produced in the mid-’90s, pre-owned units of which have sold for as much as $5,000 on eBay. Chances are, adult producers will have to build (or have built for them) their own dual-camera rig.

“It took about nine months to do the R&D and get our rig all developed properly,” Westwood says. “We used paired Sony HD video cameras and streamed directly off the Sony CMOS chip to a hard drive, for a 1920p by 1080p uncompressed HD image. We used some custom engineering to completely bypass the compression that they typically use to cram high-definition images onto disks or tape, and that allowed us to maximize the chips that we were using for the shoot.”

Part of the problem is that video cameras, even small ones, are still relatively large for 3D work. Stereopsis—the ability of brain to perceive depth—requires two images that resemble each other closely enough to allow the brain to interpret what the eyes see into a single 3D image rather than simply a pair of flat images. It’s the apparent difference between looking at a photograph and looking through a window at the people and landscape beyond. Generally, this means images are taken by twin lenses just 65 millimeters apart—the distance between the average adult’s eyes. A smaller “interocular” distance would prevent the images from fusing properly, while a much greater distance would cause a loss of 3D effect.

Setting the proper interocular distance also depends on the size of the image you’re trying to capture. A 3D image of a single flower may require photos or video taken just one inch apart, while a stereo view of the Grand Canyon would require cameras set 10 feet apart or greater.

“We had to build a custom system,” explains Wade Everwood, who designed the camera system used to shoot PurePlay’s Cummin’ At You. “The problem is, to get POV, you need a very short interocular, and typically, large beamsplitter rigs are used to bring the interocular down because the cameras themselves are too large to put them side by side. The problem with beamsplitters is, they’re gigantic—big pieces of glass—and Tommy couldn’t hold onto that. So we created something we’re not ready to show off yet; it was really very prototype, but the experiment worked, and as far as we know, we’re the first ones out with a POV 3D camera that’s light enough for the male performer to hold while he’s doing everything else.”

But it’s not enough just to have the lenses the proper distance from each other; they also have to be using the same focal length and the same magnification, although to some extent, problems with either can be fixed in post-production. The object, of course, is to avoid giving viewers headaches.

“The biggest tip I can give to anyone thinking of venturing into stereo is that to make it look good, it is a post-production process,” Westwood states. “People don’t understand that; they just think you put two cameras together and you make a movie. To make the experience enjoyable, it’s very important not to neglect the post-production process; that’s where the most time is going to be spent, just working with the images to create your stereo. Because when you use two separate entities [cameras], it takes a lot of massaging and a lot of time to make those decisions. And that’s what it is—decisions.”

Of course, pre-production isn’t a walk in the park either.

“When you have two cameras, it’s double the headaches,” Westwood explains. “I can’t stress pre-production enough—working with your production designer and getting the shots set up prior to shoot day. And especially when your camera’s out and you’re shooting, things go so fast that you just try to get through it. Then there was the time that one of our cameras failed, and that put us down for a significant amount of time … I learned a lot and I need to take these lessons with me.”

However, those would-be content producers and webmasters who don’t have access to a dual camera rig can still experiment with first-class 3D imagery on the cheap. The Fujifilm FinePix Real 3D W1, the first mass-produced digital stereo camera, went on sale in the in mid-October, with a list price under $600. The dual-lens camera, which produces twin 10-megapixel images, can shoot both digital 3D stills in “multiple picture format” (.MPO) and even 15-minute 3D movies in 3D-AVI format, all of which can be viewed immediately in 3D on the camera’s digital display screen, or downloaded to a computer for tweaking with Fuji’s own software (included) or Photoshop or other image manipulation software.

Bringing It Home

Several major TV and DVD player manufacturers, including Sony, Samsung and Panasonic (and even Technicolor), are hard at work trying to hammer out a workable 3D system for home viewing—and if there’s one problem no one wants to face in the current economic downturn, it’s another round of competing formats. Remember VHS versus Beta? Laserdisc versus DVD? Blu-ray versus HD DVD? Those competitions were very costly to all involved, and all created justifiable anger from consumers who opted for the “wrong” format choice.
“We’re all just waiting to find out where Blu-ray is going, because just last month [August], both Sony and Panasonic announced their plans, and my understanding is, they’re both kind of on the same track,” Everwood says. “Sony is the one that you have to look to for the Blu-ray. My understanding of what they’re planning to do is actually have the two [image] streams on the same disk, and they’re going to do some modification to their PS3 game console and to all their Blu-ray players so they can send out a dual stream, left and right, so their new Bravia monitor will interpret that properly. They’re using an active [sequential-field, or shutter] glasses system, and the Bravia monitor will show the full 1920p by 1080p for each eye, whereas with these other systems, they’re simple but you’re losing half of the horizontal resolution. So there are pros and cons on both sides. But all the major television manufacturers have announced they’re going to 3D. We know 3D is here; it’s not just a fad this time. It’s the next technology to happen at home.”

In addition to Sony’s Bravia, Panasonic has also unveiled a 50-inch HD plasma TV, to be launched sometime in 2010, that can handle both 2D and 3D images—but it’s the Blu-ray standard that will make the most impact on the consumer market. Panasonic submitted a proposal to the Blu-ray Disc Association last November that would create guidelines for companies and studios using “left/right-eye two-channel Full HD images” on HDTVs with Blu-ray, and once that standard is established, 3D-compatible TVs and monitors will be able to transform the signal into whichever viewable 3D image the hardware is designed to present: sequential field or various types of micropolarization. One advantage of Panasonic’s proposal is that it uses existing Blu-ray standards.
“All we have to do is define a flag to identify image data, equipment and other elements supporting 3D imagery,” says Hiroshi Miyai, Panasonic’s director of audio-visual development. “We really don’t need any other major changes.”

Surprisingly, there’s one entertainment platform where 3D is already established: video games.
“There are a lot of them out there,” Everwood says. “A little searching on the internet and you will find there’s a huge community of stereoscopic 3D gamers.”

But are they old enough to watch adult?

“I’d say most of them are,” he assesses. “They already have a PC; they already have the shutter glasses or whatever their system happens to be. Nvidia is the big proponent, so with the proper Nvidia graphics card, the stereoscopic driver [and] a piece of software called TriDef—which most of these guys are going to have already anyway; a lot of the time, it gets bundled with monitors—basically you put the disc in, you tell it that it’s a side-by-side format, and boom, there it is in 3D.”

“They’ve done the demographics on game usage, and it’s not the kids that are playing games; it’s 35-year-olds,” Arnold echoes. “We aren’t after the under-18 crowd, but that’s not really the gaming crowd. The gaming crowd is 18 to 35.”

And the inventors keep going back to the drawing board, coming up with newer and better equipment. I was privileged to receive this summer a demonstration of a new 3D presentation system developed by HDI, Ltd. The system uses a tri-laser micro-projection system that can present dual 1920p by 1080p images with colors so true it surpasses any projection system on the market today. The rear-projection system uses circularly polarized glasses similar to those used by RealD, with the entire unit no deeper than 10 percent of its screen’s diagonal. In other words, a 100-inch diagonal screen yields a unit just 10 inches in depth that draws just 200 in power, as compared to a 100-inch plasma screen that draws 1.5 kilowatts.

The unit will be available for mass production sometime in 2010, but due to the high cost of the lasers, it’ll debut at a costly $10,000, though depending on the volume of orders, the price could drop as low as $5,000. But venues with mini-theaters could easily install the unit and serve their customers what co-developer Ingemar Janssen calls a “truly remarkable 3D experience.”

Janssen and his partner spoke about “The Future of Television” at the Intel Developers Forum in late September. And when Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak saw the system, he reportedly said, “Without a doubt, this is the best demonstration of 3D technology I have ever seen.”

The Future’s So Bright, We’ve Gotta Wear Shades

I’ve been interested in 3D for almost as long as I’ve been reporting on the adult industry—and that span of time covers more than a couple of decades, shall we say. And at no time has there been more convergence between my two fields of interest.

The simple fact is, 3D is here to stay. It’s been part of the art of photography since the inception of the medium, and the technology is only getting better. With 3D, studios can present movies that allow porn lovers to feel as if they’re watching the action—even hardcore sexual action—through an open window rather than simply flat on a screen. In the ever-present race to attract viewers, what could be more compelling?

And given the added bonus that the material is impervious to video piracy, it just makes sense for forward-thinking video and web-based producers to start thinking about how to incorporate 3D in their own work. And now, on the crest of a new wave of 3D innovations, it’s time to bone up on 3D technology … or they may find themselves, within a year or two, left in the dust.

This article originally ran in the November issue of AVN.

Playboy Makes Jellinek Its Chief Content Officer

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CHICAGO — Inc. on Monday promoted Jimmy Jellinek to chief content officer.

Jellinek, who was a creative director at Heavy.com and led Maxim as editor-in-chief before tapped him as editorial director in October 2008, will oversee content development for all of ’s media properties, including print, online, mobile, , and radio.

The position reports to Hugh Hefner, Playboy’s founder, editor-in-chief and chief creative officer. Jellinek will be based in Chicago.

“Jimmy intuitively understands our 21st century culture,” Hefner said. “His creativity and ability to produce provocative content for Playboy magazine and make him an excellent choice to serve as chief content officer. “The inherent opportunities in his new position will complement all of Playboy’s divisions.”

Earlier this year, Playboy consolidated its print and online operations and redesigned Playboy.com, creating multi-platform opportunities around its content.

The company said that in the past year approximately 50 percent of the company’s advertisers bought both Playboy magazine and Playboy.com.

“Integration of Playboy content across media properties will create more opportunities for advertisers to reach viewers and readers,” Jellinek said.. “Working with Hef and our creative team, we can create a seamless, enhanced fusion between our media properties and maintain Playboy’s role as the source for unique lifestyle content.”

Jimmy Flynt Sr. Shouldn’t Testify at Court, LFP Attorneys Say

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LOS ANGELES — LFP attorneys have asked a judge to deny Flynt Media Corp.’s motion to include Jimmy Flynt Sr. as a material witness when the trial begins next week.

LFP attorneys say that by adding Jimmy Flynt Sr. to the defense’s witness list would be duplicative of testimony made in an October deposition and would constitute an undue consumption of time.

“On the eve of trial, defendants are moving to include a witness that is purported to offer ‘substantive’ testimony on the issues in this case,” LFP attorneys said in a motion last week. “However, since the defendants failed to list Jimmy Flynt Sr. in [court rules] disclosures, plaintiffs still do not know the scope or purpose of this testimony.

“Simply put, defendants are unjustifiably late in identifying Jimmy Flynt Sr. as a witness for the defendants’ case-in-chief.”

LFP attorneys further claim that none of Jimmy Flynt Jr.’s anticipated testimony is relevant to the case.

“Plaintiffs acknowledge that he was a long-time employee of LFP and its related companies, and that he developed one slogan utilized by the Hollywood chain of adult retail stores (the “Relax … It’s Just ” slogan),” LFP attorneys said.

“This anticipated testimony is not remotely relevant to the central issues in this trial — trademark infringement, unfair competition and a violation of Larry Flynt’s right of privacy/publicity.”

Larry Flynt and LFP Inc. are suing Jimmy II and Dustin Flynt over the use of Flynt Media Corp. name, claiming it is too similar to their own and that it is likely to cause confusion in the marketplace. LFP already has won a preliminary injunction against Flynt Media Corp.

So far, the judge in the case has made several key pretrial decisions, but he has not yet decided on Jimmy Flynt Sr. testifying at trial.

Judge Howard Matz last week ruled to preclude some testimony in the trial from Mark Mauceri, Bruce Isaacson and Paul Fishbein.

Matz also granted preclusion of references to insurance and past criminal history, as well as specific orders in the injunction against Flynt Media Corp.

The trial is slated for Dec. 8 and is expected to last five days, with each side limited to 10 hours of direct testimony.

Feed Frenzy: New Twitter Tech

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In our business, everybody’s got a niche. If porn customers want a site that gives them big-busted disabled Jewish lesbians, they’ll get it. (Did I just give you an idea? I want in for 10 percent, buddy!) The same goes for every normal, abnormal and subnormal fetish out there.

It turns out that the people who make have the same idea. Whoever you are and whatever you do on your feed, someone is out there trying to meet your needs.

Let’s say, for example, you want people to know where you are. Maybe you’re a porn star who wants to meet her fans at a trade show. Or you just want to find out where your friends vanished to during a pub crawl.

Sure, you can Twitter your location to all your fans, but what if you move a few booths away five minutes from now? As for your drunken friends, you can try to reach them on your cell, but they’re probably too blitzed to hear their phones ring.

Twitter is coming to the rescue. It’s introducing GPS-enabled tweets that will automatically tell your followers—the people who track your Twitter feed—where you are by latitude and longitude.

You can tell Twitter where you are now, but the system is a bit clunky. That will change, perhaps by the time you read this. Under the new system, you’ll simply turn a default “off”’ setting to “on” and your tweets will tell everyone your exact location.

This will do more than just tell people how to find you. At a trade show or a special porn-star event, you could set your cell phone to monitor the tweets of everybody in the building. It’s a great way to keep in touch with current—and potential—customers.

If you’re worried about privacy, that’s definitely something to be concerned about. Use this feature with caution if stalkers are part of your life.

(By the way, Pink Visual has found a unique use for GPS: It’s created a mobile app that allows people to pinpoint where they’ve had . This might be a challenge for those in the mile-high club, but I’m sure they’ll do their best to figure out a way to figure it out: Were we over Omaha or Kansas City when you blew me in the lavatory?)

There’s more new stuff for the hundreds of porn-industry big shots on Twitter. Let’s say, for example, you want to know whenever anybody tweets about you, your company or your product.

You could set up a search on the Twitter site or your Twitter reader program, but that’s a hassle. Instead, just go to TweetAlarm.com, where you can set up “alarms” to alert you whenever someone tweets about something you’re interested in.

Think of it as the Twitter version of “Google alerts.” (Google alerts, by the way, are alerts you can set up to let you know when certain words appear in news stories or blog posts. That’s also a handy way to track what people are saying about you.)

We’ve got even more Twitter tips. Sometimes you want to send a tweet out at a certain time, maybe to catch people when they get and are ready to spend some one-handed quality time with their computer and favorite porn site. Or maybe you want to reach your followers with details about your new video at a time when they might be free to watch it. Say 10 p.m. on a Friday night.

But you might not be near a computer yourself at that exact time. No problem! Just drop by FutureTweets.com, which allows you to schedule tweets at specific times, even months into the future.

Speaking of Fridays, that’s the day when Twitterers tell others about their favorite people to follow. It’s called “Follow Friday.”

There’s a better way. If you have a list of people you’d like to suggest that your followers follow—maybe your affiliates or porn stars you work with—go to Lunch.com and make a list of your favorite feeds. Then your followers can go there and easily follow them.

The idea of lists is so enticing that Twitter is experimenting with it directly and may have it in place for all users by the time you read this. It may be possible for you to click on someone else’s list—say of “Top Blonde Porn Stars to Follow”—and automatically follow all the feeds listed.

Be creative about this. What kind of lists can you create? If they’re unique and fun—“10 Top Shaved Porn Stars,” “5 Porn Stars Named Jennifer” or “12 Biggest Dicks in Porn”—you’ll give your own followers something to enjoy and tell their friends about.

Twitter can be a massive time-suck, but it’s also a great way to reach out to customers and fans. Just remember that a little bit of imagination will go a long way.

This article originally ran in the November issue of AVN.

Boston brewer pushes new limits on extreme beer

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BOSTON — It is banned in 13 states and sure doesn’t come in a six-pack.

The maker of Samuel Adams has released an updated version of its biennial Utopias — now the highest alcohol content on the market. At 27 percent alcohol by volume and $150 a bottle, the limited release of the brandy-colored Utopias comes as more brewers take advantage of improvements in science to boost potency and enhance taste.

“Just part of trying to push the envelope,” said Jim Koch, founder and owner of the Boston Beer Co. the maker of Sam Adams. “I’m pushing it beyond what the laws of these 13 states ever contemplated when they passed those laws decades ago.”

Since the 1990s, craft brewers like the Boston Beer Co. and the Delaware-based Dogfish Head have produced a number of “extreme beers” that challenge old notions of beer and the decades-old laws that have governed them.

By law, these specialty drinks still are classified as beer when they are based on fermented grain. And despite the hefty prices of the high-scale beer, brewers still have to pay the required nickel deposit on bottles.

Paul Gatza, director of the national Brewers Association based in Boulder, Colo., said new yeast allowed brewers to experiment with the emerging science that pushed the traditional cap of 14 percent alcohol by volume for beer.

“As a result, these new beers, like Utopias, balance sweetness, higher alcohol content and more ingredients,” Gatza said.

A few states also have moved to adapt their laws to allow for the emerging craft brew market. For example, Alabama and West Virginia recently passed laws to allow higher alcohol content in beer. Lawmakers in Iowa and Mississippi are considering similar legislation.

Gatza said consumers are also pushing for the changes.

That’s what sparked a brew battle between the Boston Brewing Co. and Dogfish Head.

In 1993, Koch set a new bar by creating Triple Bock, a beverage with 17.5 percent alcohol by volume. In the early 2000s, Dogfish Head responded with beverages of their own that went to 22 percent.

But the latest Utopias alcohol volume gives Koch and Boston Beer Co. the clear title of having the strongest beer, said Sam Calagione, president and founder of Dogfish Head. “I must bow before him for Utopias,” Calagione said. “I don’t think we’ll be brewing a beer that strong for a while.”

Utopias has reached its unique strength through a 15-year aging process in barrels at the Boston Beer Co.’s brewery in Boston. It’s aged and finished in wooden containers like Scotch whisky barrels and sherry casks. The drink’s yeast strains are regularly used in making malts and champagne.

A quick sip unveils a cognac-like hit combined with vanilla, honey, and maple flavors.

The long production cycle is what limits its availability to once every two years. This holiday season, for example, Koch is only releasing 10,000 bottles with the suggested retail price of $150 apiece.

“It’s like making 21-year-old Scotch,” Koch said. “Yeah, you can make more. You just can’t have it for 21 years.”

The drink comes in a ceramic-and-copper bottle that resembles a tiny brew kettle. Thirteen states prohibit its sale because its alcohol content exceeds the legal limit for beer: Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Idaho, Mississippi, Montana, New Hampshire, North Carolina, Ohio, South Carolina, Tennessee, Vermont and .

Chuck Hurley, CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving, said the group in general doesn’t have a problem with extreme brands of beer like Utopias. However, he hopes the beverage’s higher alcohol content is properly labeled and that it isn’t marketed to minors.

“Right now, we’re reserving judgment,” Hurley said.

Koch said the Boston Beer Co. is presenting Utopias as an exclusive beer for sophisticated drinkers that should be consumed like champagne. He said it’s not a beer for the weekend game or for a regular dinner.

He would not speculate whether he would try to get more extreme with future brews, but noted that no one ever thought there would be an “insane brewer” who would be making such a strong Utopias.

“We’ll see,” he said.

The Best and Worst Beers

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and wine both have a lot of magical effects on the body, both positive and negative. If you can limit yourself to one or two a day, then you can get the benefits without too many extra calories—if you choose wisely. Here’s a rundown of what, exactly, you’re really getting each time you reach for a cold one.

Beers are listed from worst to best based on calories and carbohydrate content—the two major nutritional factors at play when analyzing alcohol.

WORST: Sierra Bigfoot Ale
330 calories
32 grams carbohydrates
9.6 percent alcohol

If you’re serious about losing your gut, you should avoid this brew. While does shows that one to two drinks a day can be part of a smart eating plan, this beer packs two to three times more calories than a glass of wine (around 120 calories) or a bottle of light beer (about 100 calories). To make sure the rest of your drinking habits don’t sabotage your fat-fighting efforts, check out this list of the 30 Worst Drinks in America.

WORST: Leinenkugel’s Berry Weiss
207 calories
28 grams carbohydrates
4.7 percent alcohol

For a 12-ounce serving, this Wisconsin brew has calories and carbs up the Leinenkugel. Keep reading: You can find plenty of great-tasting beers that are, in fact, less filling.

WORST: Samuel Adams Winter Lager
200 calories
14 grams carbohydrates
5.8 percent alcohol

Drink two of these and you’ll be consuming the calorie-equivalent of a small meal—such as a McDouble burger from McDonald’s. Did you account for that in your diet?

WORST: Budweiser American Ale
182 calories
18 grams carbohydrates
5.3 percent alcohol

You may be as patriotic as the next guy, but if you’re trying to fight fat, pass on this American ale for one of Bud’s lighter options.

WORST: Redhook ESB
179 calories
14 grams carbohydrates
5.8 percent alcohol

If you’re hooked on this beer, make sure to stick with just one. After all, drink a couple of bottles while you split a Chili’s appetizer with a friend, and you could easily down 1,000 calories before halftime. Don’t believe it? See for yourself with this list of the 10 Worst Apps, Sides, and Starters.

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BEST: Miller Lite
96 calories
3 grams carbohydrates
4.2 percent alcohol

Every bar has Miller Lite on tap for a reason. When in doubt, here’s your order.

BEST: Amstel Light
95 calories
6 grams carbohydrates
3.5 percent alcohol

No frills here. Just a good beer that won’t fill you out.

BEST: Michelob Ultra
95 calories
3 grams carbohydrates
4.2 percent alcohol

Michelob was one of the first to market a “low-carb” beer. But here’s a secret: Almost all the low-calorie brews are relatively close in carb count. (Sam Adams Light and Yuengling Lager Light are the notable exceptions.) Just look at the label. Which is exactly what you should be doing for anything you eat and drink. But you can make it easy on yourself with this list of the 125 Healthiest Supermarket Foods.

BEST: Beck’s Premier Light
64 calories
4 grams carbohydrates
3.8 percent alcohol

Even though it’s one of the lowest calorie beers on the market, it has nearly as much alcohol as its competitors. So don’t forget that. Here’s why: University of scientists found that even just one or two alcoholic drinks can make you more likely to hone in on just one thing, which can impair your driving. For example, you may be so focused on going the correct speed that you’re more prone to miss bounding deer or braking cars.

BEST: MGD 64
64 calories
2 grams carbohydrates
2.8 percent alcohol

It’s right on the bottle: Only 64 calories. And it claims the No. 1 spot over Beck’s Premier Light because it’s a little lower in alcohol content. And that’s the politically correct choice, right?

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Get Her To Watch Porn

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and don’t always go together very well. Why is this? There are a few reasons: One of the foremost is that most male porn may not be a turn-on for many women because it’s so fake and not the kind of that a would perhaps aspire to (think jack-hammering men, huge slamming, jamming dildos, and loud fake-breasted women exaggerating the virtues and talents of their partner beyond what is obviously apparent).

This doesn’t turn her on, and it probably disappoints her that it turns you on. Is that the kind of sex you expect her to give you? Do you wish she looked like that? She likely feels a subconscious pressure to “perform” like a porn star, to look like a porn star, and to be as sexually talented and adventurous as one, too. It may come somewhere along the equivocal lines of “Is my dick big enough?”

The second prominent reason is that she may have been conditioned to view porn in a negative way due to other influences — religious beliefs, beliefs and personal values. She may not realize that the views she holds are actually other people’s, not her own, and this is an avenue for discussion. Sometimes, re-evaluating and finding the root of why she thinks and feels how she does reveals a lot. She may have been following other people’s rules for a very long time without realizing it (read: parents, siblings, school teachers, etc.).

In saying that, not everybody likes to watch porn, and no matter what you do, you can’t make them — it isn’t for everyone. However, there are some ways that you can introduce your femme fatale to the joys of adult movies to see if she may find some that she likes.
Discuss
First things first: Converse about sex on . You may find that she has an emotional response to it; she may find it disgusting or degrading to women. If she has a strong negative response, you will need to tread carefully and plot your course very thoughtfully. If she seems open to it, explore further.

Has she ever watched porn? Did she like it? Does she have a preference (i.e., lesbian, gay, straight, etc.)? You need to allow her the freedom to reveal her thoughts — she may quite enjoy watching men have sex with each other, and this may not sit very comfortably with you. Be prepared for what she has to say, as many women actually watching porn of all descriptions — perhaps just not the kind that you like.
Work out a strategy
If she was in favor of locking up everyone involved in the and beheading the perps in public, perhaps you shouldn’t bring it up again. If she was in favor of spending a night in and watching people doin’ it, please proceed and enjoy.

If her reaction was anywhere in the middle, she may need some convincing that not all porn is pathetic and disgusting. So figure out where she stands (by following the first tip), then work out a way to bring her around and get her to watch and enjoy porn as much as you do.
Choose movies to watch together
This may involve visiting a sex shop together, or investigating online. Note that online may have a much larger selection and you won’t have to venture into the triple-x zone in public. Choosing a couple of movies together means that you both get what you want, and it’s more fun. It’s doing something together, for each other, as opposed to you choosing a title such as Teen Cum Squad, which probably isn’t going to to a woman as much as it may to you. Be tactful and respectful. You’re using her gender as a sex object outright when you promote porn, so just don’t go overboard. There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying sexual adventure and erotic movies, but there is a fine line between sexy and sad. Just bear this in mind when choosing films for you and your partner.

Get her to watch porn without even asking her to..

Choosing movies means she can choose things that turn her on as well, and hopefully, this means she will enjoy them. Porn was never really meant to be serious, was it? Even if all you get out of it is a good laugh, it won’t be a waste.
Make it a regular thing
Every so often, choose a couple of movies together and have a night in. If you continue to let her play an integral role in the choosing of the movies, she will respond more favorably and not feel like she’s being led down the garden path.

To take this a step further, if she associates your special, secret night in with enhanced sexual expression and some all-important connecting time — perhaps buy a special bottle of wine (or three) and have an adventuresome sex date at — she’ll probably book you in every month.

This means your movie stash will grow as time goes by, and a good range of erotica will be viewed — she may even start to know what she likes and (hopefully) become much more enthusiastic about the whole process. It can be a special thing you do together, and will more than likely be loads of fun. And let’s face it: There is nothing better than having a wonderful time with your nearest and dearest — especially if you can get her to watch porn in the process.
What not to do
Do not, under any circumstances, force her to do or watch something she isn’t ready for. She will be put off forever. Some people — not only women — find porn very offensive, and this may mean that finds you offensive for liking it. That is why the discussion — totally hypothetical, of course, and feel free to use your good friend John’s friend-of-a-friend example — is so vitally important. No doubt you already know that porn is not most women’s favorite topic overall, so tread gently and don’t expect her to fall in love with Stacey V. or Jenna overnight — even though it is entirely possible that she might.

Don’t compare her unfavorably to the female leads, either. This does not include referencing, which you are most welcome to do, such as, “That looks like it would feel good, could you try that on me?” Or even better, “I bet you could do that way better than her.”

Keep your eyes and ears open for any signs she is not having such a good time, and be sensitive to this — try not to let your desire overcome your receptiveness to her feelings. If you seem like you’re having a great time, she may not want to be a wet blanket and ruin your fun. Women often hide their feelings in a bid not to appear prudish. This is not what it’s about — it is about both of you enjoying yourselves, not just you having an excuse to watch porn without getting into trouble.

Most importantly, don’t ever use porn as a substitute for intimacy with her. This is generally what annoys women the most about porn: Their men can spend literally hours in front of it, yet neglect the real woman who is right there in their life. If you think you have a problem with porn, get some help or you may end up with only your movies and magazine to keep you company.

Do not discuss your porn plans with your mates. Certainly, it may be brag-worthy, but keep it private — it’s much more “special” that way.
porn pro
If you are sensitive to her needs and desires, as always with women, you will get ahead in leaps and bounds. Treating her like a respected friend and lover will mean she has more reason to feel safe and be more adventurous with your suggestions — and her own. Honest, open about what you want and need out of your relationship and sex life goes a long way too. Keep it light and fun — porn is not supposed to be serious and solemn, it’s supposed to be sexy, one way or another.

Newly deployed Marines to target Taliban area

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to detail this week a plan with renewed focus on volatile Helmand

, – Days after President Obama outlines his new war strategy in a speech Tuesday, as many as 9,000 Marines will begin final preparations to deploy to southern and renew an assault on a stronghold that slowed this year amid a troop shortage and political pressure from the Afghan government, senior officials said.

The extra Marines will be the first to move into the country as part of Obama’s escalation of the eight-year-old war. They will double the size of the U.S. force in the southern province of Helmand and will provide a critical test for Afghan President Hamid Karzai’s struggling government and Gen. Stanley A. McChrystal’s counterinsurgency strategy.

“The first troops out of the door are going to be Marines,” Gen. James T. Conway, the Corps’ top officer, told fellow Marines in Afghanistan on Saturday. “We’ve been leaning forward in anticipation of a decision. And we’ve got some pretty stiff fighting coming.”
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The Marines will be quickly followed by about 1,000 U.S. trainers. They will deploy as early as February to speed the growth of the Afghan and police force, officials said.

Phased approach
The new forces will not start moving until Obama outlines his new strategy in a speech at the U.S. Military Academy at West Point, N.Y. The revised plan, which faces a war-weary and increasingly skeptical American public, is expected to call for 30,000 to 35,000 new troops in a phased deployment over the next 12 to 18 months.

The parceling-out of reinforcements is driven in part by Afghanistan’s lack of infrastructure, which cannot immediately support a larger U.S. force. The phased approach will also allow the president to cancel some of the additional reinforcements if the counterinsurgency strategy advocated by McChrystal, the top U.S. and commander in Afghanistan, does not show results or if the Karzai government does not meet goals for stamping out corruption and providing for the Afghan people, officials said.

The first place Obama will look for results is Helmand, a Taliban-dominated province that has been McChrystal’s primary focus for much of this year and has been the site of some of the bloodiest fighting. Earlier this year, about 10,000 Marines moved into the area and pushed Taliban fighters out of several major cities there. The Marines then began to rebuild the long-absent Afghan government and police forces in the area.

The U.S. offensive, however, did not dislodge the Taliban from such places as Marjeh, a city of about 50,000 people in central Helmand that remains a major center for the opium trade. After several months of fighting, senior Marine officials concluded that they did not have enough troops to expand into Marjeh and a handful of other Taliban havens while holding on to the gains they had made in the province.

“Where we have gone, goodness follows,” Conway said. “But the fact is that we are not as expansive as we would like to be, and those probable additional number of Marines are going to help to get there.”

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Critical sanctuaries
The Marines’ inability to push the Taliban out of these key sanctuaries led some Afghans in the area to doubt U.S. resolve. The Taliban has used its haven in Marjeh to produce roadside bombs and plan attacks on areas where Marines were trying to build the local government and police forces. This month, Taliban fighters from Marjeh killed three Afghan city council members in nearby Nawa, which Marines have held up as a major success story in the province.

“The two questions I get from Afghans are ‘When are you leaving?’ and ‘Why aren’t you going into Marjeh?’ because that is where the real enemy is,” said Brig. Gen. Larry Nicholson, senior Marine commander in the province.

Marine commanders have little doubt that the additional 9,000 troops moving into the province will push the Taliban out of its remaining sanctuaries in Helmand. But the gains will be transitory if U.S. forces do not build effective local police forces and foster a government that is relatively free of corruption and can provide for the Afghan people, U.S. officials said. “This will be a credibility test for the [Afghan] government to see if it can deliver,” said Rear Adm. Gregory Smith, a spokesman for McChrystal.

Already there is cause for concern. The Afghan government appears likely to commit only 60 percent of the troops that Marine and local Afghan commanders estimate that they need for the assault, a senior Marine official in Helmand said. That means more Marines will probably have to be posted in the city after the initial attack to ensure that the Taliban does not return.

“To have American Marines standing on a corner in a key village isn’t nearly as effective as having an Afghan policeman or Afghan soldier,” Conway said.
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Karzai intervened to halt an attack into Marjeh by U.S. Special Operations forces and Afghan troops this year after residents in the area complained of excessive civilian casualties, senior military officials said. The coming assault on the city will be a measure of Karzai’s willingness to buck allies with ties to the opium industry, these officials said.

Aggressive growth targets for Afghan forces
The other major area of concern is whether the Afghan government and the U.S. military can meet the aggressive new growth targets laid out for the Afghan army and police force in the Obama administration’s war strategy. “We have to increase recruiting. We have to increase retention, and we have to decrease attrition this year,” said Lt. Gen. William B. Caldwell IV, who leads the U.S. training effort in Kabul, Afghanistan’s capital.

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The administration’s new plans for the Afghan army and police, which will probably be a heavy focus of Tuesday’s speech, call for increasing the size of the army to about 134,000 troops by October, four years earlier than the initial goal of 2014. To meet that target, the Afghan Defense Ministry must bring in about 5,000 new recruits a month and dramatically cut attrition in battalions.

This month, the ministry missed its monthly recruiting goal by more than 2,000 troops.

Afghan soldiers and police officers were recently given a 40 percent pay increase, but it is too early to tell whether the extra will fix the recruiting problem, U.S. officials said.

“The extra pay literally brought us to parity with what the Taliban are offering,” a senior military official in Kabul said.

Senate report: Bin Laden was 'within our grasp'

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FILE – In this April 1998 file photo, exiled al Qaida leader Osama bin Laden is seen in Afghanistan. Osama bin Laden was unquestionably within reach of U.S. troops in the mountains of Tora Bora when leaders made the crucial and costly decision not to pursue the terrorist leader with massive force, a Senate report says. (AP Photo, file)

WASHINGTON—Osama bin Laden was unquestionably within reach of U.S. troops in the mountains of Tora Bora when American leaders made the crucial and costly decision not to pursue the terrorist leader with massive force, a Senate report says.

The report asserts that the failure to kill or capture bin Laden at his most vulnerable in December 2001 has had lasting consequences beyond the fate of one man. Bin Laden’s escape laid the foundation for ’s reinvigorated Afghan insurgency and inflamed the internal strife now endangering Pakistan, it says.

Staff members for the Senate Foreign Relations Committee’s Democratic majority prepared the report at the request of the chairman, Sen. John Kerry, as President Barack prepares to boost U.S. troops in Afghanistan.

The Massachusetts senator and 2004 Democratic presidential candidate has long argued the Bush administration missed a chance to get the al-Qaida leader and top deputies when they were holed up in the forbidding mountainous area of eastern Afghanistan only three months after the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks.

Although limited to a review of military operations eight years old, the report could also be read as a cautionary note for those resisting an increased troop presence there now.

More pointedly, it seeks to affix a measure of blame for the state of the war today on military leaders under former president George W. Bush, specifically Donald H. Rumsfeld as and his top military commander, Tommy Franks.

“Removing the al-Qaida leader from the battlefield eight years ago would not have eliminated the worldwide extremist threat,” the report says. “But the decisions that opened the door for his escape to Pakistan allowed bin Laden to emerge as a potent symbolic figure who continues to attract a steady flow of and inspire fanatics worldwide. The failure to finish the job represents a lost opportunity that forever altered the course of the conflict in Afghanistan and the future of international terrorism.”

The report states categorically that bin Laden was hiding in Tora Bora when the U.S. had the means to mount a rapid assault with several thousand troops at least. It says that a review of existing literature, unclassified government records and with central participants “removes any lingering doubts and makes it clear that Osama bin Laden was within our grasp at Tora Bora.”

On or about Dec. 16, 2001, bin Laden and bodyguards “walked unmolested out of Tora Bora and disappeared into Pakistan’s unregulated tribal area,” where he is still believed to be based, the report says.

Instead of a massive attack, fewer than 100 U.S. commandos, working with Afghan militias, tried to capitalize on air strikes and track down their prey.

“The vast array of American military power, from sniper teams to the most mobile divisions of the Marine Corps and the , was kept on the sidelines,” the report said.

At the time, Rumsfeld expressed concern that a large U.S. troop presence might fuel a backlash and he and some others said the evidence was not conclusive about bin Laden’s location.

WASHINGTON – Osama bin Laden was unquestionably within reach of U.S. troops in the mountains of Tora Bora when American military leaders made the crucial and costly decision not to pursue the terrorist leader with massive force, a Senate report says.

The report asserts that the failure to kill or capture bin Laden at his most vulnerable in December 2001 has had lasting consequences beyond the fate of one man. Bin Laden’s escape laid the foundation for today’s reinvigorated Afghan insurgency and inflamed the internal strife now endangering Pakistan, it says.

Staff members for the Senate Foreign Relations Committee’s Democratic majority prepared the report at the request of the chairman, Sen. John Kerry, as President Barack Obama prepares to boost U.S. troops in Afghanistan.
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The Massachusetts senator and 2004 Democratic presidential candidate has long argued the Bush administration missed a chance to get the al-Qaida leader and top deputies when they were holed up in the forbidding mountainous area of eastern Afghanistan only three months after the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks.

Aimed at foes of surge?
Although limited to a review of military operations eight years old, the report could also be read as a cautionary note for those resisting an increased troop presence there now.

More pointedly, it seeks to affix a measure of blame for the state of the war today on military leaders under former president George W. Bush, specifically Donald H. Rumsfeld as defense secretary and his top military commander, Tommy Franks.

“Removing the al-Qaida leader from the battlefield eight years ago would not have eliminated the worldwide extremist threat,” the report says. “But the decisions that opened the door for his escape to Pakistan allowed bin Laden to emerge as a potent symbolic figure who continues to attract a steady flow of money and inspire fanatics worldwide. The failure to finish the job represents a lost opportunity that forever altered the course of the conflict in Afghanistan and the future of international terrorism.”

The report states categorically that bin Laden was hiding in Tora Bora when the U.S. had the means to mount a rapid assault with several thousand troops at least. It says that a review of existing literature, unclassified government records and interviews with central participants “removes any lingering doubts and makes it clear that Osama bin Laden was within our grasp at Tora Bora.”

Fewer than 100 U.S. commandos
On or about Dec. 16, 2001, bin Laden and bodyguards “walked unmolested out of Tora Bora and disappeared into Pakistan’s unregulated tribal area,” where he is still believed to be based, the report says.

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Instead of a massive attack, fewer than 100 U.S. commandos, working with Afghan militias, tried to capitalize on air strikes and track down their prey.

“The vast array of American military power, from sniper teams to the most mobile divisions of the Marine Corps and the Army, was kept on the sidelines,” the report said.

At the time, Rumsfeld expressed concern that a large U.S. troop presence might fuel a backlash and he and some others said the evidence was not conclusive about bin Laden’s location.

The Player: Learning From Past Mistakes

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The is not beyond reproach or rejection. I won’t sit here and claim that every one of my techniques works for every guy out there. I’m not going to boast of the single highest success rate in recent history, and if I do enjoy good success in the realm of and it’s due to a dash of charm, a dollop of charisma and a whole lot of experience. In other words, there have been many conquests, but in order to scale those mountains one must experience some painful falls. The key is to learn from those falls; so, the next time you encounter a particularly tough cliff, you won’t slip and plummet to yet another embarrassing failure. By now, I am confident and secure enough to pass along some of my own mistakes for your benefit. Pay attention and your success rate just might equal mine someday.
Overuse the same technique
After coming off a series of successful weeks, I ran into this extremely cute girl at the bar who was clearly interested but also more cautious than the previous few cuties who had temporarily adorned my bedspread. Thinking I was on a roll and that all girls would respond to a certain amount of well-played confidence (even cockiness) and forward-thinking, I employed the same tactic with this new girl and came up empty-handed.

Solution: Always be fluid and adapt.
It’s one of the most common mistakes among pickup artists to believe that one particular style, approach or technique will work with all — or even the majority of — . There are two problems with this: Firstly, it lessens your creativity and inventiveness because you’re not experimenting enough with new ideas; secondly, it basically typecasts you. talk among themselves and you could gain a reputation very, very quickly. I always observe first and then settle upon a course of action.
Push too hard, too fast
While I’m usually good at targeting the girls who my style — those who can match me stride for stride in an early sprint — I once made the mistake of pushing too hard when I didn’t necessarily have the green light. I had the requisite attention and even interest, but she wasn’t prepared to shell out after the and I misread the situation and offered to bring her back to my place. She said, quite simply, that it was “too fast” and that was it. She didn’t call back.

Learning from past mistakes is essential if you want to become the ultimate Player… Solution: Go by her pace
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that a man really can’t dictate the pace before receiving the “go” signal. You may find a who’s clearly ready to get down and dirty with little in the way of wooing, but she had better have her tongue down your throat before you come to that conclusion. If she wants it, she’ll most certainly let you know; you can work toward that goal, but don’t make her feel uncomfortable. A Player is all about respect and even deference. So, early on, tread the sexual path she walks. Once you have that “go” signal, then you really can dictate the sexual pace and fulfill her every lustful desire.
Ignore her friends
Girls almost always travel in packs in the bars and nightclubs, and although it can be tough to carefully extract the one who has caught your attention, I’m usually effective. However, one night, this one dark-haired, curvy hottie with smoldering eyes caused me to forget my Player manners. While she did appear interested, I completely forgot about her friends. This girl clearly didn’t like the fact that her friends — who had remained — had received the cold shoulder. It was a no go.

Solution: Include the group at first
It can be intimidating, but you must introduce yourself to the group if it’s a closely knit set of friends at the club. Speak to each one individually just to say hi and only then can you proceed forward and pay the closest attention to your favorite. This is the respectful — and expected — way to go about doing this. The women will understand and appreciate the effort. Breaking into a set requires good feelings the whole way ‘round, regardless of the bewitching eyes of your chosen filly. It takes practice, but to this day nobody breaks a set of curvaceous lovelies like the Player.
the error in your player ways
We all have to man up and admit our mistakes every now and then. It not only keeps grounded and humble (often perceived as an appealing trait by the opposite sex), but it also allows to learn from past experiences. Experience means nothing if you’re ignoring the mistakes; this in particular has looked and learned and as a direct result, rarely makes errors in the field. Now where’s my Gold Glove?